David DeAngelo - Dating Questions For Men

Have you ever called a woman on the phone to set up a date and she says: “Friday night? Sure. Call me on Friday and we can talk about it…”?

Or, have you ever had a woman ask you if you’re “a player?”

Or, have you ever had a woman challenge you about something ridiculous?

Or, have you ever had a woman call you five minutes before a date and cancel?

Or, have you ever had a woman pout and get upset because she didn’t get her way?

Or, have you ever asked a woman for her number and she says, “Why don’t you give me your number and I’ll call YOU?”

Well guess what… you were being TESTED.

All of these are examples of common things women do to “test” men.

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You know, it’s been too long since we talked about how to get a woman’s email address and phone number quickly after meeting her.

I thought it might be time to have another conversation about it, and give you some more great ideas…

THE CHALLENGE…

I can still remember exactly what it was like before I learned some of the secrets of how to meet women.

I have very clear memories of women that I saw literally YEARS ago who I wanted to meet… but I just didn’t know what to do or how to do it.

In some of the cases, I was actually talking to the girl, enjoying a conversation… and REALLY wanting to ask her for her number… but I just didn’t do it.

But WHY?

Why didn’t I just say, “Hey, give me your number?”

The fact is that I was AFRAID.

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HOW TO LOSE A GIRL - A DANGEROUS IDEA…

Now THIS sounds like an interesting topic, doesn’t it?

Why would you want to know how to LOSE a girl?

Well, I’m going to propose a DANGEROUS IDEA.

I’m going to suggest that you are probably already an EXPERT in LOSING a girl.

You might even be a “natural” at it.

Most guys are.

But the PROBLEM is that most guys don’t UNDERSTAND why they’re so good at LOSING women.

In other words, they walk through the world screwing up one situation after another, and never realize JUST HOW GOOD they are at being BAD with women.

And they don’t realize that just by changing a few key things they could change their level of success DRAMATICALLY.

One great way to increase your success in life is to start REALIZING what you’re doing. Once you actually understand what you’re doing and the results you’re triggering, you can CHANGE.

So open your mind. Listen up.

TYPICAL THINGS MEN DO

As you’ve probably heard me say about a million times, MEN ARE PREDICTABLE.

In fact, we’re PAINFULLY predictable.

We all do basically the same things when we get into common situations with women…and we don’t even realize it.

I call this the “Originality Paradox.”

In our desire to be “original” and “unique,” we guys tend to do the SAME THINGS! Said differently, while you’re doing something that seems thoughtful and original, the attractive woman on the other end is thinking, “He’s just like all the other
guys.”

Ouch.

So why is being predictable so bad?

Look at this formula:

Predictable = BORING.

Boring = NO EMOTIONS.

No Emotions = NO ATTRACTION.

No Attraction = NO GETTIN’ SHIZZY WITH THA NIZZY!

One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a girl is to be PREDICTABLE.

Another huge mistake men make is GIVING AWAY OUR POWER to women.

I’m not going to go into it, but the reality is that women are NOT attracted to WEAK men. And I’m not talking about muscles here.

If you act like a Wuss, you are shooting yourself in the foot. Before we go on, I want to mention something VERY important. If you have a nasty case of “Wuss-itis” and you can’t seem to get rid of it, then go read THIS before you read the rest of this newsletter:

On Being A Man

Here are a few examples of how we guys act PREDICTABLE, give away our power, and make about 147 other huge mistakes with women we’ve just met:

1) Call Her All The Time

If you like someone, it’s logical that you’re going to want to let them know, right?

Well, only if you like the idea of coming across like a total Jack-Wuss. I just made that up, by the way. Combination of Jackass and Wuss. Not sure if I like it, but I’m going to go with it.

Where was I?

Yeah, calling her all the time.

Calling all the time is usually triggered by INSECURITY and NEEDINESS. It sounds like a good idea, but it almost NEVER is.

This is a great way to lose a girl before you even have her. We might even call this one “Have Prevention.”

2) Offer To Take Her Somewhere “Nice”

What do most guys do when they meet a girl that they “really” like?

Well, they call her up, and they get into a boring conversation about schools and families and jobs and 100 other painfully boring things…and when they finally realize that they’ve been on the hone for an hour, they realize that they’d better do SOMETHING soon…because she’s starting to talk about having to go wash her dog….

So what do they do?

They think to themselves, “Self, you’d better get up some nerve and ask her out. Hey! Self! I have a GREAT idea. Ask her to go out with you to a REALLY NICE place. She’ll be far more likely to want to do that, and besides, then she’ll know that you REALLY like her….”

And what does this REALLY communicate?

Right, right.

That you have the confidence to just ask her to spend time with you for NO REASON other than the fact that you want to…and that you must not be WORTH spending time with - without some kind of “meal incentive.”

Meal Incentive… lol… I crack myself up.

Well, this is one more example of something that “sounds good” in the moment, but is BAD BAD BAD for business.

3) Do “Thoughtful” Things From The Beginning

What’s better than a nice, thoughtful guy showing up at the door with flowers and candy for the first date?

Well, to quote an old Saturday Night Live episode, “Throwing an entire box of thumb tacks on the floor, and rolling around in them naked.”

Or maybe taking one of those…you know…SERRATED KNIVES…yeah, that’s it…and putting it between your big toe and second toe and slicing back and forth really fast…and then pouring… you know…HOT SAUCE…yeah, that’s it…on the wound!

I hate it when that happens!

But we men do this kind of thing all the time…because it sure sounds good in the moment.

By the way, don’t try the thumb tack thing or the hot sauce thing UNLESS you’re considering purchasing flowers and candy to bring to a first date. In that case, please take these measures to prevent yourself from acting on the uncontrollable urges.

If you come on too strong, you appear just like every other predictable Wussboy who has ever tried to make himself look better by giving gifts and food and favors in exchange for attention and approval.

4) Tell Her How You “Feel” About Her Early On

This might be one of my favorites.

I’m starting to think that we guys must come stock with a mechanism that actually compels us to open our BIG FAT MOUTHS and screw things up with only the BEST women.

I’ll call this the “Feeling Confessor” mechanism. It is triggered by strong feelings of attraction and emotion toward an unusually attractive woman.

I’ve talked to A LOT of attractive women in my life. And they all have one similar experience to share…

For some UNKNOWN and UNGODLY reason, men just seem to LOVE telling SUPER HOT women how they FEEL within the first couple of dates.

As you might realize, I get a lot of emails from guys…

And one of the common emails I get goes a little something like this:

“David, I met this unbelievably hot girl…she’s smart, interesting, successful…everything seemed to be going well…so I decided to tell her how I felt…and for some reason she said that she needs some “space” and some “time to be alone”…I don’t get it….”

Again, when you do this you’re making all kinds of huge mistakes…and basically doing everything you can do to LOSE her.

5) Keep Telling Her How You Feel When She Needs Space

And as if the last example wasn’t painful enough, most guys usually like to use this final “nail in the coffin” technique as well…

Here’s the situation:

You’ve met a girl you really like. Maybe you’ve gone out with her a few times. Doesn’t matter.

You do all the things you can think of to SCREW IT UP, and you finally succeed.

You prove to her that you just don’t get it, and you don’t know how to handle a woman like her.

So she says, “I need some space” or “I need some time to myself.”

And what do most guys do?

Of course. They KEEP telling her how they feel.

And they do it in 100 annoying ways.

The thought that most guys have is, “If she only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HER, then she would LOVE ME.”

It’s painful just typing the words.

So there you have it.

Part of the magic formula for losing a girl fast. Interesting, isn’t it?

But there’s a much DEEPER message here.

The message is this:

If you don’t understand the process of how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you, including the things to AVOID doing, then you’re not going to have success.

Not knowing the rules of a game makes it very difficult (or impossible) to win.

And, unfortunately, we guys have a HUGE disadvantage when it comes to women and dating…

We have emotional responses to situations that take over our “thinking,” and makes us do all the wrong things.

We usually sabotage OURSELVES.

Well, the good news is that it does NOT have to be this way. There is a BETTER way.

If you found this particular discussion interesting, then you’re probably ready to learn the DEEPER secrets of how to be more successful with women and dating.

If you’re ready to STOP losing women faster than you can meet them, then it’s probably time for you to step up and get yourself an education about how to attract women and KEEP them attracted.

And the best education in the world is my Advanced Dating Techniques program. It’s over 12 full hours of me teaching all of my very best concepts.

This program will teach you everything from how to overcome your fears of women to how to take things to a “physical” level without running into rejection. It is literally JAM PACKED with HUNDREDS and HUNDREDS of amazing step-by-step techniques for overcoming all of your obstacles and getting to the point in your life where you have the kind of success that you’ve always wanted with women.

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And if you’re reading this right now and you haven’t yet downloaded your copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating,” I have something to tell you…

My eBook is the foundation for everything that I teach in these newsletters, and it’s the foundation for my Advanced Dating Techniques Program.

Guys are surprised when they listen to the Advanced Program because I don’t just rehash “Double Your Dating” and I talk about a few new tricks.

The Advanced Program is almost ALL new stuff!

And you need to read “Double Your Dating” TOO because it contains a lot of valuable material that sets the stage for everything else. It’s here, go download it now:

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

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Most men HATE the idea of “rejection”.

I’m not talking about “don’t like the idea” or “wish it didn’t happen”… I’m talking HATE here.

The idea of walking up to a woman and having her REJECT you causes most men to instantly feel sick in the pit of their stomachs and literally feel a horrible combination of nervousness and confusion.

A guy can psych himself up for an hour to go talk to a woman, but when the moment comes to actually DO IT, EVERYTHING changes.

The heart rate shoots up, breathing quickens, eyes dart back and forth, thoughts of rejection fill the mind, and eventually the pressure becomes too much to bare.

Most men find this state so scary that they end up deciding to forget about approaching the women… just to end the discomfort.

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I’d like to talk about a concept that is rather difficult for most men to “get”.

Ironically, it’s a concept that’s rather easy to understand, but because it’s so illogical and “counter intuitive” it’s also easy to miss entirely.

It’s understanding what attracts women sexually.

And what I’m about to share with you took me literally YEARS to figure out… even though it was right in front of my face the whole time.

When I first decided to get this area called “Women and Dating” handled in my own life, I did what I think most guys do… I THOUGHT a lot about it, I READ a lot about it, and I ASKED a lot about it.

I’ve spent a lot of time studying psychology and human behavior, because it fascinates me…and I figured that all of my understanding about how people worked would really give me an advantage in this quest I had started.

And since I think I’m pretty smart, I figured that this would be something that I’d get figured out rather quickly.

Well, what a humbling experience I was in for.

As I soon learned, it’s not easy to solve an illogical problem by thinking about it logically!

In fact, now that I know better, I think that ATTRACTION is rather logical… it’s just that how it works is so UNEXPECTED that it SEEMS illogical.

But for now, let’s just use the term “illogical” because it forces the mind to put aside pre-conceived notions of what “should” happen.

As I was trying to figure all this stuff out for myself (and keep in mind, I had no idea that I would later write a book to help others) I kept running into challenges.

It seemed that every logical thing I did just didn’t work in a way that made sense.

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