For me, the answer is all of them.

Many women SAY they want a “nice” guy…but if you ask her how long she dated the last nice guy she met, she’ll usually say “3 or 4 dates…”

But ask how her how long she dated the last “jerk”, and she’ll often say years… or… “I’m still dating him now!”

Something about these guys leads women to do crazy things. I’ve seen women leave family, friends and careers behind to follow a “jerk” across the country… shutting out everyone who tells her to move on… even her closest friends.

It’s no secret – Jerks are like junk food to women… with “nice” guys being more like health food…

Women try to eat healthy… they want to eat healthy… but when they go to the store they end up leaving with the junk.

So what is it about these guys that makes women so crazy for them?

How do these guys draw women to them… get women to choose them over other guys who seem to be better for them… and make women so addicted to them… and be such dicks at the same time?

Well, here’s the good news:

It isn’t simply the fact that these guys are jerks that draws women their way…

It’s a combination of several important traits and behaviors… and the really good news is that you can learn them and use them to attract women like crazy yourself… without having to be a “jerk” to do it.

I get a lot of emails from guys who read my newsletter that say things like…

“I’m sure what you’re saying is right, but I don’t want to be a jerk or an a**hole to women…”

…or…

“I have seen what you’re talking about happen all my life, but I’m a ‘nice guy’ and I want women to like me for me…”

…and…

“This doesn’t make sense…”

For most of my life, I was the nice guy of nice guys. As a matter of fact, when I first made the decision to learn how to be successful with women, this actually created an obstacle for me.

Let me explain…

Because I believed that “being a nice guy” must be the way to success with women, I ACTUALLY COULDN’T EVEN PERCEIVE ANY OTHER WAY.

In other words, I could see a situation where a woman was attracted to a mean, abusive guy and think to myself that either she must be screwed up in the head, or THAT THE GUY MUST BE REALLY NICE TO HER THE REST OF THE TIME.

As you probably know, it’s hard to convince a person to believe something when they already have a belief about the topic. The person that you’re trying to convince just uses whatever you say to convince themselves that they’re actually right…and you’re wrong.

I did the exact same thing.

No matter how much evidence I found to the contrary, I still somehow believed that being a “nice” guy, buying women flowers and gifts, taking them out, and generally letting them be in control of the relationship HAD to be the way to attract them.

Well, after continuing along the same path and getting the same results, I realized something that literally changed everything for me.

I realized that jerks  do, in fact, attract hot women.

Selfish behavior, as unhealthy as this might sound, often makes women feel attracted to you.

Sarcasm, ball busting, playing hard to get and all kinds of other “illogical” things really do work when it comes to attracting women.

But, then I had a dilemma…

I love the idea of being successful with women but, I hate the idea of mistreating people, being mean to them, lying and being misleading, etc.

Deep down, I wanted to be a good guy.

I decided that there must be a way to make this work, and to attract women without being abusive.

The good news is that there is a way.

But, it requires that you put aside your current ideas for just long enough to entertain some new ones.

First, let me say that I believe I’ve found a way to take the things that jerks do to attract women and use them without the abuse. When you learn to do this, you can really have the best of both worlds… you can be nice to women on your own terms, and give them what they really want, and what really attracts them.

So, WHY DO WOMEN BECOME ATTRACTED TO JERKS?

The short answer is that they don’t CHOOSE it, it’s something that just happens.

ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE.

It’s an emotional response to certain things.

Women don’t choose to feel the emotion called attraction for jerks any more than you choose to feel the emotion called attraction for young, beautiful, hard bodied women.

Nature has preprogrammed men with a mechanism that works like this:

SEE HOT WOMEN —> FEEL ATTRACTION

Well, women have a similar mechanism. But I think that the female version is more complex.

Yes, women do feel attraction for extremely handsome men… but they feel a MUCH STRONGER ATTRACTION for certain PERSONALITY TRAITS and BEHAVIORS than they do for physical looks alone.

So, again the short answer is that it’s just something that “happens” inside of a women. She doesn’t “choose” it.

So, what is it about the “jerk” that creates this powerful, uncontrollable attraction inside of women?

Let me answer first by telling you what it’s not:

It’s not the abuse (not usually anyway). I don’t believe that women are attracted to that abusive, mean, negative part of the “jerk personality”.

I think that jerks just happen to also possess several attractive qualities that are so powerful that that they literally make women blind to the abuse… women will rationalize and excuse the abusive behavior because they are so attracted to these other qualities.

Here’s a partial list of what creates that attraction:

- Unpredictable

- Uncontrollable

- Challenging

- Dominant

Of course, there are many more, but this will get us started for this discussion.

The qualities I’ve listed above, when presented correctly, trigger the natural “attraction mechanism” inside of women.

Jerks have taken natural qualities that are attractive to women a little “too far”.

But because they’re still there, the qualities trigger the attraction anyway.

So, what does this mean to you?

Well, the most important thing is that it means you can still be a good guy and attract women at the same time.

You’re probably going to have to learn how to flirt in a different way, become a little more comfortable being challenging to women, etc. But, in the end, you’ll find that this will get you what you want and still allow you to treat women well… all on your own terms.

It also means that instead of being the guy who women talk to about their relationship problems and how their mean jerk boyfriend is being abusive again… you can be the guy who they’re dating and sleeping with!

Yes!

Even though “jerks” and “bad boys” don’t treat women well, doesn’t mean that women don’t feel attraction for them.

In fact, women often report feeling incredibly attracted to these kinds of men… so powerfully, in fact, that they can’t control these feelings…

As I was learning these interesting and “counter intuitive” lessons, I also began documenting the specific things that the guys who were “naturals” with women did…in order to attract women.

One of my biggest realizations was that literally any guy can attract women… if he just understands how attraction works.

And any guy can use the secrets that “jerks” and “bad boys” have discovered and used… without being abusive or mean.

In fact, if you leave out the meanness or abuse, a woman will be far more likely to stay around.

Now, I’d like you to take time to think about what I’ve said here in this newsletter.

Think about how you can cultivate the qualities that I’ve mentioned above into your personality.

See if you can be a little less predictable.

Don’t let outside events or women control you.

Be more of a challenge.

Stop being submissive… and get in touch with that side of you that is more dominant (I said “dominant”, not “domineering”).

This will give you a great head start.

Alright now. If you haven’t downloaded your copy of my eBook, then get to it…

You’ll learn more in a few hours of studying my materials than most guys will learn in their whole lives about how to attract women.

It comes with an “offer you can’t refuse” and I’m serious…

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If you’re not thrilled and you don’t meet more women, you don’t have to pay a dime.

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I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

If you recall, one of the concepts that I teach goes something like this:

* ATTRACTION isn’t something that is logically chosen.

* ATTRACTION is basically an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to certain cues and behaviors.

One of the things I’ve isolated that seems to cause women to feel this magical ATTRACTION to men is the idea that I call being “Cocky & Funny.”

This is simply using an arrogant style of humor when you’re dealing with attractive women that leads to them feeling the emotion of ATTRACTION for you.

At the seminars I teach, I realized that several of the guys were having trouble getting the idea that a woman could feel an emotion like ATTRACTION in response to something as seemingly unrelated as making arrogant jokes (especially about her) and making her laugh.

I mean, how COULD this possibly work?

I thought I’d take this newsletter and talk a bit about why I think that something so illogical could help you to create ATTRACTION, and some specifics about how to do it.

FIRST THE “WHY”…

Remember, women feel ATTRACTION for a very different set of reasons than men do.

Where men focus more on LOOKS, women focus more on PERSONALITY, SELF ESTEEM, POWER, and several other more “intangible” qualities.

Women also love men who can make them laugh.

And by watching a lot of guys who are VERY good at attracting women, I’ve noticed a common pattern.

Most of these guys use a common way of communicating with women that communicates the above qualities WITHOUT ACTUALLY HAVING TO SAY THAT THEY HAVE THEM.

I call this way of communicating “Cocky & Funny,” and it’s one of the cornerstones of attracting women.

I believe that when a man is Cocky & Funny, he triggers a primal response inside of a woman that creates an instant emotional ATTRACTION.

This is because women come “pre-wired” with an internal template of what comprises a desirable mate, and a set of emotional trigger buttons that, when pushed, create that powerful emotional response called ATTRACTION that compels her to mate with the man who triggers it.

Most men have no idea that this mechanism exists or how to trigger it, so they do traditional “nice guy” things like buying dinners, gifts, and flowers… and giving women compliments… and calling them all the time (which usually have the OPPOSITE of the desired effect when used too much, and too early on).

As I got to know more and more guys who were REALLY GOOD with women, I started to see that they weren’t afraid to make fun of attractive women, bust on them, and even challenge them… but it was always done in a VERY FUNNY, even charming way.

At first I just assumed that it was the fact that this pattern was just a technique that my friends were using to make conversation.

Only after really paying attention, trying out this technique myself quite a bit, and LOOKING CLOSELY AT THE ACTUAL RESPONSES I WAS GETTING did I begin to realize the UNBELIEVABLY POWERFUL EMOTIONAL RESPONSES  that this one concept was generating.

And after working on it, testing it, refining it, and studying the finer points about women, men, and the whole “mating process” did I begin to really understand how well this worked.

Here’s the basic formula:

1. Take an arrogant comment.

2. Add humor to make it funny.

3. Feel free to use this combination when poking fun at the woman you’re dealing with.

Here’s a simple example:

Let’s say you’re walking down the street with a woman and she says, “Wow, I really like those shoes in the window” and you answer, “You would”.

Here’s another one:

Let’s say you’re talking to a woman who’s wearing a pair of shoes with four inch heels, and you say, “So what, are you about four feet tall without the shoes?”

Get it?

You’re saying things that are FUNNY while at the same time A BIT ARROGANT.

An added bonus that these two examples demonstrate is that neither one is quite clear.

It’s obvious that you’re making fun of her, but it’s not exactly clear what you mean.

When you communicate like this, you communicate:

1. That you’re confident.

2. That you’re comfortable.

3. That you’re intelligent.

4. That you’re funny.

…which, of course, are all qualities that lead to a woman feeling ATTRACTION.

Of course, most men wouldn’t even THINK about saying things like this to a woman that they find attractive because they fear REJECTION.

Most men would also say that I must be CRAZY for thinking that these kinds of comments would trigger an EMOTIONAL response of ATTRACTION inside of a woman.

I can understand this because when I first saw guys being Cocky & Funny with women, I PERSONALLY couldn’t believe that it was what was creating the ATTRACTION.

But the fact is that IT DOES CREATE ATTRACTION.

And as illogical as it seems, if you learn how to cultivate the skill of being Cocky & Funny, you’ll notice an AMAZING difference in the way that women respond to you.

You’ll find that the more you refine and perfect the technique, the more women will want to talk to you, be around you, and feel the uncontrollable urges associated with ATTRACTION.

So here’s the formula again: When you’re in a situation with a woman, say things that are both Cocky & Funny.

Let’s say you’re talking to a woman, and she says, “Here, let me buy this round of drinks.”

You might respond by saying, “Look, don’t think that just because you buy me a drink that I’m going to go home with you. I’m not that easy….”

Or maybe she mentions that she just started working as a waitress… and you say, “Well, that’s a deal breaker for me, because I need a woman who makes enough to support the both of us so I can pursue my life-long goal of being a house husband.”

Are you with me?

These are all FUNNY and at the same time ARROGANT.

One of the exercises that I recommend is to take some time and come up with a whole bunch of Cocky & Funny comments that YOU can use in the most common “real world” situations you find yourself meeting women in… and then mentally rehearse them so you have them ready in your mind to use.

When you use this magical way of communicating with women, you’ll find that it often sparks an INSTANT sexual tension, and sets up a perfect interaction between you and the woman you’re talking to.

It creates a wonderful, entertaining CHALLENGE that women just LOVE to engage in…

It not only sets you apart from other men, but as I mentioned, it also triggers that wonderful emotion called ATTRACTION at the same time.

Double Bonus!

Of course, this is one part of a much bigger picture of how to use your personality to create sexual tension and ATTRACTION from the VERY BEGINNING of your interactions with women.

And if you’re reading this right now and you haven’t taken the time to download my online eBook, then you need to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it and be reading it within a few minutes. Go get it here:

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I’ll talk to you soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

And I thought it might be helpful to take you “behind the scenes”, and show you what it’s like for a woman when she’s “looking” for a man.

OK, to start with, I have something important to tell you:

WOMEN ARE CRAZY.

I know, profound.

You can write me later and tell me how this new revelation has changed your life.

But please calm down, collect yourself, and let me explain.

Why do I say that women are “crazy”?

Well, BECAUSE THEY ARE, first of all. lol…

No, it’s because women do something that SEEMS crazy (especially if you’re a man).

Women like to SAY ONE THING, but when the time comes around to actually ACT, they do something TOTALLY DIFFERENT.

I could go into an essay on why this is, but for the purposes of this discussion, the most important reason has to do with EMOTIONS.

Women tend to SAY what they THINK when they’re asked a question.

But they tend to ACT on their EMOTIONS when an actual SITUATION presents itself.

Here’s an example:

You meet a woman, and get her number. You call her up. She agrees to meet you the next day for a cup of coffee. The next day comes around, and she doesn’t show up. You call her. Something came up, and she just couldn’t make it.

Ever been there?

What happened? (And doesn’t it piss you off when women ALWAYS seem to do this? Me too.)

Well, what HAPPENED is when you were talking to her on the phone, coffee the next day sounded fine.

But when the next day showed up, something else that was more interesting came up, and she didn’t FEEL like meeting you anymore.

Or maybe she just decided that she DIDN’T FEEL like meeting you when she woke up the next day.

Whatever.

But it PROBABLY had something to do with her not FEELING the same way anymore.

Now, if you’re a man, you hear something like this and say “She lied. She said she would be there, and she didn’t show up. She’s a liar.”

Or you say “Women who do this lack integrity.”

Or even “Women are FLAKY!”

Of course, ALL OF THESE ARE TRUE!

lol… no, no, no. Just kidding. Well, I’m not kidding 100%, but I’m kidding.

The point that I’m trying to make here is that when a woman says one thing, then does another, she sees that as being perfectly OK, because she’s “just following her feelings”.

But from a MAN’S point of view, if a woman says one thing, then does another, she’s either a liar, being flaky, or doesn’t have integrity.

Here’s the point:

Women aren’t going to change “how they feel” about this topic anytime soon.

So us guys are basically left with two main options in a situation like this one:

1) Keep banging our heads against the wall and expecting women to change, and start showing up when they say they will.

2) Learn how to make women FEEL like they want to actually show up for the meeting, so when they wake up the next day, they SHOW UP.

Get it?

Good.

Now let’s talk about the REAL topic of this newsletter… WHAT WOMEN LOOK FOR IN A MAN.

Of course, in my usual style, I’m going to put an interesting twist on this concept.

I’m going to argue that women will SAY that they “look for” one thing, but they actually RESPOND to something completely different.

All guys know that women seem to be “naturally” attracted to things like fame, wealth, Brad- Pitt- handsomeness, height, etc.

But I’ve now realized something that is actually pretty profound when you REALLY get it.

I now believe that women DON’T KNOW what they are ACTUALLY responding to.

In other words, these things like money and fame trigger EMOTIONS inside of women.

And if you’re NOT rich or famous or naturally handsome, you can get the same kinds of responses from women if you learn how to TRIGGER THE SAME EMOTIONS.

So, in the end, what women are REALLY “looking for” is a man who triggers their ATTRACTION.

Of course, a woman will never SAY this to you.

If you ask a woman what she’s looking for, she’ll say “I’m looking for a nice, honest guy who is successful and cute”.

But if she actually MEETS this guy, and he just happens to be a WUSSY who acts needy and clingy, then she’s NOT going to be into him.

In this case, she won’t respond to the guy that she’s “looking for” by being attracted to him. And it won’t work out.

On the other hand, if this same woman meets a guy who ISN’T what she “thinks” that she’s “looking for”, but he triggers her ATTRACTION EMOTION, then it’s all over.

It DOESN’T MATTER if he’s rich or handsome, because he’s done something that TRUMPS these things.

It has taken me a long time to actually get to the point where I BELIEVE this at a deep level. And the REASON I believe it is because I’ve never been the type of guy that women “approach”.

I have friends that are tall and handsome… and when we go out, women start conversations with them.

Before I learned what I know now, women never felt that powerful, GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for me that they do for my taller, handsome friends.

But NOW, now that I know how to use my body language and other communication to trigger the EMOTIONS in a woman, it’s COMPLETELY different.

I get responses from women that I actually considered IMPOSSIBLE before.

And it’s not because I grew 5 inches or became more handsome.

It’s because I KNOW SOMETHING that most guys just don’t know.

As you’ve read in these newsletters, there are certain techniques, like being Cocky & Funny, teasing women, never acting like a Wussy, etc. that will help you be successful as well.

Use them. Use what you learn.

There’s a BIG difference between what women are “looking for” and what they RESPOND TO. Don’t let anyone tell you any different.

AND, if you’re reading this right now, and you’re saying to yourself “OK, it’s time that I stopped wasting time screwing around, and I GOT MY BUTT IN GEAR and learned how to meet women”, then you need to do yourself a HUGE favor.

You need to TAKE ACTION, and get yourself a copy of my Double Your Dating ebook.

It’s the introduction to all of my concepts, and it’s the perfect primer to get you ready for my Advanced Dating Techniques program. Details and free samples are here:

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And I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

If you are a “nice guy” who never seems to be able to attract HOT women, or you have attractive female friends who always seem to say, “He’s really wonderful, but I just like him as a FRIEND”, then this could possibly be the single most important thing you ever read in your entire life.

And I’m not kidding… not even a little.

If I had to sum up the biggest mistake that I see men making with women (and the big mistake that I’ve made myself too many times to count), it’s being a WUSSY.

Being a WUSS comes in two main flavors:

1) Acting like a WUSSY to begin with.

2) Turning INTO a WUSSY as you get to know her.

I would venture to guess that most men either act like WUSSIES with women they’re attracted to ALL the time, or they turn into WUSSIES within a few weeks or months of meeting a woman that they REALLY like.

I know, this sounds a little strange, right?

What the heck should being a Wuss have to do with attracting women?

The answer: EVERYTHING.

Let’s review a few of the most important concepts to remember when it comes to attracting women:

1) ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE. As humans, we don’t “consciously choose” who we FEEL attracted to. It just “happens” to us… BANG! And you can’t “convince” someone to FEEL this powerful emotion.

2) ATTRACTION DOESN’T MAKE SENSE. When you think about the concept of being emotionally attracted to another person, it only “makes sense” that you should feel attracted to good qualities like “niceness” and “honesty” and “loyalty”, right? Well guess what… ATTRACTION doesn’t play by those rules.

The things that we are ATTRACTED to don’t make “logical sense” when you look at them. We all know that attractive women seem to date a lot of abusive jerks… and that men often stay in relationships with unhappy, domineering women. For ATTRACTION to make “logical sense”, you must learn how it works, and get a deeper understanding of what triggers it.

3) STATUS is very important when it comes to ATTRACTION. Women are almost NEVER attracted to men of “lower status” than themselves. This is why certain stereotypes exist, such as women not liking shorter men, and women who make a lot of money being intimidating to men.

4) ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HAVE A LOT OF CHOICES. Most men have never even taken a minute of their lives to consider what it must be like to be an attractive woman. Attractive women are approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME by men who are interested in them.

For an attractive woman, every smile, every kind gesture, and every favor is in one way or another viewed as INTEREST. An attractive woman is approached in one way or another MANY times a day. It would be impossible for an attractive woman to give even a small fraction of her time to each of the men who shows interest in her.

5) MEN ARE SOOOOO UNORIGINAL. Just as most men have never given a thought to how it must feel and what it must be like to be an attractive woman, most men have never given a thought to the fact that MEN ARE PREDICTABLE BEYOND BELIEF… from an attractive woman’s point of view.

The comment or compliment that you think is so original, or the invitation to a date… or the question about her having a boyfriend… or the comment that “her boyfriend is a lucky man”… is so UNORIGINAL, PREDICTABLE… AND WORST OF ALL, BORING to an attractive woman. She gets this stuff 100 times a day! And men who are unoriginal do NOT stand out from the crowd.

6) ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HAVE WUSS-DAR! There are a few simple, unmistakable signals that men give off that say, “Hey, I’m just another WUSS, so don’t pay attention to anything else I do, because I’ll always be one”… which, of course, makes women RUN.

(As a side note, attractive women also have NON-WUSS-DAR as well. In other words, from a few simple clues, an attractive woman can quickly know if she is dealing with a man who is NOT a Wuss, and who, therefore, will be one of the few who are allowed the time and consideration for romantic interactions.)

Soooo, what is it about being a WUSS that is the big problem here?

Why is it that of all things in the world, this is the “big sin” when it comes to attracting women?

It’s taken me several years now to really figure this out, and it’s not exactly simple to explain

But, I’ll sum it up and say this:

WOMEN COME “PRE-PROGRAMMED” WITH A MENTAL IMAGE OF THE KIND OF MAN THAT THEY SHOULD FEEL ATTRACTION FOR. THIS PROGRAMMING IS BOTH GENETIC AND CULTURAL. WHEN A WOMAN MEETS THIS MAN, THINGS HAPPEN ON THEIR OWN… INSTANTLY.

Now, I personally believe that MOST of this programming is genetic. In other words, women are BORN with it.

Attraction isn’t like other things that “seem” like they should be similar.

If you want to make friends with someone, you should be nice, do them favors, be courteous, and generally act like you’re making an effort.

But, when you try to take this kind of thinking and apply it to ATTRACTION (which almost all men do), then you find yourself doing things that SHOULD work… but they don’t.

ATTRACTION is very “counter intuitive” (damn, I love it when I use big words)… which means that it’s not the way it “should” be. It’s different than it seems at first glance. It’s deceptive in a way because unless you “get” how it works, you’ll just keep beating your head up against the wall doing things that don’t work, “trying harder” when these things fail, and actually making things WORSE as a result of not understanding it.

Have you ever met a woman and given her a compliment, only to have her walk away and show no interest?

Or pursued a woman with gifts, favors, and dinners, only to have her be “confused” and need “time alone”… which eventually led to her wanting to “just be friends”?

Have you ever had an attractive female friend who liked to date abusive jerks… and then tell YOU about the abuse she was putting up with… all the while you would have done ANYTHING for a chance to be with her?

Yeah, me too.

That’s what I mean it when I say that you can actually make things WORSE by TRYING HARDER when you don’t “get” how attraction works.

If I had to sum it all up, and describe the one HUGE mistake that men make with women… the one that causes the most pain and prevents the most success, I’d have to say that it was…

BEING A WUSSY, OR TURNING INTO ONE.

For a lot of reasons, a WUSSY just doesn’t make for an interesting, romantic counterpart. Women will SETTLE for a Wuss, or even SETTLE DOWN with one (usually after the Wuss has demonstrated his TOTAL lack of self-respect, and his COMPLETE willingness to put aside all of his own needs for a woman).

Unfortunately, this often ends with the woman cheating on the Wuss, leaving him for someone else, taking everything from him (including his self esteem) etc…

I digress…

The point is, a WUSSY doesn’t trigger ATTRACTION.

Wussies are BORING. They’re needy. They lack ENERGY, act CLINGY, and make women feel TRAPPED and repulsed.

Everything about the WUSS spells “DON’T PICK ME”.

Now, the first thing most guys say when they hear this news is, “But I don’t want to be a JERK to women” or “I like the idea of being NICE” or “I’m just being MYSELF with women… what’s wrong with that?”.

I can identify.

I get it.

I spent many years of my life thinking these kinds of things.

Well, the good news is that you don’t need to be a “jerk” or treat women badly to attract them. lol…

You just need to:

1) Abandon your Wussy Ways.

2) Learn how ATTRACTION works.

3) Change how you look at relationships.

4) Learn the specific things that you need to do in each situation to meet women and make them feel that wonderful, powerful, magical, elusive emotion called ATTRACTION.

5) Never “slip”, or allow yourself to start behaving like a WUSSY as you get to know a woman.

Doesn’t sound too hard, right?

Good…

I’d like to get you started with some homework.

You have an assignment for the week.

Here it is:

1) Stop being “nice” to attractive women. This means no asking women out, no giving them lots of compliments, no putting your needs aside, no accepting manipulative behavior to please women, and no giving women special treatment or privileges just because they’re attractive. NOTE: I did NOT say to treat women BADLY. I’m just telling you to stop doing all the FAKE things you’re doing just to make women like you.

2) Stop handing women your, um, testosterone making devices on a silver platter. In other words, stop giving away your power to women. Do not communicate in ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM that you will put aside your own self respect in order to get a woman’s approval.

3) Say the word “NO” to a request from an attractive woman at least once every single day. Do NOT do this in an angry, mean, or abusive way. Just simply say, “no”. (By the way, it’s OK to say “no” in a serious tone, then DO the thing she requested after making her sweat a little. This is using sarcasm and humor, and if it’s done right it will earn you big points).

4) Pay close attention as you do these things, and notice how attractive women will seem MORE comfortable being around you, and want to spend MORE time with you… all because you’re not acting needy, clingy, and WUSS-LIKE.

And if you haven’t had a chance to download your copy of my online eBook Double Your Dating, then you need to do that IMMEDIATELY. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now.

It’s here:

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And I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

The idea is simple: We humans don’t want what everyone else has… we want what everyone else has AND MORE. In the context of women and dating, it goes like this:

WOMEN AREN’T ATTRACTED TO GUYS THEY PERCEIVE AS AVERAGE.

Remember, ATTRACTION doesn’t make logical sense… Women don’t say, “Oh, he’s a kind, honest, loyal type of guy from a good family… AND THAT REALLY TURNS ME ON.”

Nope.

Women say things like:

“He’s sexy”… “There’s chemistry between us”… “I really feel something for him”… etc.

And also remember: If a woman feels a strong ATTRACTION for you, then the rest of the equation isn’t as important. If she feels it, she’ll go out of her way to find good reasons to be with you… even if you’re not her “physical type”.

On the other hand, no amount of gifts, favors, dinners, kindness, or a good family will make her feel ATTRACTION… at best these things can only make her feel a more “loyal” kind of love.

So, if women don’t like “average” guys and the most important thing is to make her feel ATTRACTION towards you, then how do you do it?

I thought you’d never ask…

Let’s talk about the word “average” and what it REALLY means.

As far as women are concerned, and especially the ATTRACTIVE ones, men are EVERYWHERE. They’re like cars. Every once in awhile one stands out and makes you say, “Oh, that one is nice.”

A lot of guys take this concept too far and say “Well, I’m not rich, and I’m not famous… so, no really hot woman is going to find me attractive.”

My experience and research has shown me that women are far more ATTRACTED to things like attitude, confidence, body language, humor, etc. than looks or money. Sure, those things might INITIALLY get a woman’s attention, and there are those women that will only settle for a rich or unusually handsome guy… but, this is the extreme minority.

In fact, it’s very easy to be seen as “above average” if you know what women are looking for, and you know how to deliver.

Remember the danger: If you are perceived as “average” early on, then a switch goes off in her mind, and the game will be over before it’s even begun.

So, let’s do a little exercise…

Let’s figure out two things:

1) What most guys do that women see as “average”, and…

2) What you can do to instantly be seen as “ABOVE average” and, most importantly, ATTRACTIVE.

First, let’s talk about what most guys do in most situations (more specifically, what most guys do WRONG). Here are some of the things that I’ve seen…

If the setting is a bar or a club, most guys will either say, “Can I buy you a drink?”, “Wanna dance?”, or “Hey baby, how YOU doin’?”… or they do crass things like stare at women with wanting eyes or grab them as they walk by.

If the setting is a public place, like maybe a woman working at a clothing store, a waitress, or some other similar high-traffic situation, most guys will ask a lame question like “Do you have a boyfriend?” or “Can I take you out sometime?”

Ugh.

These kinds of approaches can only result in you being seen as another lame, average guy.

Here are a few ideas to try instead…

If you’re in a bar or club setting, try asking a woman or a group of women THEIR OPINION on something. I personally like this one:

“Hey, my friends and I were talking and we need a female perspective… What do you ladies think about this new trend of women being proud of paying their own way and buying their own things?”

Women will usually ENTHUSIASTICALLY join into a conversation like this one. (I personally like this topic because it starts off by talking about women taking care of themselves in a positive light, which sets the stage for not having to pay for a lot of things right up front!)

If you’re out in a public place, at a store where a woman is working or some other high-traffic place, you might try something like this:

After chatting about whatever business you’re doing there say, “Hey, are you single?”

I love this question! It’s such a shocker, and it says all the right things. Most guys say, “Do you have a boyfriend?” which is the usual question. “Are you single?” is much more forward, and most women have to do a double take to think for a moment.

If she pauses, I say, “I’ll take that as a YES…”, which is pretty funny and usually gets a laugh.

In either of these cases, it’s now time to get the digits and get out. You already know that I’m not a fan of standing around and trying to keep a conversation going for any longer than you have to.

So, after two or three minutes of small talk and general conversation, just go into the “3 Minute Phone Number” close that you’ve learned in an earlier newsletter or in my book…

Say, “It was nice talking to you, I’m going to get back to my friends… (or shopping, or whatever)” and as you turn away, turn back and say “Do you have email…?” etc.

These two scenarios are obviously very simple, and also very easy. I’ve had guys say to me, “Well, there’s nothing really that different about those approaches.”

Ah, but there is.

The most important difference is that you’re doing something COMPLETELY different than the other 47 guys who have approached her that day… and you also know EXACTLY what you’re going to do and say as the conversation progresses.

Of course, another thing you can do that will INSTANTLY separate you from the rest of the crowd is to use the idea of being Cocky & Funny, which I teach in my eBook  Double Your Dating.

This very unique approach has helped many of my thousands of readers to dramatically increase their success with women… and to no longer be seen as AVERAGE by women.

If you haven’t learned how to use the almost MAGICAL formula of being Cocky & Funny, or any of the literally hundreds of other techniques I teach, then you really need to get yourself a copy of my online eBook.

These two tools will DRAMATICALLY increase your success with women and dating.

You can download my online eBook here right now:

Double Your Dating

So go out this week, and DON’T BE AVERAGE ANY MORE.

Talk to you soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Most men don’t know the FIRST THING about how to take things to a “physical” level with a woman.

Here’s why:

Let’s say you’ve been out on a date with a woman, and you’re now back at your place, having an enjoyable conversation.

You look over at her.

She looks back at you.

You want to kiss her.

She KNOWS that you want to kiss her.

You know that she is the one with all the power.

If you try to kiss her, and she pulls away, she might reject you forever.

If you DON’T try to kiss her, maybe it will happen later, or maybe she’ll even kiss you…

The risk of being rejected FOREVER is so powerful and creates such fear that you decide to just “walk away” from the situation and hope something happens later.

Or, let’s say that you’ve been out with a woman a few times, and you have just kissed her for the first time.

You know that she’s enjoying it.

She knows that you want her.

You’d REALLY like to do more, but you’re afraid that if you try, you’ll be seen as “moving too fast”, or even worse… a “pushy pervert”.

You hate the idea of being rejected after you’ve invested all that time and come so far…

So you decide to stop and hope that maybe things will “heat back up” later.

WE’VE ALL BEEN THERE

If you really stop and think about it, the reason why you run into problems in situations like these is that:

1) You don’t understand exactly what turns women on.

2) You are afraid of rejection.

3) You don’t know what SHE’S thinking, so you hesitate.

I honestly believe that most men CAUSE their own problems and resistance when it comes to “getting physical” with a woman.

Yes, you read that right… MEN are the ones who CAUSE the problems.

It’s not the woman!

It’s the fact that you don’t understand the situation, what’s REALLY going on, and how to proceed.

WHAT WOMEN WANT… BUT WILL NEVER TELL YOU

Here’s a little secret that most women will NEVER share with you…

SHE KNOWS WHAT’S ON YOUR MIND.

Women can tell what you’re thinking!

If you want to kiss her, but you’re nervous about it, SHE KNOWS.

If you’re kissing her and want to do more…

SHE KNOWS.

And here’s the KICKER:

If you’re afraid of her rejecting you, SHE KNOWS.

Really.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES as good at men when it comes to reading and interpreting subtle body language, and THEY KNOW WHAT WE’RE THINKING.

Let me correct myself… slightly.

They know what MOST men are thinking.

If you understand the dynamics of how and why women become sexually aroused, then EVERYTHING CHANGES.

Now, let’s talk a little bit about the topics of RESISTANCE and REJECTION.

Here’s an interesting thought:

In their book “Sexual Interactions”, Albert and Elizabeth Allgeier mention that in one study almost 40% of women reported refusing sexual intercourse when they actually WANTED it. They call this “The token no”.

So, what’s going on here?

Hold on… one more thing before I discuss this, I want to point out that this DOESN’T mean that a woman wants a man to force himself on her. NEVER force a woman to do anything!

Here’s what’s going on…

Women enjoy ANTICIPATION.

Anticipation leads to sexual arousal.

Write that down…

…on your forehead.

You need to remember that women like the idea of WANTING and EXPECTING what’s going to happen.

The reason why a lot of women say that they don’t want to sleep with men even when they do is because the man doesn’t GET IT.

Men act like they would enjoy it if a woman just took off her clothes and said, “Let’s do it.”

Women act like they want a man to chase them around all night… and then MAYBE do it. Maybe.

So if you want her to feel more turned on, and to get less “resistance”, then USE ANTICIPATION.

I have a technique that I teach that’s called “Two steps forward, one step back”.

This is a way to INCREASE a woman’s sexual arousal and AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION that’s already present in the situation.

Here’s how it works:

Let’s say that you’re talking to a woman at your place, and you start holding her hand.

After a few minutes, take your hand back and STOP.

Lean back.

Keep talking.

A few minutes later, reach over and take her hand again… and keep talking.

Then, lean over and kiss her (use “The Kiss Test” as described at my website and in my “Double Your Dating” ebook).

After you’ve kissed her, STOP.

Lean back again.

Keep talking.

A few minutes later, reach over and kiss her again.

This time, kiss her for a little longer.

Kiss her a little deeper.

Then stop.

Lean back.

Smile.

ARE YOU WITH ME?

When you use this technique, you will be absolutely STUNNED at the results.

First of all, it completely changes the situation.

Instead of a woman RESISTING you, she’ll be MUCH more likely to try to get you to DO MORE.

She’ll very likely be confused.

She’ll be thinking to herself, “What’s going on here? Most guys try to push themselves on me, or they don’t do anything at all. This guy seems like he’s so in control of himself. And I keep getting more turned on. Maybe I should tell him that we’re not going to sleep together tonight. But this is so great…”

And the best part of this technique is that IT’S WHAT WOMEN WANT YOU TO DO!

Of course, they’d never TELL you this. And even if a woman COULD explain it, she wouldn’t WANT to tell you. Women want men who ALREADY GET IT.

I want to mention a couple of more important things.

First, if you want to even GET to the point where it’s time to hold a woman’s hand, kiss her, and get even more physical, then you MUST understand how ATTRACTION works, and how to make women feel that powerful emotion.

If you don’t, then knowing all the fancy techniques in the world won’t help you.

It’s also VERY useful to understand what to do AFTER you’ve kissed a woman… the details of how to do OTHER, more INTIMATE things.

Where can you learn this stuff?

I recommend my online eBook

When you download the ebook, “ Double Your Dating“, you’ll also get three free bonus booklets. One of them is titled “Sex Secrets”. In that report, I explain in greater detail how to go from one step to the next with a woman, from the first kiss all the way to the bedroom.

The eBook is here:

Double Your Dating

I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

In fact, this might be one of the areas that guys want to know the most about.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking over the past year or so about the concept of being “cool”.

In other words, I’ve been watching people (myself included) to see if I could figure out why some people are considered “cool” while some are considered “not-so-cool”… and more importantly, how to use this idea to have more success with women.

So what is a “cool guy”?

And what is it about a guy who’s “cool” that makes women feel more attracted to him than an “uncool” guy?

Let me tell you a few quick mini-stories about guys I’ve known who were UN-cool.

One friend I used to have LOVED to argue with people. He would start arguments about anything and always take the opposite perspective on every topic. He did this with women all the time too. I think he felt like he was coming across as smart when he argued. Guess what? Women hated it, and ran as soon as he started in. His guy friends hated it too. He was UN-cool because his insecurity was so strong, that he had to argue to get attention.

Another friend I have always tries to do nice things and favors for women he likes. As soon as he meets a woman he likes, he tries to find something he can do for her. Of course, he then gets upset when the woman doesn’t return the feelings of affection… and he acts upset and “taken advantage of”. This, of course, makes women run away. As you can probably guess, he’s trying to manipulate women with favors. And women resent him for it. Women don’t think he’s cool, and they avoid him.

I know one guy who loves to tell women how beautiful they are, buys them drinks and dinners, and pursues them with the “You’re the greatest thing in the world and I’m going to chase you around and try to buy your attention”. And even though he’s doing a lot of “nice” things for the women he’s interested in, he can’t keep one around for more than a date or two. Even his guy friends think that he needs to calm down and act more
“cool” in general.

Now, all three of the guys I’ve mentioned above have different problems… but the way I see it, they’re all strangely related.

Here are a few more quick stories about guys I know who are “cool”.

One guy I know always has girls around him. In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever seen him WITHOUT at least one girl with him. Usually he has three or four girls with him… and sometimes up to 10 or 12. He always makes fun of the girls, teases them, and treats them like good friends who he’s comfortable enough to bust on. He’s not rich, he doesn’t buy things for women, and he doesn’t kiss up to them. He DOES, on the other hand, make it his business to know where the “cool” places are in town, where to go out, and who to call for the “inside track” on where the hot spots are. Then he shows up at the door to these hot spots with five women. EVERYONE who knows him thinks of him as a “cool” guy.

I have another friend that is really amazing with women. But he does something that’s rather unusual when he’s around women. He kind of IGNORES them when he first meets them. If he’s out with friends, and one of them introduces a female friend to him, he’ll shake her hand and say “hi”, then TURN AWAY and go back to whatever he was doing. Somehow, the women that are around him always want to talk to HIM. And all the guys he knows think of him as one of the coolest guys around.

Finally, I have one friend who literally says things to women like, “You probably wouldn’t like me. I don’t really have relationships with women. Our relationship will probably go no further than the physical…” If you’ve seen my Advanced DVD Program, you probably remember him saying these exact words when I’m interviewing him. He’s so calm and laid back around women that they have to pursue HIM… and it happens a lot. He’s blunt, direct, and honest about whatever is on his mind. He doesn’t chase women, buy them things, or smother them with compliments… and yet, they love him. And he has a crew of guy friends who all love him and think he’s one of the “coolest” guys in the world.

So what is it that separates the “cool” guys from the “uncool” guys?

What is “cool”?

What is it that makes a few rare people the kind of people that EVERYONE wants to be around?

What is it about UN-cool guys that repels other people, and makes women run away?

And what is it about this element that I’m calling “cool” that makes guys who have it attract more women than they can handle?

THE DEFINITION OF COOL

I personally think that being “cool” comes down to:

1) Being independent

2) Being indifferent

3) Being funny

4) Being socially adjusted

Before I get into each of these in detail, I want to mention something…

Usually, I tend to stick to techniques to help you meet more women, or give you advice to get past limiting beliefs, etc.

I’ve realized recently that there are a few BASIC, FUNDAMENTAL things that we, as guys, need to really “get” about interacting with other people before we start trying to learn advanced stuff, like how to approach and meet women. If you don’t have some of the basic things handled, all the fancy techniques in the world won’t fix your problem.

So stick with me here, this is important.

OK, so let’s talk about the four components that I mentioned above.

BEING INDEPENDENT

Independent is the OPPOSITE of “dependent”.

When you act “dependent”, you lean on others, you look to them for approval, you ask what they think before you make a decision, you tend to want to stay physically close to them, and your feelings tend to depend on what others feel and think of you.

When you act INDEPENDENT, you lean back, you do things because YOU decided you wanted to, you don’t ask others what they think – instead you decide yourself, you are fine walking away from your friends for awhile when you’re out, and your feelings are controlled by what YOU think, not what others think.

A “dependent” person will go into a bar with friends, stick close to them all night, ask what everyone else is drinking before they order, get upset easily about things that others say, and constantly be looking for attention and approval in some way.

An INDEPENDENT person, on the other hand, will go into a bar with friends and be more likely to… walk away and look around the place ALONE to see who’s there – and feel fine about leaving their friends for awhile and striking up a conversation with a stranger… They’ll order a drink if they want, or water if they want – and not care what everyone else is drinking… They’ll be cool and calm no matter what happens – even if others are getting upset around them… And, most importantly, they aren’t looking to others for attention and approval. They’re doing their own thing, and enjoying whatever happens.

BEING INDIFFERENT

Most people in this world are ATTACHED to the outcomes of things. They’re constantly worrying about what’s going to happen… and talking about the future in a fearful, uncertain way.

This type of person always wants to know what other people think of them, and they’re worrying about what they should do so other people will like them. Unfortunately, this almost ALWAYS comes across as INSECURITY.

An INDIFFERENT person, on the other hand, just goes about life and takes things as they come.

The indifferent person is INDIFFERENT to the outcome of whatever situation they’re in.

If it’s a man, and he’s approaching a woman, he will be OK with whatever happens. If she’s nice to him, great. If she’s uptight, no problem. If she’s rich, famous, and beautiful… and starts coming on to him, fine. No big deal.

When you are ATTACHED to the outcome of a situation, it makes you act all kinds of freaky. You pause, act nervous, hold back, look for approval, act insecure… and any of 100 other unattractive things.

On the other hand, when you’re INDIFFERENT to the outcome, it makes you MAGNETIC. Especially when it comes to women and dating. Indifference is the ultimate way to show a LACK of insecurity in life.

BEING FUNNY

Humor is magic.

It’s a complete mystery why we find things “funny” and why we “laugh”.

Crying because someone died makes some logical sense. It’s a bad thing, and crying expresses a negative emotion.

But when you see a dog run into a window because he doesn’t see it… and he gets a confused look on his face, you LAUGH. What’s with that?

Humor is interesting to me, in that if you’re funny, it makes people FEEL GOOD inside. They laugh, and it triggers positive feelings.

If you’re not naturally funny, it’s a great skill to learn. Read books. Watch live comedy. Do whatever it takes to learn how to be funny.

Most of the “coolest” guys I know are wickedly funny. Some of them are only funny on occasion… but they “get it”… and when they do make a joke, it’s DAMN funny.

BEING SOCIALLY ADJUSTED

I know that this sounds funny, but most of the people I know who are “UN-cool” are not very adjusted socially.

They lack a certain something in the “social skills” department that makes it OBVIOUS to others (and especially to women) that they don’t know how to relate very well to other people. They just never learned how to make others feel comfortable around them.

If you’ve ever known an accountant or computer programmer that was brilliantly smart, but totally boring, you know what I mean.

If people act kind of nervous, strange, and uncomfortable when they’re around you, then you also know where I’m coming from on this.

I can’t teach you how to make people feel comfortable around you in two sentences, but if you need to learn how to mix with people socially, then start PAYING ATTENTION to what’s going on around you.

Watch how others dress, carry themselves, walk, and talk. Pay attention to little details… like saying, “What’s up?” when you meet someone new, instead of “Hello, pleased to meet you” and such.

…now, is this all there is to being “cool”?

Of course not.

But it’s a great start.

If you can first get yourself to the place where other people want to be around you just because they enjoy your company, you’ll find that taking things to the next level with women will be about 10 times easier.

I’ve had this conversation with MANY of the guys I know who are successful with women, and they all basically say the same thing… you have to learn how to be “cool” and make others (women) feel comfortable just being in the same room with you. And if you’re “cool”, this happens almost instantly. If you’re not “cool”, then you’re going to have a hard time making ANYONE feel comfortable with you… never mind having a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.

Now, I also realized that a lot of the materials that I teach in my eBook and Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program are aimed at this EXACT topic.

Even though I don’t talk very much about this concept (I will in the future, though), you’ll notice that many of the techniques you’ll learn from my materials will help you in a lot of areas of your life… not just with women.

As a direct result of the things I’ve learned about how to be more successful with women and dating, I’ve ALSO become more successful at things like being invited to “exclusive” parties, having famous and successful people pursue me as a friend, and just generally being invited into more “exclusive” social circles.

Why is this?

Well, for one thing, people who know a lot of “cool” or influential people are very careful about who they “bring along” to gatherings with friends.

The LAST thing someone “cool” needs in their life is an “UN-cool” person making a jackass of themselves in front of all of their friends.

When you learn the art of being “cool”, you start to attract other cool people. And those people will see that you’re not insecure, emotionally unstable, clingy, and such. They’ll see that you know how to handle yourself with other people (and with women), and they’ll start introducing you to other cool people (including
women) instead of running away from you.

I know that this newsletter is going to ignite a whole series of letters to me about how learning these concepts has done exactly what I’m talking about for various guys (and I want to hear about it, by the way, so make sure you write in).

So, want more great ideas on how to be “cool”, and how to meet and date more women?

I thought so…

It took me a long time to figure out how to be “cool” around women… and how to make women feel that powerful physical and emotional response called ATTRACTION…

I can’t tell you how much I wish I could have known what I teach when I was younger. It’s taken me literally YEARS to put all the pieces together, and I invite you to take advantage of the time, effort, energy, and money I’ve invested to discover, refine, and organize all of the step- by-step techniques I’ve put together…

Where can you get all of this good stuff?

Even better, where can you get it with literally ZERO risk?

Inside my fantastic DVD and CD programs.

That’s where.

I mentioned my Advanced Dating Techniques program earlier. If you go through that program and find that you need to work on your “Inner Game”, then I recommend that you invest in my fantastic Inner Game programs. Start with my program, “On Being A Man… Who Naturally Attracts Women”.

This will give you a SOLID foundation for thinking and behaving like a guy who NATURALLY attracts women. You can get it here:

On Being A Man

You should also check out my program called “Deep Inner Game”. This program will give you an entire set of specific TOOLS you can use to do things like overcoming fear, improving your self-image, and creating a healthy sense of “self”. This stuff is MANDATORY if you’re going to become the kind of guy that women are MAGNETICALLY attracted to. All the details are here:

Deep Inner Game

And if you haven’t taken the time to downloadmy online eBook, stop and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it and literally be reading it within a few minutes. Go download it here:

Double Your Dating

I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

“I’m sure what you’re saying is right, but I don’t want to be a jerk or an a**hole to women…”

…or…

“I have seen what you’re talking about happen all my life, but I’m a ‘nice guy’ and I want women to like me for me…”

…and…

“This doesn’t make sense…”

For most of my life, I was THE nice guy of nice guys. As a matter of fact, when I first made the decision to learn how to be successful with women, this actually created an OBSTACLE for me.

Let me explain…

Because I believed that “being a nice guy” MUST be the way to success with women, I ACTUALLY COULDN’T EVEN PERCEIVE ANY OTHER WAY.

In other words, I could see a situation where a woman was attracted to a mean, abusive guy and think to myself that either she must be screwed up in the head, or THAT THE GUY MUST BE REALLY NICE TO HER THE REST OF THE TIME.

As you probably know, it’s hard to convince a person to believe something when they already have a belief about the topic. The person that you’re trying to convince just uses whatever you say to convince themselves that they’re actually right…and you’re wrong.

I did the exact same thing.

No matter how much evidence I found to the contrary, I still somehow believed that being a “nice” guy, buying women flowers and gifts, taking them out, and generally letting them be in control of the relationship HAD to be the way to attract them.

Well, after continuing along the same path and getting the same results, I realized something that literally changed EVERYTHING for me.

I realized that JERKS do, in fact, attract hot women.

Selfish behavior, as unhealthy as this might sound, often makes women feel attracted to you.

Sarcasm, ball busting, playing hard to get and all kinds of other “illogical” things really do work when it comes to attracting women.

But, then I had a dilemma…

I love the idea of being successful with women but, I HATE the idea of mistreating people, being mean to them, lying and being misleading, etc.

Deep down, I wanted to be a good guy.

I decided that there MUST be a way to make this work, and to attract women without being ABUSIVE.

The good news is that THERE IS a way.

But, it requires that you put aside your current ideas for just long enough to entertain some new ones.

First, let me say that I believe I’ve found a way to take the things that JERKS do to attract women and use them WITHOUT THE ABUSE. When you learn to do this, you can really have the best of both worlds… you can be nice to women on your own terms, and give them what they REALLY want, and what REALLY attracts them.

So, WHY DO WOMEN BECOME ATTRACTED TO JERKS?

The short answer is that they don’t CHOOSE it, it’s something that just HAPPENS.

ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE.

It’s an emotional response to certain things.

Women don’t CHOOSE to feel the emotion called ATTRACTION for jerks any more than YOU choose to feel the emotion called ATTRACTION for young, beautiful, hard bodied women.

Nature has preprogrammed MEN with a mechanism that works like this:

SEE HOT WOMEN —> FEEL ATTRACTION

Well, women have a similar mechanism. But I think that the female version is MORE COMPLEX.

Yes, women do feel attraction for extremely handsome men… but they feel a MUCH STRONGER ATTRACTION for certain PERSONALITY TRAITS and BEHAVIORS than they do for physical looks alone.

So, again the short answer is that it’s just something that “happens” inside of a women. She doesn’t “choose” it.

So, what is it about the “jerk” that creates this powerful, uncontrollable ATTRACTION inside of women?

Let me answer first by telling you what IT’S NOT:

It’s NOT the abuse (not usually anyway). I don’t believe that women are attracted to that abusive, mean, negative part of the “jerk personality”.

I think that jerks JUST HAPPEN to also possess several ATTRACTIVE qualities that are SO POWERFUL that they literally make women BLIND to the abuse… women will rationalize and excuse the abusive behavior because they are so attracted to these other qualities.

Here’s a PARTIAL list of what creates that ATTRACTION:

• Unpredictable
• Uncontrollable
• Challenging
• Dominant

Of course, there are many more, but this will get us started for this discussion.

The qualities I’ve listed above, when presented correctly, trigger the natural “attraction mechanism” inside of women.

Jerks have taken natural qualities that are ATTRACTIVE to women a little “too far”.

But because they’re still there, the qualities trigger the attraction anyway.

So, what does this mean to you?

Well, the most important thing is that it means you can still be a good guy AND attract women at the same time.

You’re probably going to have to learn how to flirt in a different way, become a little more comfortable being challenging to women, etc. But, in the end, you’ll find that this will get you what you want and still allow you to treat women well… all on your own terms.

It also means that instead of being the guy who women talk to about their relationship problems and how their mean jerk boyfriend is being abusive again… you can be the guy who they’re dating and sleeping with!

Yes!

Now, I’d like you to take time to think about what I’ve said here in this newsletter.

Think about how you can cultivate the four qualities that I’ve mentioned above into your personality.

See if you can be a little less predictable.

Don’t let outside events or women control you.

Be more of a challenge.

Stop being submissive… and get in touch with that side of you that is more dominant (I said “dominant”, not “domineering”).

This will give you a GREAT head start.

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

First, I’m going to ask you to consider something, then I’m going to give you some homework.

This week is all about ACTION!

Here’s the thing I want you to consider first:

I was reading an article on AOL titled “What’s Wrong With Nice Guys?”… here’s a little quote from the article:

“…Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones? This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since women truly are conditioned to be “good girls,” sometimes we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning “I must have him!” feeling. That’s why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series of guided imagery tapes. “In order for the deliciousness of pure lust to be ‘okay,’ it has to be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your animal impulses, worry-free,” she says….”

Interesting, isn’t it?

Now, I personally disagree with the idea that women “seek out” Bad Boys because they need somewhere to “project their guilty lust”… and I disagree with the idea that there’s something “wrong” with the fact that women are attracted to Bad Boys…

But the point is that the “mainstream” psychology and behavior world is starting to accept the idea that women are ATTRACTED to “Bad Boys”.

It will probably be another ten years before anyone with a degree puts two and two together and says, “Hey, maybe women feel ATTRACTION towards Bad Boys for natural, evolutionary reasons, and that’s why Bad Boys are considered “sexy”…”

Hell, maybe I should say it… Oh wait, I already did…

Whatever.

Point is, there’s something to the idea that woman don’t feel that powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for “nice” guys who chase after them and kiss up to them.

Women do, on the other hand, feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for BAD BOYS.

Of course, I don’t believe that you MUST be a jerk, or abuse women in order to make them feel attracted to you. There’s a much better way…

OK…now for THE HOMEWORK…

Here’s what I want you to do…

If you own my eBook “ Double Your Dating“, go to chapter 4, and read it again.

(If you don’t own it yet, then you need to get it immediately! You’re cheating yourself if you don’t invest in YOURSELF in this area…really.)

Now, I want you to do something CONSCIOUSLY this week.

I want you to do the following with the next 5 women that you talk to over the next few days… (these should be women that you would be interested in dating):

1) Smile all the time.

2) Be very nice, cordial, and friendly. Use no sarcasm, and don’t tease.

3) Act as if you really “like” the woman you’re talking to… and as if you’re “interested” in her.

4) Give her lots of compliments.

5) Optional: Politely say, “You probably have a boyfriend, right? Can I take you out sometime?”

Pay careful attention, and notice how the women respond to you.

Now, I want you to try something different with the NEXT 5 women you talk to…

1) Don’t smile very often.

2) Pretend that you’ve known her for 20 years, and that you’re TOO comfortable around her. Tease her for something that no one teases her about… like the way she dresses, etc.

3) Pretend that she’s interested in YOU, and has been pursuing YOU, and that you’re resisting her. Make jokes about it and say things like, “I just don’t think things are going to work out between us”.

4) Give her NO compliments of any kind. If she gives you any say, “That’s a cheesy pick up line. Can’t you think of something more original?”

5) Optional: Say, “Hey, do you have email? Good. Write it down here…”

…and pay attention to the difference.

If you really “play it up”, you’ll notice a HUGE difference between the first five women you talk to and the next five.

During the first set of five, when you’re being a “Nice Wuss”, you’ll see the looks on the women’s faces that say, “Oh no. Another guy who “likes” me. How can I get rid of him politely?…”

During the SECOND set of five, you’ll see the women opening their mouths with the “half smile, half oh-no-you-didn’t-just-say-that” look. You’ll feel a TENSION in the air. You’ll notice that some of the women will actually look at you as if they can’t believe what they’re hearing.

If you’re particularly sharp and funny, you might just have one or two of them say, “I like you… we have to hang out sometime” within the first few minutes of the conversation. By the way, you will NEVER hear that when you’re playing the “Nice Wuss”.

(SIDE NOTE: I once went out with some friends and while taking pictures of them, I overheard this girl talking to her friend. I took what she and her friend were talking about and I teased her about it… And within no more than 60 seconds the girl was saying, “Ohmygod, I like you! We need to hang out sometime…” – Really.)

Do your homework! And have FUN while you’re at it.

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I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

It’s a secret that probably not 1 in 1,000 men knows or will ever figure out on his own.

The REASON that most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it’s TOO OBVIOUS.

Let me explain…

I personally think that most men feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women.

If you watch the way a man behaves when he’s talking to a woman he’s just met or a woman that he’s on a first date with, you can SEE IT.

Maybe you’ve been there yourself.

I know I have. Many, many times, in fact.

The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: DON’T SCREW THIS UP.

Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to “impress” the woman that he’s talking to:

1) He tries to only say “cool” things, or things that will “impress” the woman.

2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation… sometimes coming across as “formal”.

3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.

4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t like, he “back-pedals” and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.

5) He doesn’t say anything “risky”, doesn’t tease the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.

…in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he “likes”, he’s usually on his “best behavior”, and he’s trying to “put his best foot forward”.

To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY “LIKE”.

And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL.

There’s your first hint, in fact…

THE SECRET

Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to share a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men will figure out on their own?

Well, here it is:

STOP TRYING.

If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I’m teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be “impressed” by you.

TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN’T IMPRESS HER.

So let’s break this down…

WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD

What’s wrong with trying to “impress” women, anyway?

To start with, EVERYTHING.

When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a “subtle” level:

1) I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I will try to “impress” you instead.

2) I’m not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.

3) I don’t have a lot of experience with attractive women.

4) I’m insecure.

5) I don’t know how to make women feel comfortable with me.

Ouch.

But it’s the truth.

Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you’re “trying”.

The conversation doesn’t feel “normal”, your body language is strange, and you can’t seem to have a regular conversation.

Now of course, I’ve just described the way that about 99.9999% of men act when they’re first talking to a woman that they “like”.

Are you ready for a profound insight?

Here goes…

MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT’S OLD NEWS. IT’S BORING. IT’S PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL.

The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect.

It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can’t make normal conversation… it also bores the hell out of women.

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD

OK, so you’re out having a cup of tea with a beautiful woman you just met a few days before…

She asks you what you do for a living.

Should you answer with:

1) “Well, I’m an engineer for a software company that makes sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I’ve been with them for three years, and I’m about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER.”

2) “I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot actor has to reveal his naked ass? That’s my job.”

…?

Well, it all depends on what your outcome is.

If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just fine.

Unfortunately, it won’t impress her at all, and it will make you sound like a jackass who is trying to sound cool.

If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2.

Most men don’t have the BALLS to say something like this when a woman asks a “serious” question like “What do you do?”.

If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING.

She’ll say “No, really… what do you do?”.

Answer with: “No, really. Haven’t you ever seen it when an actor needs a stunt ass? I mean hey… someone’s got to do it”.

Now, I can’t possibly go into all the reasons why it’s a HUGE MISTAKE to try to impress a woman, or to feel like everything you say should be “impressive”.

There are MANY reasons for this.

MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman…and I mean REALLY impress her.

But these things aren’t OBVIOUS.

The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you.

This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home.

And it’s the one thing that will make women pursue YOU… and try to impress YOU.

What’s the best way to do this?

1) Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now.

2) Go download a copy of my online eBook “ Double Your Dating“, and read it. It contains literally DOZENS and dozens of great techniques for you to use that will make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo