i love your news letter and i have been reading it for almost a year. i have been with the same girl for nine months because of you dave! i used to the same way about chics, buying them dinners, etc. but once i started applying your techniques i met the love of my life. i drive a piece of crap and i am a broke college student. i played like i didnt care when my girl and i first met before i know it she’s giving me lots of great sex, money, dvd player, clothes, etc. i was cocky and funny but also threw in a little sweetness to catch her off gaurd. Ladies get bored with the same old dates,etc. I did OUTRAGEOUS THINGS IN AND OUT OF THE BEDROOM AND NOW WE ARE PROBABLY GOING TO GET MARRIED LATER ON WHEN I GET OUT OF COLLEGE!

THANKS DAVE! -C   FROM TX

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What’s this you say?

You have a great girl buying YOU things… including clothes, and even DVD players?

Very powerful stuff.

You know, in your letter you mentioned throwing in a “little sweetness” to “catch her off guard.”

I would like to share a little profound revelation:

It’s OK to be sweet.

Yes, I know, sounds a little weird coming from me.

But, it is OK to be sweet to women.

The problem is that most guys do it TOO MUCH, and TOO SOON. And they come across as needy Wuss Boys who are trying to use “niceness” to manipulate.

When you meet a girl you really like and decide that you want to take things to a “relationship” level, it’s actually great to be sweet.

Just don’t do it before date #10! lol…

***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hi Dave,

I recently had a very serious conversation with my boyfriend of two years about threesomes.   I know this isn’t really a dating question, but I want to get some input about this situation in relationships in general and I thought you and your newsletter would be a good place to start. I am aware that as far as every guy in the world is concerned a threesome is the best thing that could happen in a relationship because he gets to have twice as much fun as normal.   But could most guys actually go through with it?Could they really have sex (or whatever else) with a girl while being in a serious relationship with another? Does this stuff even go through the mind of the average male?

I am also aware that guys like two girl and one guy threesomes and not the other way around. would a guy think about the situation more if it were their girlfriend having sex with another guy? Also, how often do threesome ideas make it out of the minds of men and into the bedroom?

hope you can answer some of my questions

es canada

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You’re right about this not being a dating question, but who cares… it’s a question about all men’s favorite fantasy, so I’ll allow it.

Now, what the heck are you doing asking, “Would a guy think about the situation more if it were their girlfriend having sex with another guy?”

Who cares! No guys do. They only want to know what you’d look like kissing your best friend.

LOL!

And yes, your boyfriend could “have sex (or whatever else)” with a girl while being in a serious relationship with another.

Hey, you’re the one who opened up the barn door by having the “very serious conversation” with him.

Let me know if it happens. We’re all on the edge of our seats here.

***QUESTION***

You know what David, you were right, and I feel sick to my stomach right now. I met this woman, went out a few times, nailed her the first night and all that. I bought her some flowers for Valentine’s Day, mostly because she complained like 3 times since I’ve known her (only a couple weeks) that she never gets flowers on Valentine’s Day, so I wanted to surprise her.

So I took great care to sneak around her while she wasn’t looking, and plant them where she’d find them. Well she did, and here’s what she said, “Oh, that’s a really nice gesture, but next time just leave them in my car okay? I don’t want the other students giving me a hard time or making faces at me (this was at karate class)”,   In one quick moment, my heart sank right to the floor, and I felt WORSE about myself than before I bought her the flowers! NEVER AGAIN am I wasting money on this bullsh** holiday unless I’ve been with someone for a year or more.

I can’t believe I actually feel LESS close, and like I have LESS power with this woman than I did before I did something nice for her. You better believe I won’t make this mistake again. If you’re willing, please share this story with your readers so that at least the other guys can benefit from my ignorance, and learn a lesson from it too.   J

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hey, you can’t say I didn’t warn you.

I’d offer a hug, but what YOU need is to be slapped up side the head for being a JACKASS!

You bought something for a woman because she COMPLAINED?

Here, do this:

Go in the bathroom.

Find the mirror.

Take a big black sharpie pen, and write the following on your forehead (backwards, so you can read it):

“STOP BEING A DUMBASS!”

Try that.

If you’re still with this girl in a YEAR, then buy her some flowers.

But, will you leave them in her car this time?

Thanks for contributing… you’ve probably saved many guys from a similar fate.

***QUESTION From A WOMAN***

David,

First of all, I would like to say that I really enjoy reading your newsletters. A male friend of mine started receiving them, and he now has me reading them too. Now, thanks to you, we have both adopted a “NO WUSS” policy..he’s going to stop being one, and I’m going to stop dating them. :)

I have a question that I would like your insight on.. perhaps I should set the stage with a sample online conversation… (After the usual initial blah blah and silly comments on my part, he asked and I sent him a pic)

him: yep, cute

him: how tall are u

me: 5′10″

(insert cricket sound effects and silence)

me: helloooooooooo

him: later.. need to go work on a paper the end.

Me to the cricket: well, at least he didn’t ask if I play basketball.

My question is this.. are most men really intimidated by taller women? If so, why? I have actually dated a couple of people who were obviously uncomfortable with my being taller than they are. One even asked if I would mind not wearing heels when we’re out together, because it made him feel weird. Needless to say, he got the boot. (ha) If this is a silly concern, feel free to hit “delete” or tell me to consult the pages of Cosmo. I can take it! :) I’d just like to know if there’s anything I can do to make these guys feel more at ease.

Thanks a lot!

BL

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, a lot of guys are intimidated by tall women.

No, I’m not.

Yes, send me your number and picture.

By the way, I fit your “No Wussy” policy. I’m your man.

***FOLLOW UP COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

Hi Dave,

You are a Brat. I wanted to clarify something from my letter which seemed to set you off. That part about school/marraige/fairness: To be fair, if he invested in my education, as my husband, he would more likely get a return on that investment than if he were just a boyfriend I was living with. It is my opinion that people who live together have all these committed ties, but one foot out the door. Kinda like playing house. Personally, I don’t like doing things that half-a**ed, and would prefer to eventually make a home–with the right guy.

You are right on about him needing your material, but if I sent him your e-book, it would be insulting, don’t cha think? I do get bored if a guy doesn’t keep me on my toes, I know that about myself. And, after awhile, it’s a bore being the only one pointing up to the sky.

What’s the deal with you, anyway? Are you just shopping? What happens to a guy who has all the lines? Maybe this forum your path to personal enlightenment. So, how’s that going?   SC from Sac

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ohhhh, well thanks for clarifying.

I understand now.

If he supports you and pays for you to go to school when you’re MARRIED, then “he would more likely get a return on that investment than if he were a boyfriend I was living with”…

Powerful.

More likely.

Return on investment.

I feel ya.

That changes everything and makes it completely fair.

Oh, and I didn’t recommend that you buy him my eBook. I recommended that you buy him my ADVANCED MATERIAL. He needs serious help, dear.

And what’s the deal with ME?

Am I “just shopping”?

“What happens to a guy who has all the lines?”

What do you mean “What happens?”

You make it sound like I should be going through some empty feeling of superficial accomplishment followed by a depressing realization of unfulfillment… now that I know the secrets of how to make women feel attracted to me.

Sorry, can’t help you there.

Knowing what makes women “tick” kicks ass!

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

this is a letter from one of your italian fans….after having received your newsletter for several months now, im really thinking to purchase your e-book… i was specially impressed by the “cocky&funny” attitude which attracts women in a great way! and damn! this stuff works!!!

the interesting thing i want you to know is that i have been a horrible wussy for several years! i did almost everything on your wussy list! like being nice to everyone….and so on…(; fortunately (at the age of 20, now im 22)   i had the luck to meet a guy of 27 years who was very successfull and experienced in approaching and “getting fisical” with girls…he taught me a lot about psicology of women and other very intresting stuff you already should know…(; almost each weekend we went out he got to know new girls, specially american students here in rome and other really good looking italian beautys…i analyzed what he did, his behaviour and so on…

and now we ask ourselves…why was he so successfull? and the answer is that he was almost all the time cocky and funny! always making fun of the girls! and he wasnt even goodlooking, just medium…i began to imitate his behaviour and since then i had an incredible success with girls which surprised myself and all my friends because i was dating one really hot girl after another….so if you want to get interesting or “attractive” you gotta be special, unique, full of selfesteem, funny, unpredictable and all the other stuff you teach us! thats the way how it works…sure there are thousands of other things to do…i dont need to tell you…

now i got a very important question for you, i think that this should be a big help for almost everyone receiving your newsletters or already owning your e-book. my biggest problem is the first contact…how to behave afterwards and how to get fisical later is much easier in my opinion…lets take this example, im in a pub with a friend of mine, close to us are, lets say 3 goodlooking girls on a table and two of them seem to be interested because they keep on looking to us…they smile at us, look in our eyes for a few seconds and play with their hair, showing you their “delicious” neck , talk with a loud voice to take your attention and so on ( some of the signs women usually make)…

my problem is now how to go on! they seem to be interested but nobody is outgoing enough to walk over to the other table to start a conversation in order to establish a first contact.. you always teach us that the content of the conversation is not so important as the way you say it right?   but what can i tell them? (fear of rejection i know) . how would you react or behave? walking by, what would you tell them? ( i think just asking them if they want to sit down with us on our table is very wussy)… try to give us concrete examples of the first “cocky&funny” contact in a pub or other tipical places… that would be great…

thanks for helping the wussyfied planet…(;

M.M.   Rome, Italy

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, I’m glad to hear that you met a guy who was successful with women, and learned from him.

OF COURSE he was Cocky & Funny.

I learned most of my best ideas about how to meet women from guys who were successful with women, and I found that they all did basically the SAME things… even though they didn’t “realize” that they were doing anything at all, for the most part.

Meeting and hanging out with “naturals” is one of the very best things you can do to learn how to be more successful with women (the other is to study the materials that I’ve put together at the same time, so you can have the advantage of having it all explained to you).

Now, to answer your question about approaching women in “a pub.”

I think the issue that you’re PROBABLY dealing with is REJECTION.

You’re probably afraid to go start a conversation because you don’t want to be rejected by women.

Once you can face this reality and start to deal with it, then you’ll start making more progress.

My experience starting conversations with groups of more than one woman in bars is that your ENERGY makes a huge impact.

In other words, if you walk over and act nervous and stilted, the women will get nervous and act cold.

If you act like you’re having a good time, you think they look like some fun people to talk to, and you start on that note, they’ll be FAR more likely to be friendly and open.

Now, I know a lot of guys who are GREAT at meeting women in bars. Some of them use rather interesting and complex techniques that range from “pick up lines” all the way to magic and psychic readings.

Try this:

Pick up your drink, walk over to the table, think of the funniest moment of your life so you have a smile on your face and say, “What, are you girls shy or something?”

When they say, “NO, why?”

Answer, “Because I’ve been sitting at the next table for at least a half hour and you haven’t come over to say hi to me!”

I have about 3 different friends who all use variations of this opening… and it works great (if you’re having fun when you say it).

You need to get over your FEAR. Once you stop caring what women think of you, then you’ll make a LOT more progress.

***COMMENT***

Hey, I got your eBook a month or so ago. Great stuff. I write a comment to you because of one of your letters, the one from “M. Missouri”, specifically. He described starting his marriage with the C&F and losing his touch. My advise: hit the book, bud. My marriage was the typical story of the wife with all the power. This last month, the whole deal has turned on its head. We’re celebrating our 10th anniversary next year, and my use of your eBook has moved the power from her to at least shared (it’ll be all mine soon enough).

The posture advise, and slowed deliberate, confident movements, and, of course, the “like I give a F” attitude all have brought this about. Thanks David, and to the guy who’s losing his edge, take it from someone that had no edge and is getting all of the control: you’ve let the book sit unstudied for too long. If I can change over 8 years of bad history, you can reel your situation back in.

P in Portland

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great job, man.

Too many guys have this ideal or fantasy in their minds of “being equals” with a woman, etc.

Ain’t gonna happen.

Attractive woman aren’t interested in an EQUAL.

They’re NEVER attracted to guys who are EQUALS.

Attractive women want a guy who is a LEADER. One who takes charge, keeps them on their toes, is unpredictable, Cocky & Funny, etc.

Thanks for the letter.

***BREAKTHROUGH***

David, this might seem usual but I owe you $40. See I purchased your ebook about a year ago but asked for a refund because “it didn’t work for me”. I realize now that it wasn’t your material rather my own issues that I had to deal with. During that time frame I still read your newsletters and gained more understanding of the mindset of one who “Gets it”. I’m still working on that but as you said, some are quicker learners than others.

Another factor in this was the other day when this hottie that I was chatting up was saying how she would hold out longer if the guy was “relationship material” than if she wanted a booty call. (A great time for a quick C&Fcomeback) A light clicked on and I remembered where I’d read that before. The clincher was when a buddy of mine let me listen to some of your advanced material.   All I can say is that I’m getting my own copy as soon as I can. So where do I send you your money?

Thanks, E.S. in San Diego.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I admire you for coming back a year later and admitting that you were the issue, not the material.

SO YOU’RE THE GUY WHO ASKED FOR A REFUND, HUH!?

lol… hey, it’s OK.

Yes, women do “hold out” longer if a guy is “relationship material”… that is, if they are in CONTROL of the situation they do.

And yes, at that point you should have shot back:

“So that’s how you think of me… as just a BOOTY CALL? How romantic.”

You know, sometimes I even find it hard to believe that all this strange stuff is true about women and dating.

But, it is…

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

Dave

What are you doing?   Wait I’ll answer that, YOU are   taking away ALL of the fun we get to have! Ok I’ll admit you’re right about most, ok all, of it, but there is still at least ONE thing that I know you have never answered.   If we put a guy into your so called “Friends” category even YOU don’t know how to get him out of it!

JB -Canada

P.S. I recommend you stop selling your books and “advanced tactics” before you do something serious.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, I’m really in danger now, huh?

And you’re right… once a guy is in the “friends” category it’s not easy to get out.

In fact, I tell guys to just walk away and forget about it, because it’s such a pain to try to change.

But, there’s GREAT NEWS!

There are SO MANY women running around on this planet that it DOESN’T MATTER.

Next!

The ironic part is that when you do take the “Next!” attitude and stop treating a woman, who only likes you as a friend, like she’s special, she’ll often change her mind and start liking you.

Go figure.

***COMMENT***

First off, I am an avid reader of your material and I employ it often.   It works – well.   I bought your ebook about a year ago and it was worth every penny. Anyway, enough ass-kissing.   I have a general comment about the whole gift-buying, dinner-buying kissing a woman’s ass concept.   You say that doing such things to win over a woman’s attention are foolish.   I agree wholeheartedly. However, I am in a relationship now with a woman that I really like, and sometimes I want to buy her things or take her out, etc. This isn’t because I feel I have to, but it is because I want to treat her well.   I don’t feel that if I don’t do this, she will leave me.

Therein lies the difference between being foolish and needy about it, and doing it by your own decision.   It is the INTENT behind what you do that is important.   If you do something for a woman because you feel you have to or you will possibly lose her, she can more than likely sense that, and will have limitless amounts of power over you.   If you do something because you want to, then she will sense the apparent confidence in you, and will not necessarily have power over you because of it. Besides, like you say, a woman should want you for YOU – your personality – not what you can buy her or where you can take her. NOTE: I agree that gift-giving, etc. is a somewhat bad idea in the beginning of a relationship for the same reasons you don’t like it.   It makes you appear needy and insecure, and no (emotionally stable) woman wants that in a man.

P.S.   It was your material that helped give me the mentality to get with the girl I am dating currently. Good work fella!

J from Philly

>>>MY COMMENTS:

YES!

You get it!

It’s the intent behind what you’re doing.

I have a little secret that I’m going to share with you. But lean in close, so I can whisper. I don’t want anyone else to hear…

I actually have guy friends who are REALLY good with women who take women to dinner, buy them drinks, etc. when they first meet.

What, you say?

How can this be?

Well, the big difference is that these guys are NOT doing this stuff to GET THE WOMAN’S APPROVAL.

And since EVERYTHING ELSE they’re doing clearly communicates the RIGHT things, they can actually do whatever they want, and still not screw things up.

In other words, if you don’t understand how ATTRACTION works, and you don’t know how to communicate with women in a way that makes them feel it for YOU, then buying drinks and dinner, and giving compliments, and all the other things most guys do will only BACKFIRE.

On the other hand, once you totally understand how and why women feel ATTRACTION, you can do whatever you want.

And later on, when you find a girl that you really like and you’re enjoying a relationship, of course it’s nice to do nice things for her.

Just remember, be very careful.

It’s easy to be lured back to the dark side… and to try to get women to like you by paying for things and taking them places… which it will never do.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I just finished reading your latest newsletter and I had a thought that I wanted to share. You talked a lot about guys chasing women and showering them with gifts to buy their love.   Well, I have a common sense point to make to any of your readers that may be on the fence about buying your materials.

Before I purchased your book, I had doubts because I wasn’t sure it would be worth the money.   To put it into perspective, I thought about all the girls I dated in the past.   Then I roughly added up all the money I had spent on each for dinner, gifts, etc.   (Yes, I know, that was wussy behavior). Well, after totaling up the money, I realized I could have bought all your materials (book, CD and DVD series) for myself and five of my close friends and still had money left over (Yes, I spent that much money on women in the past.   I know, that was bad). Point is, to any guy (or girl) out there, take the money you’re wasting chasing some girl and buy Dave’s book or CD/DVD series.   It’s worth it.

Now to my question.   I know this is getting long but I gave you a plug so you owe me.   Have you taken any courses or read any books on conversation skills? Can you recommend any books on the subject and also on the subject of body language? Thanks,

AG in PA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You’re right-on about one thing…

If most guys added up all the money they’ve WASTED on women, they’d realize what a BAD investment they’ve made (and what a great investment my stuff is! I like your idea… I’m going to tell every guy to get my materials for them and all their friends from now on. Nice!)

The best books I’ve ever read on conversation skills are COMEDY books. I like the book “Comedy Writing Secrets” by Helitzer.

And as far as body language books go, I haven’t found any that I can recommend. The book “Body Language” by Fast, has some interesting stuff in it… but most of it is hard to really grasp.

One of the biggest problems I ran into when I was first learning how to meet women was that things didn’t make sense… and things that “should” work DIDN’T work.

When it comes to women and ATTRACTION the normal rules don’t apply anymore. This area of life is VERY DIFFERENT from other areas, and when you try to apply ideas and techniques from other areas (like conversation skills), you’ll find that they often don’t work AT ALL.

You can walk into a room full of 100 people, and start walking around meeting them.

For 99 of them, walking over and saying, “Hi, how do you know everyone here?” and “So, what do you do?” will work just fine.

But when you find that ONE attractive woman in the room that you’d like to meet, and you want to start an interaction that leads to ATTRACTION, you must do something TOTALLY different.

It’s more than the words you say… it’s a total understanding of what that woman is looking for on a deep, primal, subconscious level… and then to BE that man.

***COMMENT***

Dave,

Sometimes I have to just stop in the middle of your newsletters and take a break because the stuff you deliver is so good that I feel a little overwhelmed… killer stuff!   I love the ebook and CD collection.   I will send some details later.

You really do more good in the lives you touch then you know.   I hope you can truly appreciate that statement and all that it means.   We should all be so fortunate to have such a positive impact on a single life… let alone the many that you influence.

Best regards, E. Chicago, IL

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, someone give me a trophy… or a medal or something.

I really am a wonderful guy, huh?

Trust me, if you had this much fun doing what I’m doing, you’d do it, too…

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave

I’ve been receiving your free newsletter for a few months now and just wanted to say that I’ve found much of what you’ve written   to be helpful, insightful, and most of all funny!   Like a lot of other guys I’ve spent a LOT of time trying to learn how to impress and have success with women, and I like to think that I’ve come quite a long way from the needy, desperate wussy-man I used to be   (and still am on occasion, admittedly).

My question involves one of the ‘testing’ behaviors you described in a previous newsletter. You said that one way women often test men is by canceling plans at the last minute, or by flaking out altogether with little or no notice.   I’ve had this happen to me numerous times and I always assumed these girls were just being careless or inconsiderate… or worse yet, ignoring me in the hopes that I would “get the message” and walk away, without them having to go thru the awkwardness of outright rejecting me!

It never occurred to me that they might be doing it intentionally, and then taking note of my response in order to see if I passed some kind of test.   Is that really what’s going on?   And if so, how do I pass the test?   What is a woman looking for in this type of situation?

Thanks, T

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, it is true that women use things like this to test men… but it’s ALSO true that women do things like this because they want to AVOID CONFRONTATION.

In other words, a woman will sometimes make plans with a guy just to avoid saying “no” in the moment.

But later, she’ll flake or cancel because “something came up”… when she never intended to show up in the first place.

If women are flaking out on you a lot, it’s probably something that YOU’RE doing up front.

In any case, try this:

Next time you’re talking to a woman on the phone and making plans to get together for tea say, “Let me ask you a quick question. Do you ever flake out on things?”

She’ll say, “Not usually” (or some other non-committal thing, most likely).

Say, “Good, because it’s one of those things that I really can’t deal with… people that can’t keep their word…and there are a lot of flaky people in this world.”

That might help.

And if she DOES flake at the last minute, don’t accept it.

If she calls and says, “Oh, something came up…” just answer back, “You know, I was just starting to think you were DIFFERENT from all the flaky women I’ve met”…

Make it clear to women that it is NOT OK to waste your time and they’ll waste it less.

But, if you act nice and sweet and accommodating… and you transmit the message that it’s OK to flake because you’re a nice guy and won’t care, then it will happen to you all the time.

***QUESTION***

hey dave,

i need an answer to a question that has confused the hell out of me. well, i received a bunch of red roses for valentines day from my girlfriend of about 2 months now. i gave her 2 roses, a small teddy bear thing and a short card with a bit of c+f talk. i figured that i had made a bit of a mistake by buying her this much, but when i gave it all to her she looked so happy and told me that SHE owed ME bigtime for what i had done. the rest of the day i had no problems with kissing her or anything else. my question is, why havent i been seen as a wuss to her? i know that in most other scenarios, buying this much stuff would have got me nowhere.

by the way, your research and advice is all spot on. its helped me to attract loads of girls, including my current girlfriend. thanks and keep up the great work mate.

S, AUSTRALIA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah!

The reason she said that she “owes you big time” is because of the WAY you did it.

When you incorporate the attitude into all of your communication with women, it has a HUGE impact.

The fact that you:

1) Did something thoughtful (the card, two flowers, etc.)

2) AND you said Cocky & Funny things in the card

…clearly communicated that you were NOT doing this because you wanted to kiss up to her and get her approval.

One of the greatest things you can do is EVERY time you do something nice for a girl and she THANKS you for it say, “Yeah, you owe me” in a sarcastic tone.

Then, later, get her to pay up.

Personally, I like massages.

There’s something magical about always putting a high value on yourself, your time, and your attention. If you put a high value on it, women will too.

…and a couple of final thoughts…

There are two KEY aspects of learning how to be successful with women and dating:

1) The Inner Game

2) The Outer Game

The INNER GAME is all about learning how to THINK and how to manage your thoughts and emotions. It’s also about understanding how and why attractive women feel that amazing emotion called ATTRACTION for some men and not for MOST men.

The OUTER GAME is all of the techniques, what to say and such.

Which is more important?

Well, they’re BOTH important.

But what I notice is that most guys want to learn the OUTER GAME first.

In other words, they want the pick up lines, the fancy tricks, and other things.

I can remember when I first started learning this stuff.

I had this idea in my mind that if I could learn how to get women to give me their numbers that I’d be the MAN.

Well, I learned that. I can get just about any woman’s phone number in just a few minutes.

But guess what?

Once I learned how to get women’s phone numbers, I ran into a much BIGGER issue… the women usually flaked out on me, didn’t show up, etc.

And the ones that DID show up were difficult.

Nothing happened.

I realized that there had to be more.

And, as it turns out, there is. A LOT more, in fact.

The REASON that the “Inner Game” is so important is that attractive women don’t judge you on your “pick up lines”.

And just because a woman gives you her phone number or email address DOES NOT mean that she FEELS anything inside (like ATTRACTION).

Women don’t DECIDE to feel ATTRACTION for a man.

ATTRACTION is something that happens on its own, for its own reasons.

Attraction Isn’t A Choice!

The way to cause women to feel ATTRACTION for you is to UNDERSTAND how and why it works, and then communicate in a way that makes it happen.

And, if you haven’t had a chance to download my eBook Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Womenthen you need to do that now. You can download it and be reading it within a few minutes…

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If you’ve tried all kinds of techniques, and nothing seems to “work”, then you need to work on your Inner Game. When you get the inner game together, everything will start to work a LOT better…

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Dear Dave,

You are an awesome teacher. Since using your material (the e-book and the CDs) I have increase my dating life by many-folds. It has become a lot easier to be Cocky and funny; it feels like second nature at this time and a part of my personality.

I have two questions: One, where can I find old newsletters? I save all your newsletters but I accidentally erased about ten of them from my e-mail account. I really would like to re-read some of them but I cannot find them anywhere on the web.

The second question is: What do you do in a situation where you have set up a coffee date with a woman and she blows you off by not showing up? The problem specifically is how do you react when you see this woman again. I work out in a local gym and had asked one of the personal trainers to coffee. However, I was stood up and I see her everyday. Would you respond by ignoring her (which seems childish and behaving in the immature manner she treated me by not respecting me and my time) or by talking to her ( and thereby acting like a spineless wimp) ? Any input would be greatly appreciated.

Disciple in D.C.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I want to answer your question FIRST with another question:

WHOSE PROBLEM IS IT THAT SHE BLEW YOU OFF AND FLAKED?

Hmm.

It all depends on your perspective.

When a woman flakes out on me, I see it as a HUGE mistake that SHE made.

So, if/when I see her again, I shake my head in disappointment and say, “Well, you sure missed out on a good time.”

And then, regardless of what she says (unless her mom died or she lost a leg in a car accident), I just give her the “You’re a flaky woman with no integrity” disappointed look and walk away.

Again I ask you: WHOSE PROBLEM IS IT?

Do you really want to go out with a woman who is flaky?

Don’t let it bother you. Just move on. Many women are flakes.

And to answer your second question about where to find my past newsletters:

Nowhere. You must stay tuned!

***QUESTION***

Dave i just have to say that your CD Audio Series kicks some major ASS!! there IS a god, and in this case it’s you man! i haven’t EVER gotten so much out of any help program such as this one. i absolutely love it and anyone who purchases it will NEVER want their money back! however, i have a question concerning gift ideas for those involved in relationships. i am desperate for gift ideas for my girlfriend that I’ve been dating for 7 months now.

of course, there are also other times that couples should exchange gifts: birthdays, valentine’s day, and the BIG ONE… the one year anniversary! i desperately need help with these as well. what have u gotten your long- term girlfriends for Christmas? their birthday? on valentine’s day? the one year anniversary? I’m the type of guy who just HATES to spend a ton of money but i want to make everything perfect for this girl because we love each other so any ideas on gifts would be greatly appreciated. thanks a million and keep up the good work!

-R.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, as I have to mention EVERY time I answer a “relationship” type question, I DON’T USUALLY DO THIS.

But, you can be my monthly exception…

The reason I like your question is because it calls up another BIGGER ISSUE… and that issue is when and if it becomes appropriate to start doing all the things that I try to get guys NOT to do in the beginning with women (take them out, buy them gifts, give them flowers, etc.).

As it turns out, most men that I know (and most men that I meet and talk to who order my eBook and other products) really WANT TO BE GENEROUS.

In other words, I think that deep down, most of us really want to treat women VERY WELL.

We WANT to do nice, thoughtful things for a special woman, and have her do nice, thoughtful things in return.

Amen?

The problem comes when we go overboard and start using gifts and favors TOO MUCH, and start communicating to the woman that WE ARE OWNED BY HER.

If you’re going to do wonderful things for a woman that you care about, make sure that you do things that MAKE AN IMPACT. And make sure that they AREN’T PREDICTABLE.

If you want to give her a nice gift that doesn’t cost a lot of money then cook her a meal, then give her a massage, and finally wrap up with feeding her fruit in bed… etc.

Women want things that communicate THOUGHTFULNESS. Not that they don’t enjoy diamonds… lol. But if you do something that
says, “I was thinking about you, and I wanted you to have a great experience”, it will make FAR more of an impact than an expensive gift that wasn’t chosen with care.

But, as I mentioned, don’t OVERDO the gifts and favors… don’t ever become PREDICTABLE.

And, interestingly enough, this can be a great test to see how a woman can handle extra-nice treatment. If she starts acting overly demanding and spoiled after you give her a gift of thoughtful experience, then you might have a damaged woman on your hands. Pay attention.

OK, that’s it for my non- relationship relationship ideas.

***QUESTION***

Before you hand me my award for wussiness, know I wasn’t always this way. In fact, I used to date several girls at a time, who were supposed to be prude, and were religious, and managed to get them obsessed with me. My problem is that my ex spent 1.5 years wussifying me. I’m trying to break out of it, but I have so much free time, and so few friends. I started going to the gym, and taking guitar lessons, but I don’t know what else to do!

Every time I get a girl interested, I panic. I’m taking a girl out to lunch Monday before our Accounting final. She is actually a good example. Every time I showed interest in her she got annoyed. I blew her off a few days ago when she walked with me and my friend, Wednesday she was all over me. When I asked her to lunch she already started to seem to lose interest. What do I do? How do I get her to like me in a way that’s not very noticeable? What should I do on Monday?

JC Beverly Hills, CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, well I’m still going to hand you the Big Wuss award for this week, man.

What did I hear you say?

That your “Ex” spent 1.5 years wussifying YOU?

No no noooooo…

IT WAS YOU that spent 1.5 years HAPPILY BEING TRAINED AS A WORLD CLASS WUSSY.

You… you… you did it!

Now that we’re back to reality and accepting responsibility for our own behavior, let’s talk about what to do about it.

What the hell are you doing “asking a woman to lunch”?

Haven’t you been paying attention to anything I say?

lol… no, obviously not.

When you “ask a woman out on a date”, you’re basically saying, “Hi, I’m interested in you in a romantic way, and I’d like to buy you some food so you’ll think of me as a wonderful provider, and then maybe we can go out on some more dates that I’ll pay for and then get into a relationship… if I’m lucky and you’ll accept me”.

Duh.

Instead of asking a woman out to lunch tell her, “Hey, I’m going to get a cup of tea. Come along and entertain me. And I don’t mean with that usual boring stuff that you talk about.”

It sounds to me like you’re probably LEANING into women and putting STRANGE EMOTIONAL PRESSURE on them in a very subtle way when you’re “asking them out”.

Stop that!

Lean back, and use what you’re learning here from me.

Your “inner wuss” needs to be evicted!

***QUESTION***

Dave, I’ve been receiving your newsletters for sometime now and have to say a lot of the stuff I read is very useful. Now you need to help me please !!! I’m having real trouble with the whole (spur of the moment) thing. By the time I think of a good thing to say in that particular situation, the moments passed. Here come the examples. About a week ago I was at a club which was quite packed, now im just standing there when I feel someone grab me round the waist, I turn around to see a stunning brunette standing behind me smiling, and what did I say to her, absolutely nothing !!!! Now this is the one im really kicking myself about.

Yesterday I went my barbers only to see that a new girl had started. Stunning blond about 17, you know the type. Anyway, first I caught here looking at me more than a few times, then we exchanged a few smiles. There was quite a long wait to be seen, then the next thing I know she brings me a coffee with a sexy smile, none of the other 10 lads who were in there waiting get one and they all looked quite surprised. I kept on thinking to myself, “im gonna ask her out in a minute” the next thing I know I’ve been done and walking out having not said a word.

I guess your now gonna tell me I need a good hard slap and my head seeing to …. lol But what I need to know is, is it to late to phone up and ask her out, and if I did could I use any of the things that happened, to my advantage using the C&F routine ???

Thanks in advance, keep up the good work !!! P uk

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I have to be honest with you.

You are a dork.

But, the good news is that you’re not alone. I have been in the situations you just mentioned a bazillion times in my past, and I missed probably hundreds of opportunities.

So, this dork virus that you have isn’t terminal.

Here’s exactly what to do next time these things happen:

Say, “Hey, what’s your name?”

Then, after they give it to you say, “Do you have email?”

…and if the answer is “Yes”, then give her a pen and have her write it down!

It’s that easy.

Really.

***QUESTION***

So I’ve tested it, and it works like I wouldn’t have believed. My ex-girlfriend that I’m back with again can’t do much about it…recently, she said with a real smile: “You made fun of me from day one!” with kind of a hint! hint! attitude of “and please do more of that”. If a woman wants to tell you she’s really into you, she’ll normally say ANYTHING but “I really like you” or so. More like “You’re so funny” or “You’re so nasty”, all with a smile. Almost always something in the “You’re so…” category.

Then there’s something else I’ve noticed…

When you talked about how mothers raise boys to be wussies, I gave the “why” a little thought…ever said something fresh or wisecrackish to mom? Generally, you unleash the fire of the dragon about how you’d better never, ever do that again.

How come mothers (and teachers, for that matter) respond so negatively when their sons behave C&F when other girls love it? Well…C&F is disarming and hits women in a spot where they can feel their power over you diminish to zero. And no mother wants a kid who subtly communicates “I don’t give a damn about what you think of me” and such, let alone have a kid who has power over her. No way! As long as he’s the wussy (and not the other way round!), we can play happy family.

Greetings, LM from Liechtenstein

>>>MY COMMENTS:

STOP RIGHT NOW AND REREAD THE ABOVE!

NOW READ IT ONE MORE TIME.

OK, this is good stuff.

Many of us were raised by mom to be nice, sweet, kind, respectful and ASS KISSING to women.

What does this get us?

I don’t need to answer that question because you know as well as I do what it gets us.

Be nice to mom, but don’t treat a woman that you’re interested in the same way you treat her!

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I’ve read your book, and decided to test the ideas last weekend. I went to a bar with a friend, and pretty soon we were in the company of three women, so I started being cocky and funny and busting their balls. At first it seemed they liked it, but as the night progressed, they started to say ‘you are too much’ or, when another girl came up to us and I advanced to use your tactics on her, they told her ‘watch out’. One girl even called me annoying (never happened to me before). Only one of them, who had a bad girl look, seemed to totally enjoy what I was doing, but on the other hand I didn’t get to talk much to her because first I busted her balls, and when she wanted to smoke, I ordered her to move to the opposite end of the table. She gave me a hug later.

So my conclusion is that being cocky and funny nonstop 100% of the time is overkill. I guess I need to follow some kind of normal conversation, sometimes spicing it up with cocky and funny remarks. Whatdayathink? Thank you,

Nick P. Tallahassee, FL

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, the comedy of it all.

So, you went out ONCE and talked to a total of FOUR women… and got some pretty positive overall results…and you’re questioning the entire process.

I’ll tell you what.

Go out 10 times, and talk to 10 women each time you go out. Do this over the next 2-4 weeks, and then report back at the end.

You can’t go out ONCE and then know all there is to know about how women will respond to Cocky & Funny.

You have to practice. You have to get used to it. You have to talk to a bunch of women to see how they all respond differently.

This stuff isn’t magic, but it often works almost as well.

And what were you doing “in the company of three women” for long enough that the night “progressed”?

Why didn’t you just ask all of them for their emails and numbers when you first met them… and then moved on to the next group?

If your answer is, “Well, I wanted to take one of them home with me that night” that’s OK, but I recommend that if you’re not skilled enough to do that on a predictable basis that you GET THE DIGITS AND MOVE ON… you’ll have better overall success that way.

***QUESTION***

David,

Your ebook completely changed the way I have always believed how a man should act when approaching women in order to get her attracted. I used to try so hard to treat women nicely but at the end I turned myself into a big wuss and ended up going nowhere. Sometimes, even now, I am still wondering why the C&F stuff attracts women because I feel like somehow it’s just simply another way of being arrogant except that it’s a little more subtle. I guess it’s just like what you said, things don’t always make sense. As long as it works and gets the result, who cares whether it makes sense or not?

The reason why I am writing you today is because I have two questions that I would like to ask and any advice would be appreciated. The SECOND QUESTION maybe sensitive to some of the readers out there and therefore you may just want to respond privately.

1) Through my experience, I have realized that once a woman has categorized me into the “no” group, it’s impossible to get out of it. Basically I mean the first impression is EXTREMELY important. If I can’t show her my C&F side in the beginning and once I am considered a provider but not a lover, there is NO WAY OUT. I have found that getting a second chance to redeem myself extremely difficult. Is there a way to change a woman’s mind if this is the case?

2) I came from the Far East and I have been living in the U.S. for over 10 years. I noticed that women in this country would date their own men, Hispanics, Europeans and those from the Middle East. However, I rarely, I mean really rarely see an Asian guy dating an American woman over the last so many years. I thought a lot about it and think that this is because many of these people fall into the “Lover” groups you mentioned in one of your books – the Adventurers, Seducers, Artists and Bad Boys.

Meanwhile, my believe is that Asians are typically considered nice guys which means providers. Our culture has been traditionally emphasized on “keep the harmony, don’t be arrogant, give compliments, don’t rock the boat, etc.” and therefore I feel that many us may find the C&F idea difficult to follow due to what we have been taught.

Let’s just say that we get rid of this problem and finally learn how to be C&F, the problem is now how to convince a woman not to stereotype me as a provider before I even open my mouth and have a chance to prove myself. I fear that most of the women out there automatically put me into the “no” or provider category as soon as they see me.

Dave, TX

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, to answer your first question…

I get a TON of email from guys who are looking for the answer to the magic question, “How do I get a woman who I’ve convinced not to like me to give me a second chance?”

The answer is: DON’T. JUST MOVE ON.

It’s not worth the time, effort, and energy.

The best thing you can do is stop calling her, start dating other women, and if you can, make sure she finds out that you’ve moved on.

Get on with your life. And, ironically, that will give you the best chances of her feeling attracted to you again.

To answer your second point…

I have friends of all races, colors, sizes, ages, etc. and I’ve found that looks are SECONDARY.

All other things being equal, a six-foot three guy who is 21 years old, a multi-millionaire, drives a Ferrari, and is famous, will have an easier time meeting women…

But, I have one friend who is about 5′4″ tall, ASIAN, and has an average income who is UNREAL when it comes to meeting women. He’s always surrounded by a group of hot young women who love him.

Why? Because he GETS IT!

And I believe that you can to, no matter what your looks, age, race, etc.

***QUESTION***

So far I’ve read a lot of good advice on how to handle some of the most common situations with women. But one thing still remains a mystery for me: I have the most trouble initiating a conversation and namely one that will lead to getting her number or setting up a date etc. If i see a woman walking down the hall of my college or maybe even at the store, how do I approach her and start a conversation without seeming like just another “jerk” guy who is trying to get her into bed. I would like to meet women and have them be actually attracted to me not just have encounters. I never know what to say, I mean sure I could introduce myself but then what?

And also once the conversation has started, when is a good time to ask for a number? How much conversation is a good amount or what type of “level” should a conversation reach so that she will feel comfortable about giving her number out? Generally I like having friends introduce me to someone because it gives me a good starting point and we both have something in common to talk about: a mutual friend.

And once it gets rolling I have no problems, even though I am not the best looking guy. As you said in your last letter even regular guys benefit from this and its true I am average at about everything but I have my share of women. Initiating conversations with women I don’t know or any of my friends know is the toughest for me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks and keep up the good work!

JS Chicago, IL

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Good question.

This is a question that is top- of-mind for just about every single adult male on the planet, by the way.

So, first I have to pick apart the WAY you asked the question.

Then I’ll give you some ideas…

I noticed that you wrote:

“…how do I approach her and start a conversation without seeming like just another “jerk” guy who is trying to get her into bed…”

Do you think that most women are approached a lot in the hall or at stores by “jerk guys who are trying to get them into bed”?

And it also sounds to me like you have the concepts of “jerk” and “wanting to get her into bed” linked together in your mind.

In my experience, a woman won’t think of you as a “jerk” unless either:

1. She’s dating you, you’re abusive, and she can’t figure out why she can’t bring herself to break up with you.

2. You’re the kind of guy that OBVIOUSLY has no game at all whatsoever, but you’re trying to talk to her in a sexually suggestive way.

Are you with me here?

Women don’t automatically think of regular guys who stop them in the hall or at the bookstore as “jerks”.

And this is ESPECIALLY true if you’re interesting, charming, and comfortable with yourself.

You feel me?

So the first thing you need to do is STOP USING YOUR WONDERFUL, CREATIVE IMAGINATION TO LIMIT YOURSELF!

I know MANY guys that approach women all the time… in the hall, in the store, at clubs, on the Internet, and every other place on the planet… and I’ve heard of VERY, VERY few instances where something bad came of it.

And, in fact, the worst I’ve EVER heard of is having a drink thrown in your face or a slap.

I’ve never heard of:

1. Permanent bodily injury

2. Death

3. Irreparable damage to self esteem

(Although I’m sure that some dumb-ass somewhere on the planet has figured out a way to have one of these things happen to him as a result of approaching a woman… and he probably deserved it, at that.)

The point is that if you start a conversation with a woman, IT’S GOING TO BE OK.

And, if you do it in an interesting, charming way there’s a VERY good chance that a woman will give you her name and email/number.

And, if you DON’T start talking to her, then the chances are very close to ZERO that you’ll get her email/number.

Here, try this:

Next time you walk by a girl in the hall, look her right in the eye and give her a slight smile.

Then say, “Hey, can I ask you a question?”

When she stops and says, “Sure”, say:

“Are you single?”

If she asks, “Why?” say:

“Well, I know someone who I think would REALLY find you attractive. He’s nice, funny, interesting… and I think you might like him.” And smile in a knowing way as you say all of this, hinting that you might be talking about yourself.

Then ask, “Do you have email?”

If she asks if you’re talking about yourself, just look at her and say, “Maybe”.

Get her email and say, “I’ll have him email you”. Then walk away.

This is a fun way to start a conversation, and the direct “Are you single?” question really throws women off balance for a moment.

There are an unlimited number of ways to start conversations with women, and I recommend that you check out some of my products for more great info.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I just have one simple question for you. Since women are not attracted to wussies…why the hell do our mothers raise us to act this way and tell us that this is what girls want in a man?

MCH

Detroit, MI

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, as we discussed in an earlier Q&A, your mom wasn’t ATTRACTED to you, dude.

At least I hope not.

Whatever.

LISTEN: Your mom probably can’t even REMEMBER what it’s like to feel a GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for a man, and even if she CAN remember it, she’s not going to be able to EXPLAIN TO YOU HOW TO DO IT.

Moms have experience.

They know that guys who arouse sexual passions in a woman are usually BAD NEWS, and they don’t want you to turn out that way.

Moms universally give HORRIBLE advice to sons on how to make women feel ATTRACTION for them.

I could go on, but I think you get my point.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave, *bowing “We’re Not WORTHY !! * :-)

I have always had a good funny streak, but was always Mr. Chivalry and then wondering why I had so many “friends” but no “dates”. They “say” thats what they “want”, but now I know better!! Plus I was always down on myself because I have a hereditary skin condition that sometimes flares and looks really bad. (but I have since found out, using this material, they really don’t care once they find out it isn’t contagious !! :-) ).

Been getting your newsletters for a couple months now. I don’t know which one of my buddies signed me up for them, but if I ever find out, Ill buy him a round!! They must have known this was EXACTLY what I NEEDED!! :-) Mucho Grassyass to both You and whoever it was that signed me up!! I have been putting to good use what info comes out of the newsletters, and I’ve gone from sitting at home on Friday and Saturday nights to forgetting that I had 2 or 3 lined up on the same night and having to cancel one or more. Ooops ! I’m just not used to having to “schedule” women :-)

I thought I would write in on how knowing how to “recognize” BEING A WUSS does have its advantages!

A few weeks ago I started dating this one gal – a 6, maybe 7, but an 8 personality. She started to get all clingy and calling all the time, but I don’t have time to sit on the phone with non-customers (not getting paid) all day. She was starting to get annoying. But I don’t have a mean bone in my body, enough to tell her to scram.

I had a slow week coming up, I remembered everything from the newsletters, and decided to use it OPPOSITE of the intended purpose. I started calling HER all the time, stopping by her work bringing her lunch, would call and ask if I could come over in the evenings, etc. When we did go out, I would purposely act like I didn’t care where we went, and made her decide.

Basically, to quote words of THE master, “THE ULTIMATE WUSS BAG” !! I mean, I poured it on worse than before I started getting the newsletters, because I NOW KNEW what to do and HOW to do it!

Well, Dave (and anyone else reading), it worked like a charm!! She started saying how different we were and that maybe I should date other women as well. When I heard that line, I knew I was on my way to FREEDOM!! :-) Another day or so of it, to make sure it “took hold”, and haven’t talked to her since. And I’m betting she is not upset in the least.

Now I’m back to my same old problem though: I have 3 women – maybe a 4th (an ex GF from a few months ago, who basically dumped me cuz I was a wus, has started calling again…roflmao) lined up for this Saturday. But as the old adage goes – “Better to have too much than not enough”, right? :-) (I think Ill cancel the ex’s, just to show her what “she got rid of”..lol )

I do think I need to invest in a PDA, though, before I get your CD’s/DVD’s and REALLY get myself into serious trouble :-)

Thanks for all the great stuff! KTF Austin, TX

P.S. I told my one buddy your line “Give her the gift of missing you”, and Im pretty sure he has now signed up and may be getting your book soon! :-) Cheers!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I CAN’T BELIEVE IT!

My friends and I make jokes about doing this all the time… but you actually did it!

This is totally out of control.

Of course, as soon as you started acting like a total Wussy, she stopped liking you.

What else would she do?

lol… this great stuff. Thanks for the letter.

***QUESTION***

Sup Dave..

I’ve been getting your newsletter for a couple of months now, and I must admit the material is 100 proof. I’ve always been pretty decent with women, but never consistent. It wasn’t till I started reading your stuff, that I realized there’s a formula to this.

OK, quick question. Thanks to your material, I’ve stepped up my game and hooked up with a 9.5 (physically)… who actually “gets it”. I mean this girl can go toe to toe with the best at c&f…and this makes for an unbelievable connection. I almost lost her several times, due to that wuss urge…but thanks to your material I’ve always recovered and managed to stay pretty much in control of things.

My question is..now that things are going good, how do I get her to show more initiative. She’s willing to do pretty much anything I suggest, but getting her to initiate plans is a rarity. Same goes with physical contact, she’s down for whatever.. but I’m always the one to get it started. Don’t get me wrong, by no means am I overwhelming her with date proposals, or affection…but I’m at a point where I want her to “stroke my ego” a little by making the first move, and making a brother feel desired. I’m sure plenty of readers out there can relate (hopefully I’m not the only one). I’m not asking for a magic word or anything, but there has to be some solution here.. this girl has definitely got long term potential (I know, not your area)..but this nonchalant thing is working my last nerves. An answer to this question would take my game to the next level. What say you??

N. Roms Brooklyn, NY

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if things are going so well, then who cares about “her showing initiative”?

It’s attractive to women when a man leads, so if it’s working for you, then keep it up.

Just don’t overdo it!

Lean back, and give her space in between.

Remember, if she’s a “9.5″, then she gets offers ALL THE TIME from men, and she is completely used to the idea of men offering her things, calling her, etc.

It might just be that her model of the world revolves around this idea.

Just keep doing what works!

***QUESTION***

David-

Soon after I began receiving your mailbags (6 months ago) I purchased your ebook. I was inspired to buy it after having success with the tips in the mailbags. You have absolutely changed the way I view women and dating. I was completely blown away by the success I had after integrating your theories about the concept of attraction into my lifestyle.

I used to be nervous and timid (a wuss bag) around women, but with your help I have learned to interact with women on a level that I never thought possible. I have found that when I interact with women in this way (C/F, confident, etc.), they go through a few stages: First, THEY are the ones who become nervous, etc., as if this is something that they have NEVER experienced before.

After this first “shock” stage, they become VERY intrigued. Naturally following this, attraction sets in. From here, I decide whether or not I would like to intensify the attraction (is this a woman I would like to date, or is she just good practice?). If I decide that yes, I am interested in this woman, I lead them into “stage three”, wherein I continue to use your techniques and they continue to feel attraction for me. Using this formula, I attracted a woman that I decided was worth dating.

We are now in a relationship, and I am very much into her (she is emotionally stable, always honest with me, and not to mention stunningly beautiful) but I have a couple problems. Often times, she gives me signals that she does not feel secure in the relationship, as if I am about to drop her at any moment for another girl. Perhaps this is because I don’t at all hang on her, and I talk about other women. Although I do these things, part of me wants to tell her that I love her and I absolutely do not want out of the relationship. How can I relay this to her without

A) looking like a wussie, or B) giving her power in the relationship?

Also, should I continue to talk about other women around her, which makes her jealous, or am I being manipulative? I have found this to be very effective, but I do not always feel good about it. I realize that you do not often talk about relationships, but any insights you have would be very much appreciated. You truly are a pioneer in this field.

-T, minnesota

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, I’m going to address this one because it’s also relevant to guys who have only gone out with a woman a few times and the woman is acting this way (insecure, etc.).

A few observations:

1. INSECURITY is a problem that SHE ALREADY HAS. It just so happens that your behaviors are allowing you to see it sooner than most guys would.

2. It’s ALMOST ALWAYS good when the woman you’re dating knows that other women are attracted to you.

3. You should not change your behavior to suit a woman. In other words, if it’s natural for you to talk to women, then talk to them. If you’re ONLY doing it to make her jealous, then this is probably an insecure behavior on YOUR part.

I’ve personally found that if I start to tell a woman, “Oh, baby, you’re the only one for me and I want to be with you forever and ever, and you should feel secure in the relationship no matter what” that the only thing it accomplishes is her seeing me as a Wuss Bag.

If she isn’t secure in herself, then she’s not going to be secure in the relationship… and there’s probably not much you can do about that except hope that she grows out of it.

I think that most of us KNOW where the line is between “reassuring the woman we love that we’re in this for the long term” and “giving up our power”.

Just don’t cross the line.

***COMMENT***

Dave,

I am in the process of purchasing your book but I can tell you before hand that this stuff works. I’m buying because I haven’t been as successful as I would like. I’ll give you two quick examples attesting that your system works. The 1st is happened in a jazz club I would frequent when I lived in Ft. Lauderdale, FL. I started talking to a girl at the bar & was my usual C&F self. I was giving her a real rash of s..t. & she was returning it.

After about an hour, because I felt I was being too tough on her I said, “Let’s start over. Hi. My name is ….. What’s yours”. I knew I had made a mistake when she looked at me strange & said, “And I was just getting to like you”. Then mumbled something about how she was ready to cook me dinner. I ended up flunking the test.

The second time was with a girl that worked in my off. I worked days, her on the night shift. The boss told me how great looking she was so I decided to stay late one night & find out. He was right. She was gorgeous with a awesome bod. However, she came in one night wearing a huge pear shaped diamond on her wedding ring finger so I assumed that meant, “I’m taken”.

The next night, no ring, & blouse unbuttoned more than I expected giving me a wonderful sight. She finally agreed to see an outdoor jazz concert & I was my usual sarcastic self. On the 3rd date she told me she said how she hated me the 1st time we dated because I was so sarcastic but the more we dated the more she liked me but then said, “but I’m not ready to go to bed”. I said, “Have I been pressuring you”? She said, “No. You’re different & besides that , you make me laugh”. Problem, I thought my position was secure & I turned into Mr. Wus. & lost out. This is a girl I never would have asked out normally because she was so good looking & sexy. We’re not kids either. I was 49, her 42. It took me years to see what I have been doing wrong, & no matter what women say, they don’t want a “NICE” guy. Now with your help I will be able to improve my strategy.

Thanks R. C. Houston, TX

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, good choice getting my book.

I’ll tell you – women LOVE it when you’re challenging, funny, and charming… and they don’t quite know what’s happening.

When you do the old “I just want to tell you seriously that all this Cocky & Funny stuff is just play and I actually like you and want to take you out” thing, you INSTANTLY kill the sexual tension in the situation.

This is another way of communicating. You can’t all-of-a-sudden stop and say, “Let’s start over. Hi, my name is Mr. Wussy, what’s yours?”

Oh, and NEVER ask, “Have I been pressuring you?” That REALLY makes you sound like a world-class Girly Man.

When you find something that works, KEEP DOING IT!

***QUESTION***

David:

I just purchased your Advanced Series; I can’t wait to listen to it.

I recently saw firsthand what being cocky around a woman can do. I was at a party with some people from my work, and I started talking with this one girl (Actually, she started talking to me). Anyway, she was telling me how she had to wear a different dress because the zipper got stuck on the other one. A friend of mine who will say anything to anyone at anytime then asked her “Why, because your ass is too big?” Now, I would never think of saying such a thing, and she seemed a bit appalled at first, but guess who she proceeded to talk to the rest of the night? Oh, by the way, he also told her he liked “the dye in her hair.”

I have one question for you: I met a girl at a party on a Halloween weekend. I made a joke about her costume, she played along with it, then when I told her I was leaving she voluntarily gave me her number. I called her twice, but she didn’t return my calls. In the meantime, I was trying to set up a date with another girl who promptly answered my calls, but let’s just say she looked a lot better at the club with the lights down low. So now I want to call the hot one, but I don’t want to look stupid because I waited so long. What do you think?

Thanks, J San Diego

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ha!

I have to say, it takes game to look a woman right in the eye and ask, “Why, because your ass is too big?” LOL!

I’ve done similar things, but you’d better make sure that it’s funny.

Not for the weak of heart!

And to answer your question about calling the cute girl back.

Look, in the book, “The Rules” (the one that teaches women how to play games to get a man to marry them), the authors recommend that women NOT call men, and RARELY return their calls.

So, don’t worry about it.

Some guys don’t like to call women more than once or twice, but I ask you this:

What is there to lose?

If you have to call her once a week for five weeks until you get a hold of her, what have you wasted?

Five extra minutes dialing the phone?

So what?

Now, if you’re feeling like a needy little puppy, and you’re calling her five times A DAY trying to get a hold of her, that’s a different story.

As long as you’re getting on with your life, keeping busy, and dating other women, then keep trying until you reach her.

I’ll personally keep calling a woman until either:

1. She tells me to stop calling her (which has never happened)

2. I get too busy to care anymore (which happens all the time)

3. I set up a meeting with her

You’re getting this stuff down, so keep at it!

And if you’re reading this right now and thinking to yourself “Wow, It’s REALLY time that I got this area of my life together… and learned how to be more successful with women and dating…” then I have five words for you:

YOU’RE DAMN RIGHT IT IS.

OK, technically that might be six words.

Here’s what I recommend:

FIRST, go and download yourself a copy of my online eBook Double Your Dating.

Inside Double Your Dating I’m going to introduce you to all of the main ideas and key techniques that I learned and developed over several YEARS of working to figure this stuff out for MYSELF.

The new Second Edition has been updated and improved, and now has “Action Step Chapter Summaries” at the end of each chapter… so you can review quickly once you’ve read the book. Think about it this way: You can review a couple of chapters worth of main concepts in just a few minutes… before going out, before a date, etc. Very valuable.

You can go and download it to your computer RIGHT NOW and be reading it within a few minutes. It’s here:

Free Dating Tips For Men

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Hi Dave,

I just bought the advanced CD series & it’s amazing what a difference they make over the book. Being able to listen on the way to work, whilst out doing chores, etc. is cool. I can feel the confidence building inside me, it’s like my own personal coach.

The C&F doesn’t come naturally to me at present so I’ve taken your advice and am using the internet as a ‘woman simulator’ in order to practice. I’ve had mixed results so far, I think a few took the teasing the wrong way as some of them would suddenly stop replying.

I must be better at the C&F than I thought though. The first time I went on this site I was chatting to a few girls and one of them ended up giving me her mobile and asking if we could go for coffee before I had chance to.

Anyway my question: You suggest that a date should simply be ‘tea & stimulating conversation’, which for all of the reasons you give makes perfect sense to me. But once I’ve done the tea & conversation with this girl, do you have any suggestions for other dates where I can come across as the ‘lover’ instead of the ‘provider’. The only one where I wouldn’t end up having to shell out (buy her stuff) that I can think of is a walk along the river or something, but that’s rather dependant on the weather.

Thanks for changing my life.

AIB – London, UK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, well you’re welcome for the “changing your life” thing. Glad to help.

Now, you’re kind of mixing up a couple of concepts that I never intended to “depend” on one another…

If you want to know where to take a woman for dates, that shouldn’t be confused with whether or not you come across as a “lover” personality, and not a “provider” personality to her.

Let me ask you something… what is a “date”?

What do you think that the purpose of a “date” is?

Now, I call my material Double Your Dating, but what I DON’T mean is “take women out to dinner twice as much as you used to”.

The word “Dating” is simply a word that all of us guys understand to mean “romantic interactions with women”.

So I use it.

But if you want to have more romantic interactions with women, that does NOT mean that you need to “take women out on dates” in order to do it.

Are you with me?

I mean, what do couples do a year after they get together…?

They stay home most of the time, do normal things like go shopping, and generally behave like they did before they met.

This whole “going out to dinner” ritual is really an amazing concept.

It’s awesome how powerful it is… and how guys really believe that they need to do it (or similar things) in order to get a woman’s attention in a romantic way.

Here’s the bottom line:

If you want a woman to think of you as a “lover”, then BE ONE.

If you want her to think of you as a provider, then just BE ONE.

What you haven’t quite realized fully yet is that when you know how to trigger ATTRACTION in a woman, all the “normal” rules go away.

If a woman feels that powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you, then she’ll do ANYTHING with you… just to be in your presence and have your attention.

If you have dialed up the ATTRACTION, then all you need to say is “come over here”.

No dates required.

Now, if you buy her dinner 10 times, call her 3 times a day, and chase her around, then it will be EXPECTED that you continue this pattern… and provide for her.

NOTE: If you’re buying a woman dinner twice a week, giving her flowers, calling her every day, and basically “chasing” her, then you can be about 80% sure that there’s another guy in the picture… but guess what? He’s the one who SHE calls, and he’s the one who says “Come over later, I’m busy now”… no dates required.

If you want to be a LOVER to a woman, then DO IT.

You don’t need to wait until the third time out for coffee or tea.

You’ll learn that ATTRACTION doesn’t have a timeline.

It happens VERY QUICKLY, if you know how to trigger it… and you don’t need a lot of “date ideas” once you do.

And now that I’ve avoided your question for a page or two, let me answer with this:

I often take women to do “regular” things with me. I’ll take them to the grocery store to shop with me, out to the mall to pick things up, and down to the bookstore to buy a book.

First, start BEING the LOVER immediately.

Then, notice how women DON’T CARE what you do together, as long as she’s with you.

***SUCCESS STORY***

David, Just wanted to say that after reading your material, I experienced a mental shift. I now see situations in terms of: was I self-referenced (C & F Man) or externally referenced (wussie boy)? It is now very clear that success in anything comes to leaders not followers and women hate dealing with followers. For example look at little boys dealing with little girls when they are playing together. They boss them around, make them play by their rules and those girls grow up expecting men to lead them. Just watch any John Garfield or Lee Marvin movie. Leaders get the girl, wussies get to be used and discarded. I’ve made my choice.

Thanks David E from Chi

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Good. Now help me get the word out to the other 3 billion guys on the planet.

You’re right. Women don’t like men who are FOLLOWERS.

Women aren’t ATTRACTED to men who are FOLLOWERS.

But guess what? Most men FOLLOW anyway.

Thanks for reminding us that we need to LEAD.

Leading creates ATTRACTION. Following creates the curious dry feeling.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave– I definitely have to give it to you. You are “da shizznitt”,lol. Your DYD dvd series has really changed my entire life. I now feel like I am in control of “My World”. I was a little hesitant about buying your product… but I just said “What the Hell…What can I loose???” I am military and in my spare time I am a bartender. You know what that means… I see females out the izzass, lol. I was working one night and a female came up to one of my fellow bartenders to order something and while getting her drink… she asked told him… “all these guys are staring at me. Do you think i’m cute?”

Now normally if I were in his shoes and hadn’t learned what you taught me… I would have melted and told her that she was the finest thing to step foot on this base… case in point…that was what he said. He just bent down unzipped his pants and practically handed her his nuts. Hence, herhands being the nutcracker. I interrupted them while he was “dazed and confused” and told her “Actually they’re looking at that big pimple on your forehead. She stopped and turned towards me and laughed and hit me on the arm. Then I told her not to get mad cuz I was cuter than she. She smiled and for some odd reason… she could not keep herself away from the bar. I just pretended that she was one of my friends that I tease all the time and just called her on everything that she did. Man… I couldn’t believe that she was really eating this up!!!

The other bartender that she was talking to first, couldn’t believe that I was doing this!!! He…. for some odd reason didn’t GET what was going on… It was like jets flying over his head. And to show that his nuts belonged to her… he just kept trying to compliment her. She just glanced at him smiled and quickly turned her head to pay him no mind. I got her e-mail and number and she has been like putty in my hands for the past three months. I have to give it to you, Dave. You da man!!! I’m not a selfish person…so I gave him your e-mail address and hopefully he’ll get your system and realize what he’s been doing wrong. I should give him her e-mail address so that he can ask for his balls back,lol. But… for those who have doubts about Dave’s system… I’m living proof of success.

Thanks Dave!!! JR – Mexico

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, first of all, I think that you must have some kind of bizarre NUT OBSESSION, dude.

And it’s not right.

But hey, fortunately you’re on the right side of the “don’t hand them over” equation, so everything seems like it might be all right for you.

You’ve given some great examples of how to get an attractive woman’s attention, tease her, and play with her to “spark” that initial sexual tension and “chemistry”.

Now make sure you keep it up so you’re not writing me in 3 more months with the “She used the Trojan Horse De-Nutting Technique” on me.

***QUESTION***

Hey Man, What has happened to women’s standards? All the beautiful babes with no neck dorks! I am a good looking guy and I can’t even get a phone number. They go out with guys that weigh like 300 lbs and dress like slobs. I wear nice clothes and drive a nice car and I can’t get a single date. Maybe it is where I live. In order to get a date I will have to gain 200 lbs and have someone break my nose so I am ugly enough for some girl to date me. American girls suck! They have no taste anymore! I give up!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

No, I think that the problem is that you whine like a whipped Biatch.

Women can smell a “victim” attitude 100 miles away, and it IS NOT ATTRACTIVE.

Women’s “standards” are just fine.

The problem isn’t them, it’s YOU.

Now do yourself a favor and quit ACTING like a little girl, and DO SOMETHING about your situation.

What, do you think that all the average and ugly guys out there who have HOT girlfriends are getting them by being ugly?

The answer is “No, they’re not”.

These guys are getting the babes because they know how to make the women feel ATTRACTION.

Trust me, I know quite a few guys who are NOT exactly the picture of “handsome”… but these guys get a lot of women.

Why?

Because they KNOW HOW.

Now quit whining, and go LEARN.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dear Dr. D,

Just wanted to drop you a quick note. I am a 34 year old and divorced using your E-book to learn how to get back into the game. Since I was raised by my parents to be a nice guy, submissive, wussy, it has been a challenge to overcome these self-destructive traits—but I am gaining ground every day. Also, I don’t have any natural ability for C&F. For the most part I am quiet and reserved—-so I have needed to re-train myself in that area also. You have given me a good start by explaining attraction and what women want.

I want to stress the importance of “practice”. It’s the only way to quickly improve your inner and outer game. What has helped me is practicing on an old girlfriend. I am sure many of your students like me have a woman that just won’t let you go from an old relationship. So, I have not completely ended it for sex and companionship and she keeps me around for sex and emotional support.

Anyway—to my amazing weekend: Saturday, I went out with the old girlfriend and busted on her and challenged her on many issues all night. My old self would have shut up and zoned out—not this time. I didn’t put up with any of her nonsense. It ended at my place and we had an amazing double session. She is now hooked more than ever even though she knows I am seeing other people. She can’t help herself. I have triggered the attraction mechanism and more importantly I know what I did to accomplish that.

Sunday I spent the day with a cute girl who had responded to my internet ad. We had only been out once before. I played the game—didn’t act overly sexually interested, just enough….I used the C&F when I could, but basically kept cool. She offered to pay our lunch/cocktail bill. My old self would have foolishly denied her offer—thinking I was the man, thinking I was being chivalrous (how foolish ;). This time I accepted without hesitation. Once back at my place I used the start and stop technique. I would get her hot, then I would back off. She would stop my hand from reaching too far so I decided that I wasn’t going to push it and that tonight might not be “the night” with her so I was very relaxed.

At 10:00 she was getting ready to leave. We started making out while saying goodbye—-next thing I know , we were in the bedroom. It was amazing. The fun lasted all night. Today I am tired with a smile on my face. I know it worked out because I put the proper groundwork in place. By turning my sexual advances on and then off—–it really got to her. Acting as if I was evaluating her…the whole thing. Thank you for pointing me in the right direction, I am starting to get it!!! Literally ;)

C Fort Lauderdale, Fl

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, you really are starting to GET IT.

And you are RIGHT ON.

This stuff takes practice and real-world experience using it before you really “get it”.

Too many guys are just too damned overly-analytical, and want to know how to do EVERYTHING before they do ANYTHING.

I used to be this way… and it cost me a lot of time and energy.

It’s so amazing to actually get out there and SEE results right in front of your eyes. It gets you excited and willing to try more things… and it prepares you for the future… for situations that are REALLY important.

Get out there and use this stuff.

Start NOW.

***QUESTION***

Dave, What does it mean when a woman says she wants to “work on herself” before she can have a relationship?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The literal translation for this is:

“I DON’T FEEL ATTRACTION FOR YOU, BUT I DON’T KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU WITHOUT HURTING YOUR LITTLE WUSSY BOY GIRLIE FEELINGS.”

Any of the following:

“I need time alone right now.”

“I need to find me first.”

“Let’s just be friends for now.”

…etc. mean:

“I DON’T FEEL ATTRACTION.”

That’s the bottom line.

The problem is YOU, not HER.

Don’t be surprised if this same girl either IS or STARTS dating another guy seriously soon.

If you’re hearing this kind of thing often, then you need to take it as a sign that you’re not triggering ATTRACTION inside of women… and, more importantly, that you need to LEARN HOW.

I recommend my Advanced Dating Techniques Program.

This will help eliminate these types of comments from women once and for all.

Here, let me brag for a minute…

I’m sitting here thinking about it, and I can’t remember a woman saying one of these things to me in YEARS.

***QUESTION***

Mr. Dave!

You are the man! I have been getting your emails for about 8 months now I belive and have read your book! Just yesterday I was in the store looking at CD’s and I noticed these two beautiful girls walking around and they would constantly look over towards me. As I wandered around the store more I noticed that they seemed to always show up wherever I was. So I stopped them and asked the girl that I was more attracted to “Excuse me but i’m going to have to ask you to stop stalking me.” She looked at her friend like ‘What is this boy talking about’ and then she asked me for my name.

I immediately answered “Do you really think i’m just going to give my name out to a stalker?” once again she looked like she couldn’t believe I was talking to her this way. We talked about five more minutes and then I told her I had to go. She asked me if I wanted her number so we could continue the conversation. I pretended to think about it and then told her “I’m sorry but I’m just going to be way too busy to find time to call you. So If you promise to stop stalking me i’ll give you my number and you can try and catch me when I have a few minutes of free time to talk.” She eagerly took my number and when I got home about an hour later she had already left a message on my machine to see if I could go out with her this weekend!

I was so happy because I was curious too see if I reversed the three minute phone number to give away my number instead of getting hers would work and it did! Anyway on to my question. As I stated this girl was with a friend at the store who was also very attractive and was there the whole time I was hitting up her friend. Is there anyway in these situations where you can get both girls numbers?

AF- AK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice “reverse stalker” move.

I say things like this to women all the time, and they generally love it.

To answer your question, YES, there’s an easy way to get both girls’ phone numbers.

ASK.

Then call and ask them BOTH to come join you for a cup of tea.

Kill two birds with one stone.

Then, over tea you can decide which one you like more.

I’ve had friends who have been in similar situations report back that sometimes both women will like you… and EACH OTHER as well.

I mean, what do you have to lose? 2 minutes of getting a phone number?

Look, your question was based in fear.

Fear that you’d offend one or both of the women, and then lose everything.

The fact is that you never HAD anything.

A phone number is easy to get. If you feel like asking both women for their numbers, do it. If you feel like asking them both to join you for tea, do it.

You get to make the rules.

***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

I received your DVD series about a month ago and have watched it in its entirety a few times. I’ve noticed a strange circumstance since then, similar to what Napoleon Hill says about how when you choose a definite major purpose in life, ways and means of attaining that purpose seem to magically appear to you. When I’ve been in situations where I wasn’t actually interacting with a woman and laying on the C&F, they’ve still been acting attracted to me despite the fact that I consciously did NOTHING in these situations. For example:

- A bar/restaurant I hit about once a week has a very hot waitress staff, and one in particular is a Pam Anderson clone who’s always being stared at and complimented by all the wussy guys. She’s been working at least a dozen times that I’ve been in there but has never acted like she even noticed me until the last time (since I’ve watched the DVDs) and she kept looking at me, over and over again, despite the fact that I did NOTHING ifferent. Finally I gave her the “wrinkled brow” suspicious look and she got all self- conscious, said “what?” and I came right back with “if you’re gonna be that forward and flirty with me you could’ve at least done your hair up a little better” and then it was ON!

- I met some friends for happy hour and a very hot chick was sitting at a table holding some guy’s hand. Every other guy in the place was staring at her and she was so hot that I even overheard some of the waitresses trashing her. The thing is, I had been watching the DVDs that same day and came walking in with a particularly cocky swagger and the wrinkled brow and she stared me down the whole way in. Then she would not stop looking over at me while she was holding this dude’s hand, he was obviously a Wussy since he saw what was going on and did nothing (I guess he’s the guy she uses for free dinners while she’s banging the real men). At one point she even took the long way to the bathroom to walk by me and flirt but with the Wussy watching there was no op to get the info…hopefully I run into her again.

It’s obvious that just watching the DVD series gives one an aura of confidence, since I did nothing in these situations but show up. Kinda like reading Comedy Writing Secrets then suddenly being funnier without actually thinking about it and trying. Simply watching and learning this material opens doors for you without trying!

FR Phoenix

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, you’re tapping into the power of the mind here.

One of the BIG benefits of learning all of the material that I teach in my programs is the changes that naturally occur inside your mind.

Once you see things differently, you begin to BEHAVE differently as well. And it will happen automatically.

Now, I don’t mean to sound new- agey here, but this is the reality of the situation.

Women can pick up on subtle body language that most men don’t even know EXISTS.

When you start “mentally rehearsing” some of the things you learn from my programs, you will automatically act differently when you’re in future situations with women.

Great job, and keep it up.

And make sure you send in some future Success Stories, as I’m sure you’re going to have many.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave,

Blah blah blah, I shamelessly compliment you, you feel like a deity… there we’re done.

Your book would be worth it’s weight in gold, even if it were made of lead! I stumbled onto your site by accident. A month before, I was Let’s Just BeFriended for being “too nice”, and this was with an UGLY thing too! eh… I was desperate. I actually laughed at those “losers” for getting slapped on the arm and called a**hole, and later,I thought the chicks were idiots for dating them!! I’m better now. After reading your book it was like the heavens were parted and g*d HIMself bitch slapped the wuss right out of me!

Thanks.

Not only am I getting slapped, bitten, chewed on, and fought over, I am LOVING it too! Just the other day I was in a bookstore, and an old friend (read “hot chick”) of mine came in, I thought, ‘hey I am here just being my new self, lets try something’, so I walked over to her, said hi, and then said “I didn’t expect to see a beautiful young woman here” she said “aww that’s so sweet” (read “you wussy”) but then I did something that has been working really well for me, I busted on her. I said “maybe I still will” Slap on arm, AND big smile.

She was wearing this rather large skirt with ruffles, so I said “wow… I didn’t know the parachute look was still in” while obviously staring at it. Another slap on arm, this time laughing. Later she asked if I got my hair cut (I hadn’t) she said it “whatever it is, its really attractive.” There is this coffee shop in the store, so we had “stimulating conversation” a little while went by, and she asked me to go to her car with her, so she could “show me a new piece of art.” well needless to say, we are still ”appreciating art” together, and its been two months!

So the question is… Will complimenting the ladies then busting on whatever I just complimented work the same as if not complimenting at all?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, one of my favorites…

Giving a woman a compliment, then putting a backhanded twist on it.

“Wow, your shoes are cute. Did you buy them new?”

“Your hair is pretty. Did your mom do it for you?”

“Nice car. If you’re homeless.”

Pick up any modern men’s magazine and you’ll get a bunch of good ideas for this type of thing.

Cocky & Funny can be very powerful once you learn how to use it.

Great example, and thank you.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I have been reading your emails and have purchased your ebook and have read and studied from both. I would ’study’ areas I felt I was weak in or would that be wussy in, to improve, naturally, but would read everything for as much knowledge as I could absorb. Well, I have a success story but with a slight twist to it. The twist is my success was due to playing off of 2 other guys’ failures.

I went to a club in a part of town I normally do not go to. Not that it is a bad part of town I just never thought of going there. I went by myself, so on my own, no one for moral support, in a place I have never been before. Talk about giving your ideas the acid test, this was going to be it. I was looking down at the dance floor getting into the music and noticed behind me two girls sitting at a table. I then noticed 2 guys approach and one started to talk to one of the girls. The other guy was just standing there looking at girl #2 trying to get up the nerve to say something, from what I could tell, since I was that way myself in a not so distant past.

I just turned away and didn’t pay much attention but after 10 mins or so the same guy talking to girl #1 is not making any headway. Guy 2 still had his wuss game going so no change there. I decided to ask girl # 2 to dance but wanted to get her attention and interest, as well. So I leaned over and said, “While that guy is trying to hustle your friend, whom, I might he is not doing very well, would you like to dance?” Well, this girl just cracked up laughing, she did not want to dance but did want to talk more. She went on to say that there is nothing he could say or do at this point to make her want to dance or go out with him. He just doesn’t get it, she said.

I went on to say I know it is crowded and a bit loud here but one should understand NO easy enough. She agreed and went on to mention how much of a loser his friend is just standing there. I then remembered a statement someone used in an email of yours and thought I would use it myself. I said to girl #2 “what’s that smell, do you smell that?” She replies, “What smell?” I said, “The smell of desperation.” Well, Dave, that girl laughed so hard she fell out of her chair. I helped her up and when she told me she had to tell her girl friend that and when she leaned over to talk to her I just turned away and went back to looking at the people dancing.

After a bit this girl came up to me and said look at those losers they are just standing on the dance floor while people are dancing around them. They did look pretty pathetic. We talked a bit and I asked her name but I did not quite understand it since she was Latin and had a Latin name I could not make out what she said, what with all the loud music and noise. Just then some friends of hers and her girl friend’s came in and she started to talk to them so again I just turned away and watched people on the dance floor.

After a bit she came back and grabbed my arm and said come on I want to introduce you to my friends. After she introduces everyone to me I turn to her and ask what was your name again? Is it ludicrous? She just busted up laughing again and tried to tell me her name again. By now, she is holding my hand and we started dancing right there. We talked a bit and I told her she has to write her name down so I can pronounce correctly when I call her. She say’s, “Call me?” I said, “Yes, since you are writing your name down you might as well give me your number. How else am I going to call you? Oh, and if you have email you might as well give me that also.”

She said, that it was cool meeting me and gave me a hug and kiss. She then went back to her friends and I just turned away and called it a night.

It may not have been nice to use the 2 guys wuss behavior to my advantage but it worked.

N from Miami Beach

>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL… so you went off secretly to a bar alone… hoping that no one would see you testing the materials out for yourself… lol.

Yea, sometimes it’s rough when other guys act like Wussy Jackasses…

But hey, it makes your life easier and more fun!

So what the hell, right?

I have to say, one of my personal favorite things to do with women I’ve just met is make fun of how other guys are acting.

It’s particularly fun in these bar-type situations, where you can watch one interaction after another.

Most guys suck at approaching women, and it makes for great humor and conversation.

Of course, talking about how terrible other guys are INSTANTLY separates you from the herd, and kind of puts you in the “NON-WUSS” category all by itself.

Another personal favorite of mine is to tell a girl that she should get together with one of the guys that is acting like a jackass.

“I think you and that Wuss-Boy over there would make a cute couple. He looks like he needs a mom like you to tell him what to do…” etc.

You’ve done a great job here, now keep it up.

And thanks for the great example.

Always remember in these situations that a big scoop of COCKY & FUNNY will make things go well.

And in this Mailbag you’ve also heard from a lot of guys who are using my original eBook “Double Your Dating” to improve their success with women and dating. It comes with three additional free bonus booklets, and it’s a complete introduction to my principles and techniques. Of course, it also comes with a 100% guarantee. Go download your copy here… you can be reading it in literally a few minutes from right now:

Free Dating Tips For Men

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

You have changed my life forever, after watching the first 2 DVD’s of your advanced set 3-4 times each my entire, ENTIRE perspective on women has changed. I’m looking back on the past and SEEing where I’ve FAILED horribly and more importantly, WHY!! AND I see why others succeed where I’ve failed. Since I’ve long given up on religion your DVD set has become my new bible for life/women.

I’ve met three beautiful women this week SIMPLY by be confident, indifferent, and teasing. People I would have NEVER thought I would EVER even have a chance with now look like opportunities to me. Everything you say makes GOOD sense to me and I m really starting to GET IT after watching the DVD s over and over.

I swear to god you’re a genius, everything you say in the DVD’s comes together like an elegant puzzle once you watch them about 3-4 times each.

My favorite one I’ve used so far.

“Hey hun, that’s an interesting dress you have on” “Oh yeah, why is that?” (woman obviously trying to mature and sexy) “Because if you put your hair up into two pigtails you’d complete the “innocent little schoolgirl” look” (I walk off into the bar, but not before I get a sock in the arm, which opens up more comments about feeling a breeze nearby.)

MY GOD I LOVE YOU, If you weren’t a man I’d…well we wont get into that.

It’s fun now, not stressful work!

-B Washington

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hey, meeting three beautiful women in one week is better than a sharp stick in the eye…

And yes, there is a lot of information in my Advanced Series.

I can appreciate what you mean when you say that it all starts to come together after you watch them a few times.

I had one guy, who came to my last L.A. Live Seminar, that had listened to the CD version 13 times!

The more you practice what you learn, then listen/watch again, then practice, then listen/watch again, the more sense it will all make.

Unlike a lot of “self help” programs that are just the same stuff re-hashed over and over again, I’ve put a lot of time, effort, energy, research, and planning into that program to make SURE that it was JAM PACKED with good information.

My goal is to have the absolute best materials available for learning how to be successful with women and dating, period.

It’s obvious that you’re really starting to “get it”, so keep reviewing and practicing.

And thanks for the email.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

Okay…what the heck are you the bomb or what? I have been getting your emails for about two and a half months now and it was amusing at first because it couldn’t have come at a better time (right after a break up). I have to say that the first few weeks had me and I went and finally got the book last week. Read it and tried some of the techniques and man I have to tell you that this must be some cosmic sh*t because it actually freakin WORKS IN THE REAL WORLD. Not only online, not only in bars, but everywhere there is a female there can be success!!!

Anyway on to my story, me and a couple of buddies of mine hang out at a local Wing House during the week and have done so before I got the book and your mail bags. Usually we would mess with the girls that work there with mild success (never any numbers or anything) and if you are familiar with Hooters girls think… hotter.

So after reading your mail bags and getting your book, I started messing and busting on this particular new girl by doing things that before reading your emails I thought would surely piss people off, she would do things like empty the ashtrays and I would put dirty napkins in them, she would be all slow at getting me refills and I would bust on her for not doing her job as good as other girls there, I would catch her looking at me occasionally and I would point at my glass like, “Hellooo…”. I was being a total annoyance the whole time!

At the end of the night I left her a nice tip and we ran into each other at the beach about three days later. She told me that when she met me she thought I was a smartass but that “it’s attractive”. I thought to myself “HOLY CRAP she just admitted to me this stuff works!! The Cocky Funny thing is the shiznit!!!” Of course I continued to bust on her even then saying that she was lucky I was in a good mood and that she has a cute smile because if it wasn’t for that, I would have not even remembered her.

So I asked her what she was doing and she said, she was going to Sea World and that I should go with her, she would treat….again, WHOAH!!! I declined and said that I had some other plans but I was wanting some wings she said for me to come by on her next shift where she would get off at 9 pm. She wanted me to come by at 9 so that we can have some drinks after her shift!!! Man I can’t say enough how easy this stuff was to implement!!! And it works like a charm. When me and my group of friends left the beach she ran up to me (looking all fine in her bikini) and gave me a big hug and a kiss on the lips…you have to understand, this chick is a 9 easy!!!! Man I had a damn “Colgate” smile all the way home that day and still do to this day.

You is the man, and you have no idea how nice it is to have this sort of confidence now, well wait, I guess you do huh? LOL.

Much Gratitude Bro!

A. from Orlando.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, you suck… and your friends hate you.

Well, so be it.

I’ll tell you something, I know EXACTLY what you’re talking about when you say that this girl told you that you were a smartass, but that “it’s attractive”.

The things that make women feel ATTRACTION are not exactly “logical” at first glance.

In fact, some of the things that can cause a woman to feel a powerful SEXUAL ATTRACTION for a man are things that most guys wouldn’t “accidentally try” in a million years.

I can clearly remember one night I was out with a good friend who was trying to show me a few things about how to meet women…

We were talking to two cute girls… and he was “taking the lead”.

I couldn’t understand WHAT he was doing.

He was acting arrogant, making fun of them, being difficult, and doing all kinds of things that I would NEVER do.

Of course, he wound up inviting the two girls back to his house… and they came along with us (and as I recall, they actually drove us home).

Again, this made ZERO sense to me.

He wasn’t being “nice” at all.

In fact, he was being rather arrogant and fussy.

But, as I was to learn later, there was SOMETHING ELSE GOING ON… and the WOMEN UNDERSTOOD IT.

There is something very powerful about demonstrating that you’re not needy, acting “too comfortable” around women, and even teasing them. It says all the right things, and it triggers something that you can’t trigger with “being nice”.

One of my favorite jokes to use with waitresses is to wait until they make a mistake, forget something, or even just say, “I’m sorry, we’re out of that tonight”.

I shoot right back, “Could we get a new waitress please? I’m afraid you’re just not going to work out tonight.”

Of course, I have a very serious face when I say this.

It’s obvious that I’m exaggerating, so it makes her laugh.

It’s arrogant, crass, and kind of rude.

But, it’s also damn funny, and it says ALL the right things.

Thanks for your email.

And remember… you suck, and your friends hate you now.

***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Dear David

First I would like to say that your writings are the most interestingly, funny, theories I have ever read. As being a female reader,…something has piqued my curiosity to the fullest extent. Firstly, I have noted that all whom seek advice and comments from you, address you by your first name, a very informal approach to addressing another with any type of degree in the field of psychology. Another comment of yours, that
actually piqued my curiosity is that you assist others “to develop that or their innate or natural part of themselves that is already there.”

My question is if a part of another is “innate” that means that it is a natural inborn part of them, so why would anyone need help with being whom they are?? Secondly, …being a layman, … I dont understand how one could give others advice, …on how to do anything, unless one has walked in their shoes so to speak. I would also like to know if you are certified in the field of Psychology or are you a motivational speaker, …being either, you would have to have complete knowledge of the subject, and therefore, …if you are a Dr. in the psychology field, …Wouldn’t you want to be acknowledged as such?

M.C. New York

>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL… now this is good comedy.

OK, let’s start by making fun of your first comment…

Look, even if I had 10 Ph.D. degrees, I would still insist that everyone call me by my first name.

Hellllooooooo…

Would you prefer it if I insisted that you refer to me as “Mr. David D. Sir”?

Hey, that doesn’t sound half bad.

OK, on to making fun of more of your comments…

Let’s just reprint what you wrote, word-for-word:

“Another comment of yours, that actually piqued my curiosity is that you assist others “to develop that or their innate or natural part of themselves that is already there.” My question is if a part of another is “innate” that means that it is a natural inborn part of them, so why would anyone need help with being whom they are??”

Come on, smarty…

You don’t know the difference between “developing an innate or natural part of yourself” and “being who you are”?

Look, if you go to the gym and work out, you will develop a part of yourself (muscles, respiratory system, etc.)

Now, you can also do this while doing an impersonation of Bozo The Clown, which technically, would be developing a part of yourself while NOT “being who you are”.

I love confusing explanations like the one I just made up.

OK, let’s try another…

Dr. Stephen Pinker of MIT has written a book called “The Language Instinct”.

Now, this is a pretty smart dude. Pick up one of his books and read a few pages if you’d like to understand just how sharp he is.

He believes that humans come “pre-wired” with a an “innate” mechanism for SPEECH.

In other words, we have the wiring from birth.

Now, if you grew up in the woods with no other humans around you, and I showed up one day and tried to have a conversation with you in English, would you be able to talk to me?

Duh, no.

In other words, just because you come “pre-wired” with the ability and instinct to learn and speak a language doesn’t mean that every person will do it equally well (or even at all).

Same goes for men and their success with women.

I now believe that “we guys” come PRE-WIRED with the “INNATE” or “NATURAL PART” of us that knows how to be successful with women.

But, guess what?

Most of us grew up in the equivalent of the WOODS when it comes to LEARNING and DEVELOPING this part of ourselves.

For those of us who never learned how to use the natural talents that we were born with, we need to LEARN.

Once we LEARN how to use what we have and we LEARN how to use our body language and communication to attract women, THEN we can “be ourselves” all we want. Until then, no amount of “being yourself” is going to work.

I’d go on to make fun of you in a more detailed manner, but time’s a wastin’, and I’ve got others lined up to take verbal abuse from me…

Oh, and I HAVE walked a mile in the shoes of “no clue about women”. More like a mile a day for about 27 years of my life, to be exact.

***QUESTION***

Hi David!

I’ve bought your book only a few months ago so I’m just a beginner. I can’t give you success stories yet. I met a bisexual women on a dating site. She lives nearby (about 5 minute walk!). I started a conversation and at first she seemed interested! My strategy was to meet as soon as possible because of the short distance. I asked her if she liked to have an ice-cream in the park. She said no. I gave it a rest for a few weeks, and then started writing messages again.

I think I became too personal at some point and she responded: “I don’t know what you mean, I’m totally uninterested, leave me alone, thank you.”. After that I still had a small conversation and she wrote back a few times. She was not angry, and as a reason she said she had contacted some other guys and she wanted to do fun things with them (but I think it was something else). My question is. Could she just be saying “give me some time”? My idea is, that if she says something like that, I should leave her alone completely. But would it hurt to send a message, maybe a month or so later?

How would you get attraction going on after this?
R. from Europe

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, well I have a hard time believing that you’ve read my book… because you obviously need to read it AGAIN.

If I were you, I’d re-read it every few days until something changes in the way you look at these situations.

Ice cream in the park?

Huh?

Is that in “Chapter 17: How To Be A Dork”?

Maybe I forgot about that part of the book.

Look, you need to pay closer attention to what I’m saying, and quit trying to improvise with the bisexual babes on the internet.

If a woman doesn’t respond to you initially, move on.

Get over it.

Especially on internet dating sites.

There are MILLIONS of women on these sites, so just get on to the next one.

Try a few of the ideas that I mention in my book in your responses. Place an ad of your own, or several. Notice what works, and keep doing it.

And let me do a little translating for you. When a woman says:

“I don’t know what you mean, I’m totally uninterested, leave me alone, thank you.”

…what she REALLY means is:

“I don’t know what you mean, I’m totally uninterested, leave me alone, thank you.”

Thank you.

Oh, if you’re going to keep doing a lot of online dating, then check this out as well:

Meeting Women Online

***QUESTION***

What else can I say but you are the sh#@. I read your book and it changed my life. I went from almost never talking to women at all, (and when I did I would just say wussy remarks) to being the local mack daddy complete with pimp cane and feathered hat. I went to visit my cousin in OH recently and we went on a double date. Apparently he had been working on a girl for some time and she just brought a friend for me.

The whole night I was busting on both of the girls. It got to the point where the girl my cousin was with started flirting and touching me a lot along with the girl I was with. You just have to look at the situation
and find something to make fun of. Its just like when you’re a kid and you dont really care about what other people think, you just say whats on your mind. Well, anyways we went out to a movie the next day and I just kept laying the cocky and funny on her. She started touching me in the movie and stuff and long story short it ended up with me having sex with her.

And this was a girl I had only met a few days ago. The hardest part for me was overcoming the care of what other people think and situations that would probably not happen (her getting offended, etc.) I am a huge fan of your book and newsletters. It seem like whenever I have a question about something you do a newsletter on it. I’m really considering buying your Advanced series stuff. Heres my question. Does your DVD program have anything extra on it that the CD program doesn’t have beside being video of course?

Thanks for everything.

C.P. St. Louis, MO

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, well Pimp Canes and Feather Hats are optional.

They are not absolutely necessary.

Good job with the materials, you obviously GET IT.

And it’s true… one of the main things that we guys need to overcome is this whole idea of caring what other people think. It doesn’t MATTER what other people think.

The only thing that matters is what HAPPENS as a result of what you do.

To answer your question about my Advanced Series…

It’s the same material on both the CD and DVD versions.

Both are great, and I guarantee that when you watch or listen to this program, it will BLOW YOUR MIND. There is so much in that program that will help you improve… it’s amazing.

Great job, and thanks for the email.

***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***

Hi, I just wanted to let you know that I wish more guys would listen to your advice. I am a very attractive young lady and have guys hitting on me all the time. There is nothing intriguing about the person who immediately lets you know how happy or surprised they are that you even talked to them. If they put the girl up too high on a pedestal, it just makes the guy completely expendable because obviously the girl can “do better” (at least in the guy’s mind). Please keep giving advice and guys, please listen… It works. M.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Exactly. I like the way you explained this…

“There is nothing intriguing about the person who immediately lets you know how happy or surprised they are that you even talked to them.”

Nice.

You know, I should start a “David D. Fan club”, and only let women join.

Of course, it would be very expensive…

***QUESTION***

I have said this and I will say it again! Man, your stuff is excellent! By far the best I have ever read, or heard! I can tell why this was your calling! Today, I attained 3 emails/phone numbers from 3 very attractive girls in ONE DAY! That’s definitely a record for me! Once I listened to your lesson about creating my own reality, I feel like I can just walk up to ANY GIRL I WANT, and KNOW that I will do a good job socializing/flirting with them, whether they are responsive to it or not doesn’t mean ANYTHING to me, because it’s THEIR problem, not MINE.

This one particular case, I was with this girl that I’ve been talking to for a while, and we went down to a church hangout because I had left my bookbag in there from the night before we went down there. Well, she offers to drive me down there and I take the offer (btw – I bust on her about her car that she adores sooo much all the way down there and she loves it).

Anyway, by the time I get down there with her, I find my bookbag, and we stay down there and talk with some friends for a bit. Well, it turns out that about 2 other guys are hitting on her and flirting with her, so I just sat in the couch and started talking to another girl. Anyhoo, I notice that these guys are flirting a little bit differently from the way I do it. I almost never compliment a girl when I’m flirting with her, but these guys did. I’m wondering, does the compliment hurt or help? Various dating coaches everywhere tell me different answers, but I know yours will be the right one. So is it good to compliment girls, or is it bad?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice!

Three emails and numbers in one day… that’s not too shabby, my friend.

I can remember not-too-long-ago in my life thinking that something like this would be IMPOSSIBLE.

But, as you obviously know, it’s not.

To answer your question about compliments…

If you have ZERO GAME, then showering a woman with compliments will work better than NOTHING.

But, think about it…

If you walk up to a woman and start giving her compliments left and right, what is she going to be thinking?

Right.

She’s going to think to herself, “Yeah, this guy is obviously into me big time. I own him.”

There’s no mystery, no challenge, nothing interesting at all.

It’s what EVERY guy does. And it’s usually perceived as BORING and PREDICTABLE.

Now, there are ways to give women compliments that don’t give all your power away… but giving a woman a compliment is usually a SELFISH thing to do. It’s using words to try to GET something from a woman.

Ironically, even though many of my ideas and concepts appear to be a little on the “cruel” side, they are actually all about giving women what they REALLY want.

Look, if you’re getting three numbers in a day, then you’re on the right track.

Your girl may have been smiling politely as the Wussbags were kissing up to her, but who got the three numbers that day?

***QUESTION***

Dave…

I’ve always been really shy and introverted. And, obviously, it has not exactly worked to my advantage with dating. I’ve done all sorts of things to get rid of this shyness – I took a job as a waiter, a salesperson, taken public speaking classes, read books etc.. and nothing has worked nearly as well as your e-Book and e-mails!! Thanks a ton – you’ve given me superior confidence and I owe it all to you.

Now, onto the question…

In addition to being a bit shy, I have also always been a pretty witty, sarcastic guy which really helped when developing a more CF attitude. Whenever I’m talking to girls, I ALWAYS get socked in the arm or get that “Oh no you didn’t” look. However, I can’t approach girls for the life of me. But, once I’m “in there”, I just have these girls on a string, like a marionette. What do you say?

Ciao!

DF Bloomington, IN

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I can really appreciate where you’re coming from on this one.

Let me mention quickly that I’ve really put a lot of time and effort into making my materials “shy guy friendly” and I’ve focused on teaching things that any guy can use…even if you’re “naturally” very shy.

I’ve been there.

I can remember times in the past where I’ve sat looking at a girl for HOURS… without being able to work up enough nerve to walk over and start a conversation… and then I’d go home and think about it for DAYS. I’m with you.

I’m going to give you an idea for how to overcome your shyness and approach women, and then I’m going to give you a recommendation.

Here’s the idea first:

GET ONLINE AND START THERE.

Go download one of the free instant messengers that are available online, and spend an evening starting conversations at random with women online.

I did this quite a bit myself, and it helped me TREMENDOUSLY.

Try different things.

Say, “Hi”.

Say, “You sound like you’re probably pretty old”.

Say, “You spelled a word wrong in your profile”.

Say, “You’re exactly what I’ve been looking for. Let’s drive to Vegas and get married. Are you game?”

In other words, just play around and see what kinds of responses you get.

Of course, don’t say anything overly bizarre or vulgar… the internet cops might take away your internet connection or something spooky.

But, just learn how to deal with that initial jolt of emotion that you get when you’re starting a conversation with a woman that you don’t know.

Keep it up until:

1) You can sit down anytime and start a conversation with a woman on the internet without hesitating.

2) You’re getting positive responses. (I’m not talking about women saying, “Hey hot stuff, come over now!” I’m talking about women just responding by talking to you.)

This will help you to understand that your fear of approaching and starting conversations with women is UNFOUNDED.

In other words, you’ll SEE WITH YOUR OWN TWO EYES that nothing bad is going to happen to you if
a woman doesn’t want to talk to you.

You’ll also see that some women are busy, some are not nice people, and some are friendly and open.

Said differently, you’ll realize that it’s not about YOU when a woman doesn’t respond to you warmly… and it won’t HURT you either.

Next, get out into the real world and start making small talk with women… WITH NO INTENTION OF TAKING THINGS ANY FURTHER THAN THAT CONVERSATION.

When you start a conversation thinking “I want to get that girl’s number”, it puts HUGE PRESSURE on you… ESPECIALLY if you’re not comfortable doing things like approaching women.

So chill.

Go to the mall, and walk into EVERY store.

When a sales girl says, “Can I help you with something?” respond by saying, “I don’t think you’re qualified to give me the kind of help that I need, but thanks for the offer”.

If you wind up buying something in one of the stores, ask the girl for a 50% discount.

When she asks why, tell her that it should be obvious… it’s because she thinks you’re special.

After you’ve had fun, walk away. Leave.

Don’t worry about getting numbers or dates. Just work on starting conversations in “easy” situations (where the women are PAID to talk and be nice to you).

Do this three or four times over the course of a few weeks, and you’ll start to change how you THINK about these types of situations. You’ll SEE how women will respond, and it will change how you FEEL.

Finally, remember that it’s not NECESSARY to learn how to approach women that you don’t know…if you don’t want to.

There are PLENTY of situations that allow you to meet women without ever having to “approach”them.

Go check out some dance classes. Try swing or salsa. Imagine being able to:

1) Learn how to dance (which women think is hot)

AND…

2) Have one conversation after another as you change partners…

Now, there are all kinds of places like this where you can skip the “approaching women” step and just move right into the Cocky & Funny or getting numbers.

Put your mind to it, and do a little thinking. Look around. Opportunities like this are everywhere.

…and if you’re reading this right now and you haven’t taken the time to download your copy of my online ebook Double Your Dating, then you need to do that now. It’s the foundation of everything I teach in these newsletters, and it will help make sense of all the different things discussed here…You can download it here:

Double Your Dating

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Hi David, Thanks-Your book and CD series have helped to change my life over the last year. I’m Jewish and really wanted to date Jewish women. They were scarce near me in the US. You say to go live where the kind of women you want to date are, so I recently came to Israel. The Israeli women are incredibly sexy and exotic.

I contacted some women before I got there via e-mail and slept with 2 of them on first dates, and made out with another seriously on the 2nd date…and more now…In fact, I have more #’s than I can keep track of between the net and now from meeting women from performing music in small clubs. COCKY and FUNNY works folks!!! I used a lot of your “lines” and techniques by the book or w/ alterations: “look if you scare me in person, I’ll be like oh, I’ve got to go…comb my camel”

Since my Hebrew is much worse than these girls’ English, I generally use English, and get to tease them about funny things that they say or their accent…I also told a woman I met who was into exploring S&M that I would be willing to keep spanking her and tying her up IF she was willing to tutor me in Hebrew…

I made a semi-mistake of getting into a program in a small, retirement town for a half year, (Ooops!) but have created an alternative existence by traveling into the bigger cities, using my own room at a Youth Hostel to “host” a woman in her own town, and staying with a woman once we are sleeping together, sometimes leaving her place to go on a date w/ another woman…(”Who am I meeting, hon? Actually, I’m going to a brothel now!”)

???In your CD series you mention a face that you can make that drives women wild that you went around practicing making and a woman started kissing you…I think you mentioned James Dean, not sure…anyways, I want to see that face…Could you point me to a picture???

Thanks!

Rocking in the Holy Land!!!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, it’s nice to hear that the materials are crossing all cultural and international boundaries…

“I’ve got to go comb my camel…”

You gotta love telling a woman that if you meet her and she’s scary that you’re going to leave to COMB YOUR CAMEL.

Oh, and the generous offer you made in exchange for the Hebrew lessons. Very original.

And to answer your question that you asked about the “face” that women respond to…

Check out the look that Marlon Brando has on his face on the cover of “Streetcar Named Desire”. That should give you a good idea of what I’m talking about.

Stay in touch, and keep sharing the adventures of the International Jewish Ladies Man.

***SUCCESS STORY***

David… Like magic…the use of your advice worked!

Not just one bit of advice like a magic bullet though …it is the combination of all your strategies, techniques and process understanding. It is important to get your book, read your email updates, and the CDs to put it all together and really “get it”. I can’t imagine what would happen if I came to your seminar ….sh** I would
probably be dating the next in line for Queen of England. So I read all the books you recommended to work on my “inner game”…very important and intelligent of you to figure all this out. I never could have done it on my own. You have got my ASM (Automatic Success Mechanism) as per Maxwell Maltz going so extreme that most times I don’t even need to make the first move…. attractive women notice me now. Okay let me give you and example of what I am talking about.

Just walked into a fast food restaurant and noticed a tall, striking blonde (at least a 9.5) who bent over backwards to make sure my order was perfect.. ..even took my cash up to the register for me. Well after all that extra attention I thought it must be time to say something, especially after all the “Dave Work” I have been doing. I wanted to say…”You must be an actress or a model” because she is so beautiful, but only a Wuss would say something like that.

ASM from my sub-conscience kicked in and I laid back and then casually said “…this is a fast-paced environment, do you like it?” Dave, she began telling me some of the most interesting things. To my surprise, I had to cut her off and then I just merely said….. “Do you have email?” She said wait a minute I’ll give you one of my cards. She left the very busy floor went to the employee break room (I guess) or her car and returned with a business card that she wrote her email address on the back. She then walked me partially to the door, shook my hand and wished me good luck.

Dave…if I wouldn’t have read your stuff and listed to the CDs (five times) I would have stayed there, ordered another coke, seemed needy by just hanging out and like I didn’t have a life. Her Wuss detector would have wrote me off immediately. Meeting a beautiful woman was the last thing on my mind but the aura I must have now and the abilities I now have are thanks to you. Actually, I intend to master your stuff.

Who knows maybe the Royalty circuit is just waiting for me? I set a goal three weeks ago of dating 4-5 women in six months. Well its been three weeks of studying “Dave Stuff” and I already got three new woman in my life and if this one works out that will be four! Plus, since I am not as needy I’ve got three old girlfriends calling, emailing and sending gifts like never before.

Gee…if I ever get time to actually go out and look for women, like at a night club or sporting event, I can’t imagine what will happen. I even got two women on email that are going to fly cross country at their expense to meet me and stay for the weekend. One just got a boob job and wants me to be the first to see and touch her new additions …and the other is going to work overtime for three weeks just to pay for the tickets! There is not much more of a powerful testimonial to show how effective your advice actually works for meeting women over the internet.

Sincere thanks David, L. from Denver

>>>MY COMMENTS

The Queen of England?

Dude, she’s not that hot…

Isn’t it AMAZING how differently women respond when you begin to understand and communicate with them in this way?

And the internet is SUCH a great place to apply what you’re learning and PRACTICE as well.

I learned a lot by chatting with women on instant messaging services, etc.

In fact, if it wasn’t for the internet and being able to practice in this way, it would have taken me a LOT longer to figure out a lot of the things that I now use and teach.

And, of all the places to REALLY STAND OUT… when you respond to a woman’s personal ad with a great Cocky & Funny note, it’s like a breath of fresh air.

Or when you IM a woman and say, “It says here that you’re an actress. What, you couldn’t get a real job?”…

It sets you apart INSTANTLY from all the loser guys who are saying, “Hi, you’re really pretty. Can I take you out on a date?”

I like your ideas about incorporating self help and personal development into your routine. I’ve read a lot of great self help books, and they have helped me to deal with my “personal stuff” and feel more comfortable in my own skin in general.

Great job, and congratulations on your success.

By the way, if you want to get a WORLD CLASS education on how to meet women online, just go here… and don’t forget to watch the videos:

Meeting Women Online

***QUESTION***

I look forward to reading your newsletters. As geeky as it sounds, I actually take notes on them and have filled up an entire notebook. I’m a 23-year old guy, smart, handsome, in-shape, many interests, and yet I’ve been completely clueless about women. I didn’t get my first girlfriend until I was 19, and I’ve been the quintessential wuss in most of my female interactions.

Girls usually shied away from me after meeting me, and numerous times I’ve had girls smile at me from across the room and then suddenly act disinterested as soon as I opened my mouth. All this and I notice how one of my friends who has no education, job, ambitions or nice possessions gets all the women he wants. Like you say, dating isn’t fair.

From reading your newsletters, it has helped me to adopt a different frame of mind, that of a more calm, cool, in-control dude instead of a submissive, insecure trailer. At first I didn’t like the C&F routine because I thought it went against my Christian morals, but I’ve been able to make peace with the idea as I saw it more as self-improvement and a means of obtaining better human relationships. Not just a means of getting booty. Girls are beginning to hang around me more, especially in school, although at first I had a hard time relapsing into wuss behavior.

I’ve had more dates and lined up some more promising ones.

My question is twofold. One, how does one keep from regressing into wuss behavior after initial success, and two, do you have any special deals on your ebook and CD series for poor, full-time college students who works two jobs?

Thanks, and keep inspiring wusses everywhere to be better!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

THIS IS A GREAT QUESTION!

The way to not “regress into Wuss behavior after initial success” is…

1) Have a life.

Stay busy. Spend time on your own. Do things with friends that don’t involve the woman you’re dating.

Too many guys will meet a woman, then basically say in one way or another to her: “You are my everything now, and I will do whatever I have to do to please you and spend time with you”.

Big mistake.

If you stay busy, and keep your own life going it will make you MORE attractive.

You’ve probably heard me say “Give her the gift of missing you”… and this is one good way to do it.

It also keeps your head on straight, and makes you remember that you have a life, and you can enjoy yourself any time you want without her.

2) Don’t get mushy too often.

Use romance as a spice, not a main dish. Don’t buy her things all the time (if at all).

Don’t say too many “mushy” things, either.

The key here is to only show your “sensitive” side once in awhile, and to NEVER let that side of you take over and prevent you from acting like a man. Women aren’t ATTRACTED to Wussy behavior…so don’t do it.

3) YOU be the one to end the interactions with her.

End phone calls, dates, etc. with her on a high note, and always end them a little too soon.

Most guys act clingy and keep holding on to a woman when talking, on a date, etc.

Let’s say you’re talking to her on the phone for a few minutes and you’re having a GREAT conversation.

End it.

Say “Great, I’m going to go. I’ll see you tomorrow.”

Leave her always wanting more.

This is one way that you can continually demonstrate to yourself that you can stay in control of yourself…

AND NOT TURN INTO A WUSSY.

If you DO start acting like a Wuss, STOP IMMEDIATELY.

Old Proverb: No matter how far down the wrong road you’ve gone, TURN BACK.

But turn back before it’s too late, because once a woman has you in the Mental Wussy Slot, it’s hard to get out, and even worse, it’s REALLY hard to get a woman who once felt ATTRACTION for you to feel it again after you’ve had a Wussy Spaz Attack.

***EMAIL OF THE WEEK***

YO BIATCH! YOU STILL HAVEN’T PUT MY KICK ASS STORY IN YOUR NEWSLETTER YET!!! you better do it, cuz i nailed that hottie i wrote to you about!

t.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What can I say?

It just had to be included.

I love the attention getting and original “Yo biatch!” and the sensitivity of “I nailed that hottie”.

You really have a way with words, man.

OK, now everyone knows that you’re a stud. Keep up the good work.

And maybe look into some “How to communicate like an adult man” courses… and stop reading all those damn Maxim and Stuff magazines and listening to Snoop so much.

…so, do I have a great job or what? I get to make fun of people and get paid for it. It’s tough being me.

I want to talk a little more about the concept of NOT BEING A WUSSY.

I’ve spent a LOT of time thinking about this, researching it, and coming up with the reasons why men act like this in the first place… and more importantly, how to recognize these things and CHANGE them when you want to.

I have gotten a lot of feedback from guys saying things like “This stuff has completely changed the way I think about women” and “Now when I interact with women, I’m the one in control because I understand what’s going on in their minds” etc.

As men, I think that MOST of our programming is BACKWARDS when it comes to women and dating. And if you haven’t taken the time to download my online eBook Double Your Dating, then you need to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it to your computer and be reading it within a few minutes from RIGHT NOW. Go download it here:

Double Your Dating

I’ll talk to you again soon!

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Dave,

In one of the newsletters I received a couple weeks ago you gave the advice to someone to learn ‘what topics fascinate women.’ I found this newsletter specifically interesting because I’ve found myself in this same situation were when im on a date things get quiet and I cant find anything to say. I know you have already recommended a good book on comedy, “comedy writing secrets,” but what is a good book explaining how to tell stories? And, what are some topics that fascinate women? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

M.G. Gainesville, FL.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great question.

There are really two very different (and important) aspects to the “conversations with women” topic:

1. The HOW.

2. The WHAT.

“THE HOW…”

Most guys want to know “what to talk about” with women.

It only makes sense that you should talk about things that women are interested in… right?

Well… partially.

It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you’re talking about in the RIGHT WAY.

In other words, if you don’t understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won’t matter WHAT you talk about… because the woman you’re talking to won’t FEEL anything towards you.

The HOW of conversation includes (but, is not limited to):

- Your body language

- Eye contact

- The Cocky & Funny style of communicating

- Flirting

- Sending mixed messages

- Directing the conversation

- Dealing with common questions and topics

…and many other things.

My point is that if you’re running into a lot of “uncomfortable silences”, nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT.

“THE WHAT…”

With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss with women.

But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and THINK for a minute.

What topics do women PAY to hear about?

Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel…etc.

If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious.

For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:

- Drama

- Conflict

- Romance

- Famous people and their lives

So… it’s really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics.

Here are a few ideas:

1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars.

Talk about how someone famous is doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.

Actors, rock stars and famous sports figures just LOVE to do crazy things… cheat on their spouses… and then say “I didn’t do it”.

These situations are BEGGING to be picked apart with a fine-toothed, critical, funny, sarcastic mind.

2. Find an interesting looking group of people and guess what’s going on.

Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they’re on their first date.

Then, start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he’s dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking that he’s a dork and how he’s not getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.

Analyzing what’s going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women love it.

3. Make fun of someone famous.

Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or how Ben Affleck can only date women named Jennifer.

All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of.

It’s fun, it’s funny, and it’s a great way to talk like you’re all that.

4. Talk about other people’s love lives.

Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and romance, then volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what’s going on.

Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after you’ve told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain weight are actually lesbians.

But, make sure it’s funny, whatever you invent.

…I think you “feel me”.

The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to certain topics… so USE THEM.

The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU’RE LEARNING while you’re talking!

You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on… as long as you know what else to do as you talk.

Oh, by the way…

Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars and your secret love: wrestling.

NEVER talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the biggest loser alive, especially in the beginning.

You’ll create BAD VIBES that will make any attraction that you’ve created INSTANTLY disappear.

Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate you are or how long it’s been since you’ve been on a date, asking if she likes you or if you’re her “type”… and any other WUSS-BAG topic that makes you look insecure and needy.

Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional ATTRACTION between you and her.

If you don’t know how to do this, then NOTHING you do is going to help you very much.

If you DO know how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, then almost ANYTHING you do or talk about can amplify it.

And if you’d like to get the basics of how ATTRACTION works, plus a good set of tools to use for meeting and dating women, then go download my eBook Double Your Dating. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. Download it here:

Double Your Dating

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

I’m reading through some of the bazillion emails I get every week, and I come across one of the best emails that I’ve read in a LONG time.

Are you ready for the interesting part?

It’s from a MARRIED GUY.

Yep, you read that right. He’s married.

He reads the newsletters and uses the things he learns to improve his marriage. Go figure.

This guy was able to explain in a few paragraphs a concept and technique that I personally use, but have been unable to actually explain and verbalize well.

I wish I would have written what you’re about to read, but I didn’t (But I’m still a cool guy because I wrote what came before and after it).

Check this out…

***Conversation Technique***

Dave,

I’m still having great success with a rekindled marriage using you’re Tips on my wife. Thanks a million. Listen, I keep reading over and over in the MailBags guys wanting to know how to start, then keep a conversation going with women. I work for a major oil company and have been through many of there training courses on dealing with people. One particularly interesting course was on “Information Seeking”.

For this we first practiced picking up on “Key words or phrases” the subject said. For instance, I’ll try and give an example using c&f even though you wouldn’t use this professionally on the job. Lets say you see this great looking chick on the street and you tell her, “That’s an unusual looking dress you’re wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?”

She says, “Your mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store.”

Key Words: Old Navy.

“Oh, so you’re in the Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall.”

Key word: Mall.

“Oh, so you like going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?” “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!”

Key phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and “dress is popular”.

“Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain clothing business…” I know, this is a lame example but the lessons are this.

1) You start a conversation with however you want then pick out key words or phrases from what the person says.

2) You repeat them in what you say then listen for new key words in there next response.

3) You add a little something new into the conversation REPEATING there words you’re using as Key words or phrases. This tells them you’re listening, even though you’re turning things around to be c/f in this situation.

Once we learned to keep someone talking for 5 minutes, then 15 minutes the company actually hired total strangers from a job soliciting company to come and be our subjects. While being videotaped we had to get the person talking and keep them talking for 30 minutes. One important note: If a person brings up something personal or whatever, they wouldn’t have mentioned it if they didn’t want to talk about it.

These are great to Key in on. My subject mentioned she was going through a divorce and her ex-husband was a total jerk. I keyed in on this and it’s amazing what a total stranger will tell you once you build a little rapport. When watching the video you pick up on mistakes or you see something different you could have said. You also pick up on Key words and phases you missed. It just takes a little practice. This is just one example of how you can start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully it can be of help to you’re readers.

JTM
Texas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Awesome.

This is an EXCELLENT description of how to keep a conversation going, keep it interesting and unpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have it be fun.

Read it again.

Now let me sprinkle a little magic dust on this, and tell you how I use this technique personally.

When I’m having a conversation with a woman, I’m not just listening for ANY key word… I’m listening for a particular KIND of key word (or words).

I’m always on the alert for any words or phrases that can be twisted, turned around, misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?) in one of a few particular ways…

…namely in a way that says she stupid, ditzy, sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.

For instance, in your example above you suggested the following:

“That’s an unusual looking dress you’re wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?”

She says, ” Your mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store.”

Key Words: Old Navy.

“Oh, so you’re in the Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall.”

Key word: Mall.

“Oh, so you like going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?” “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!”

Key phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and “dress is popular”.

“Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain clothing business…”

Good. Nice one.

Now, let’s dial it up a little bit…

She says “No, I bought this from the Old Navy store…”

Instead of just keying into “Navy” and saying “Oh, so you’re in the navy, huh?”, why not take it to the next step and actually MAKE FUN of her.

“Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the Navy a long time ago… in the OLD Navy?”

Now you’re BUSTING on her as well, AND it’s funny.

She says “No silly. you know, the big store over at the Mall.”

You might try “What kind of MALL are YOU shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses like that one too?”

Again, you’re hinting that she has funky taste and she shops in weird places.

She says “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!”

You could go with “Oh, you have girlfriends? You have more than one? Do they all know that you think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of them the special one? By the way, if you have cute girlfriends, then I think you and I are going to get along VERY well.”

…are you with me here?

What I’m doing is NOT ONLY looking for key words to latch onto, but I’m ALSO looking for ways to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly suggest various kinds of “racy” topics.

When done in a funny way, it’s magic.

Once upon a time, a guy I know very well went into a nightclub.

He was talking to a girl at that club for awhile, when she said “Well, I’m getting tired. I think it’s time for me to go home.”

The guy answered “Go HOME?! I just met you. I’m not going HOME with you!”

She said “No, I mean I’M going home. I’m tired.”

He shot back “Maybe you don’t hear me. I’m not going home with you, so don’t even ask anymore.”

She said “No, that’s not what I’m saying…”

He replied “And besides, I’m sure my place is nicer than yours… so if anything, you’re coming home with ME.”

This went on and on for about an hour or so.

And you guessed it, she went home with him.

I saw it happen with my own two eyes.

Another off-the-wall (but pretty funny) example of this, is a story that a good friend of mine told me about one of his friends.

His friend was talking to a girl at a club, and she was talking about what kinds of things she enjoyed doing with her spare time.

She said “…I like to go clubbing…”

He came back with “Oh, like baby seals?”

lol… Now, that might not get a girl to come home with you, but it’s damn funny. Love it.

This technique is GREAT for keeping a conversation fresh, fun, unpredictable, and FUNNY (if you know how to do it just right).

Use it.

Right now you’re probably thinking to yourself:

“Wow, that’s really great. I sure wish there was a resource available that could show me hundreds of great ideas like that… so I could know exactly what to do from when I first meet a woman to the first date… all the way up until we get physical and beyond…”

Guess what?

It’s right here:

Double Your Dating

You can download it and be reading it in literally MINUTES from right now. Go get it:

I’ll talk to you again soon!

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Davie DeAngelo,

I have had your book and newsletters for almost 2 years. Yesterday I sent away for your advanced series. Your material is quality and obviously the way to go (I’m ridiculously cheap and I wouldnt have spent the extra money on the advanced series if i knew it wouldnt work)

My most recent story goes like this: I was working and met some female (9.0 on my scale) exactly the type of face i like. She had a hard-to-get personality. I teased her and had some good conversation for a few minutes. She had to go but returned a while later asking ‘what time it was’ or some stupid question like that that you can ask anyone and still look casual. (typical of girls i have busted on to come back and ask some stupid question) I continued to bust on her and maintain my uninterested/laid back mood.

I told her to write her number down, she did and she told me ’she liked me’ or some pick up like that, i said “yeah i like me too”

She wanted to do something later, I said ‘like what’ (just seeing where she was coming from). She smiled and didnt really answer, to which i followed up with “whatever, you couldnt handle this”

I had a friend come by who i work with and she started talking to him ‘acting’ interested (i assume to see how i would handle it). So ignored them and went on with my stuff, instead of cock blocking i bragged a little about him.

she said she had to leave and was standing right in front of me for a couple seconds so i just moved in for a kiss and she did also (btw that was after less than a total of 15 minutes of talking). She left and I went back to my work, but not before a little 3-second Conan O’Brien dance behind my desk. earlier she told me to call her that night so i called her the next night.

That night she wanted to get busy and I would keep backing up when she went in to kiss me and didnt act too thrilled about the whole occasion. She took her shirt off right after she got in my house and i told her to put it back on and that she could take it off later. that night she said “Your the only guy who I can’t figure out” and “I’m so lucky to be here with you” and even “How come you picked me, you deserve so much better” This beautiful, hard-to-get girl’s personality changed right in front of me. And i used the beautiful “just say please” line once again.

I love you Dave (but not like that you sicko!)

-D from CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great story.

You’ve mentioned a couple of my favorite types of “comebacks” to things women say.

In one situation, she said, “I like you” and you replied, “I like me too”.

In another, she mentioned that she wanted to do something later with you, and you replied “Like what?”… and then said “Whatever, you couldn’t handle this”.

You TOTALLY get the equation:

COCKY + FUNNY

In your first comeback, you’ve taken something “nice” that she was saying about you, and turned it into a perfect opportunity to dial up the tension in a funny way.

“I like you”… “Yeah, I like me too”. Classic.

In your second comment, you really add one of the “magic ingredients” of ATTRACTION called being a CHALLENGE.

Most women have never had a guy say something like, “You couldn’t handle this” to them.

It’s so surprising to a woman when she hears this kind of thing… and it’s INCREDIBLE when it’s done in a FUNNY way.

Unless you understand the dynamics of how women become attracted to men, this stuff doesn’t make any sense at all.

Remember when you were a kid and you had those little cars that you could wind up by pulling them backwards on the floor… then when you let go they would spin out and fly forward?

You could feel the tension building as you pulled the car backwards… winding it up. And when you let go, it would scream out of your hand. I always thought those were pretty cool.

Well, there was another great lesson in those cool little cars: You need to dial up the tension before you can release the energy inside.

Your story and comments do a GREAT job of this.

***SUCCESS STORY***

David, I, like you, am a slow learner with women and I own nearly every product that you sell (which i am incredibly grateful for). And proof of my learning about women came just the other night. I had been achieving mild success with women but nothing to sneeze at.

Anyhow, I was in a strip club with some friends (fyi…i HATE strip clubs, seriously) just chatting it with some people i hadn’t seen for a long time sittin in sniffler’s row with my back cocked to the side, halfway ignoring the “dancers”. So, I held up $3 for a beer just as the dancer was coming my way and right before she got
in my face i notified the bartender for a Bud Light, then turned away. This, obviously, pissed her off.

I continued to sit relaxed, just chillin, ya know. Ten minutes later she comes out in somewhat normal attire and sits right next to me and starts in with how I am an a**hole and she hated me. I just smile demurely and say, “Well i’m glad you could determine that in the first 5 minutes rather than waste your time” and did NOT look away until she did. Then, not 5 minutes of conversation later, she confessed to me that she hated me yet was “so attracted to me” she couldn’t explain it.

At this time i am like “wow, this sh** is like magic”. Next i am making out with her in front of the ENTIRE bar after she had bought me 2 beers and 2 shots. Meanwhile, this tool of a man that had tipped her in excess of $200 that night was groping her while we were playing volley-lime with our tongues. Holy sh** were all the dudes in the club impressed and needless to say she left with me to finish the deal. I went from nobody in a club of perverts spending big money to the stud that left with free alcohol and the hottest stripper there.

I always was a believer in you, David, and the other night just reaffirmed my beliefs. Talk to you again soon…… D the Cunnilingualist SoDak

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What can I say?

I’ve already thought of a few things…

1) Use protection. Lots of it.

2) Don’t marry her, no matter how good the sex happens to be.

3) Wipe that DAMN Sh**-Eating-Grin off of your face already. It’s bad enough that every guy hates you… lol.

So, when you’re finished playing with fire, do yourself a favor and test out your skills in a bookstore, art show, or other place where you might meet more “quality” women.

Oh, and shut up.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

Your material is great! I went to this library in town where this very beautiful woman works. There are about 6 women that work there (no men). This woman has had very wealthy men date her and policemen and a body builder etc. I’m 49 and bald and don’t make a lot of money but she has fallen for me!

Every time I’d go in there I’d get cocky and funny with all of them and this woman wants to date ME! So we’ve been dating for a couple weeks now and she’s really falling in love with me.

Her birthday was about 5 days after we first met and I didn’t buy her anything. She obviously finds this very attractive that I feel confident enough in myself that I would do that.

Last night she said she loved me for the first time. I held my ground and refused to be intimidated into saying I love her too. She was flabberghasted when she asked: “Don’t you love me?” I said I need to know her more.

This morning she went to town and got me a pop and pop corn and wouldn’t allow me to pay her back and she brought it to me.

I’ve never been able to do this before. I was always the very nice and shy guy.

Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

T.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, it’s OK to be a nice guy. Just do it in a way that doesn’t make women use the WORD “nice” to describe you.

The fact is that when you’re being Cocky & Funny, you’re actually being VERY nice… and women know it.

They love the fact that you’re paying attention to them in a way that’s INTERESTING, entertaining, funny, and unpredictable.

Good for you. Sounds like you’ve met a great gal.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I have emailed you before with a success story but this email is more of a reply to the guy who felt his age of 37 was an issue with girls in their 20’s.

My thought on this is age is only a barrier if you choose to make it one. Sure there are girls out there where they have a problem with an age difference. To me these girls are looking for someone to settle down with, bring to her parents for Sunday dinner and have the approval of her friends and not someone to date for sake of dating.

I met this Latin girl at my gym who on a scale of 1 – 10 is about a 9. After an aerobic boxing class we went out for a cup of tea. We talked and I did a little C&F and she said to me before I leave remind me to give you my phone #. I didn’t even get to ask for it but that’s OK.

The other day we were at a Wendy’s for lunch when she told me I was incredible. She went on to say I don’t crowd her I give her, her space. Keeping the C&F going I told her I agree I am incredible. I told her if it wasn’t for the fact I like girls so much I would give myself a hug and kiss.

Well, Dave, we have been dating a few months now and about the age thing she is 27 and I am 56. It was on our second date when she asked how old I was and without any hesitation I just said 56. Just being honest and straight with her. Now, granted I do not look nor act my age for she thought I was 36 or so, I am into Hip Hop & Techno music and started taking Salsa dance lessons, there are a number of Latin clubs here in Miami.

So age is only a number to me and a lot of the girls I have gone out with. When a girl I date tells her girl friend how old I am the girl friend thinks her friend is dating this old man until I meet her and she doesn’t see an age difference any more.

N. Miami Beach

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great points.

I know many men who date women that are 10 or even 20 years or more younger.

I read an interesting statistic that men who get divorced wind up marrying women that are an average of 10 years younger the second time, and that one in five men marries a women 20 years younger the second time.

Thanks for the email.

***COMMENT***

Dear Dave,

Your stuff is right on target…It took me a week to buy your ebook which is well worth it!! I don’t even think a genie could have given me better luck with women than the things you teach in ~THAT~ book. Anyway onto my SUCCESS STORY…

I’m 5′9″ weigh 140 pounds normal teenage acne problems nothing too big. The thing that got me down is I have kind of a big nose which brought my self-esteem sky rocketing downwards and kept it there for the 18 years I have been alive. Your newsletters alone gave me the confidence I needed to approach a woman.

Well make a long juicy story short. HOT woman bumps into me at gym. I ask did you grab my ass and really crank up the ball busting and C&f routine …a week later I (had sex) for the first time before I even got my first kiss. LOL. And to all you idiots who ask dumb questions before you read the book…well…you’re idiots…Thanks Man!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hey, good job.

And I appreciate your plug for my book.

I also wish that more guys would invest in themselves and get my book before asking questions.

The questions would be so much better, and the answers would as well.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi Dave.

Im not gonna say that you’re a god or anything, but you are a good guy who seems to know his stuff. I’d be a 21 year old virgin right now if it wasn’t for you. I began reading your emails about 9 months ago, while trying to figure out why my last girl left me before we even got into bed together. Your book made the answer painfully obvious. I was just too nice to her. I did everything to please her, and in the process ended up tuckin my balls between my thighs.

After downloading your book, my success has come about gradually. I’ve just been gradually being more open with women, less worried about offending them, and saying even rude or controversial things to them just for laughs. Like I said it takes time to get use to doing this, but I really put it to use well with a girl I met this summer, and wow. I was amazed at how easy it was to get a reasonably attractive woman to sleep with you. Well that one didn’t work out, but I don’t care cause I’ve had more success with others since. Rock on Dave.

B from Michigan

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is some good stuff.

It’s important to test these ideas out until you become comfortable with them… and for some guys it’s VERY unusual or uncomfortable to say “rude or controversial things just for laughs” when it comes to women they’re attracted to.

Most guys fear that if they say the wrong thing, a woman won’t “like” them.

The problem with this kind of reasoning is that women don’t like men who PUSSYFOOT around looking for approval.

So by winning, you lose.

And yes, women like sex too.

They tend to enjoy it more with men who act like MEN, and not men who act like WOMEN.

Thanks for your email, and Rock On yourself, dude.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I have been receiving your emails and bought your book, and I think I’m starting to get it. I am practicing to learn a new skill now, so that I can remain “in character” as cocky and funny, while I work to assimilate the approach into my personality. A recent newsletter helped me overcome my fear of being direct with women. I always was afraid to make a move because I figured the attractive ones were already married, hooked up, or lesbians.

I thought I would be embarrassed and feel stupid if I made a move on someone who isn’t available. You said simply ask “Are you single?” I agree that it does say all the right things. So last week I tried it, and the woman was married. But I could see she was complimented, and I felt good about the exchange. The next time, a woman said she was dating. Again, it was a positive experience.

Then yesterday, a hot woman came into my office, and she seemed to be getting into me. So I asked her if she was single, and she bent over backwards to assure me that she was. Then I shocked myself when I took it a step further, blurting out “Well, but are you straight?” This knocked her for a loop — and as she insisted just how straight she really is, I noticed an immediate increase in her feminine behaviors. So I busted her again, “Well, I just couldn’t be sure.”

Thanks, Dave. I do think I’m starting to get it… T.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

NIYYYYYYYYYCE!

Yes, you are demonstrating that you’re starting to get it. By the way, once you get a woman on the defensive (in a fun way, like you did) it’s always fun to keep going… and accuse her of all kinds of crazy things.

After she said that she was straight, you could have said, “OK, that’s good. But can you cook?”.

Once you’re on a roll, stay with it. These first moments present an amazing opportunity to turn up the heat and really amplify the ATTRACTION.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

Love your stuff and these e-mails. Really informative.

I’ve a couple of points about the last set.

1) NLP can work in some cases but usually as a back-up to your stuff. Women love it AT THE RIGHT TIME but use it too much and you sound wussy. DON’T give up the cocky-funny approach EVER in a relationship. Keep the woman guessing, unsure and bust other women while she’s around you. You don’t have to be trying to pick up women while she’s there, just teasing shop assistants, waitresses, her friends, etc. shows her you’re in control and attractive to other women; they won’t want rid of you then……. ever. They love it and it keeps them on their toes. It makes you unpredictable, confident, assertive (in a positive way) and not needy and wussy.

2) One 37 year old guy in a previous e-mail said he felt he couldn’t approach younger women. He didn’t want to be thought of as a creepy old guy. Well, I’m 48, split 3 years ago (I’ve 3 kids!), thought my world had ended and I’d no future. I could’ve retreated to a lonely cocoon-like existence but decided, “What the hell it’s my turn now!” This really pissed off my ex-wife who wanted to split! I began to study everything I could find on women, how they thought (or didn’t think), what made them tick (or didn’t), why – to us guys – they were so irrational, the “let’s just be friends” thing, etc.

The only thing I’ve found that REALLY works is your stuff (I’ve had the book for ages). I have had loads of success with younger women (20s and 30s). My current girl is 34, attractive and I feel like a million dollars when I walk into a club or bar with my piece of arm candy (other women never stop looking and you know they’re attracted to a guy who can pull younger women, they’re curious, it’s amazing). She says this is the best relationship she’s ever had. So, my advice to older men is ignore everyone, go have some fun, approach who the hell you like, just use the cocky and funny routine and you WILL succeed more than you’ll fail. Life’s too short so get out there and enjoy. I wouldn’t have believed it could be like this.

Thanks for everything and helping me get a life back.

J. Edinburgh, Scotland

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You’ve made some great points here…

Let me comment on one or two of them.

One thing you mentioned is demonstrating how you can control situations with women… so that the woman you’re with KNOWS IT.

It’s always interesting to me how COMPETITIVE women are.

And there’s nothing quite like a woman knowing that her man can meet other women whenever he wants.

In fact, I’ll bet that a large percentage of women who stay in bad situations with men are only there because they know that their man can go meet other women anytime he wants, and they just can’t deal with the jealousy that it triggers… so they stay.

I know this doesn’t make much logical sense, but hey, it’s reality.

Now, as you know, I really don’t like the idea of “manipulating” women by lying and playing with their emotions for your enjoyment.

But if you naturally like to have fun with other people, and your girl just happens to be there when you’re joking around with the girl behind the counter at the coffee shop, then you’ll probably get some big benefits from it.

You also mentioned that when you decided to start learning about how to be more successful with women it pissed off your ex.

That’s pretty typical.

I mean, let’s face it… just between us guys… you probably allowed yourself to become a pretty boring, predictable husband… lol. So now that you’re getting your game together she’s thinking to herself “That JACKASS! Why didn’t he act like this before?! Now other women get to enjoy the part of my man that I always wanted more of!”.

A lot of guys write me to ask how they can get their ex-girlfriend back. The reality is that the reason she probably left you is because you had NO GAME. You were about as sexually interesting to her as Homer Simpson. If you want to get her back, go learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION, and then date other women. And if it’s possible to fix your relationship, that combination usually does the trick pretty nicely.

Finally, I agree with you about approaching the women you find attractive.

Look, no one is going to live your life for you.

No one is going to go meet attractive women for you.

You need to take control of your own life, and meet the kinds of women you want to meet.

Thanks for the reminder.

…and if you’re reading this right now and you’re thinking “Yea, that’s what I need… to take control of my life and my success with women”, then guess what?

YOU’RE RIGHT.

You do.

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Hello, I am reading your book now and it’s great, the cocky guy thing is working 100%. I actually got 5 #’s in 4 days! WOW :) Thanks! My Q is, I met a girl online, she gave me her #, I called her we met, got dinner, drinks, then made out! Cool stuff! She says she is having the greatest time, blah blah blah. When I kissed her, and made out a little, she then says, slow down its the first date. I felt bad for going on so fast. So I said sorry. When we went home (2 different directions) everything was cool, (looked like it at least) I said, “ok, thanks, great time blah blah” then i said “You want me to call u or u gonna call me?”

She goes “I’ll call u, u call me its all good” SO it ended good, (i think) NOW, Should I CALL HER the next day or not?

Thanks,

K.

P.S. she wants to go out to a different town with me for the weekend to have fun. HOW DO I ACT SO I DONT LOOK LIKE A WUSS AND EASY TO GET GUY!??!?!?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, well ready yourself.

I’m about to do some of my “David D. Quack-Psycho-Analysis” on you. Emphasis on the Psycho.

In a one paragraph email, you managed to tell me about a MINIMUM of three major mistakes that you made with this particular girl. If I really thought about it, I could probably find another few in there as well.

So hug your inner child and tell him that everything is going to be OK before I verbally abuse him…

Here are the three mistakes that I noticed right off the bat:

1) Making out with her somewhere other than at your house (or her house).

2) Apologizing for making out with her.

3) Asking her if you should call her, or if she should call you.

I’ll address each one in a minute in detail, but first let me start off with some of my Quack theories.

One of the things I say a lot is “Women Aren’t Attracted To Wussies”.

I say this because:

1) It’s true.

2) If you don’t understand this principle, you’re likely to make mistakes that clearly “telegraph” to a woman that you’re a Wuss.

3) When it all comes down, if a woman doesn’t feel ATTRACTION for you, or you somehow manage to screw up and KILL the ATTRACTION she’s feeling… you’re done. Game over.

I think that most of us guys have these little secret beliefs that we hide from the rest of the world… and that we TRY to hide from women.

I was having an interesting discussion with a good friend today, and we were talking about how most guys act when they’re around an “attractive” woman.

Most guys do one of the following:

- Give attractive women a lot of compliments immediately.

- Kiss up to attractive women.

- Try to get attractive women to like them by buying them gifts, dinners and flowers.

- Chase after attractive women and let it be known that the woman is “a prize worth pursuing” right from the beginning.

- Hand over all of their power and status to attractive women.

Know what I’m talking about?

Have you ever seen a guy at dinner with a beautiful woman… and he’s obviously nervous about the whole situation… and you can tell that he’s doing everything he can to NOT screw up so he can get the woman’s approval?

Have you ever BEEN THAT GUY?

Yeah, me too. A lot.

Well, unfortunately, this kind of behavior usually BACKFIRES BIG TIME.

All of the little things that most guys do to get a woman’s approval send a clear message to the woman that:

“I’M A WUSSY. I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT YOU WOULD LIKE ME FOR WHO I AM, SO I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO RESORT TO EXTREME MEASURES TO GET YOU TO PAY ATTENTION TO ME.”

Now that I understand this particular aspect of male/female interactions, I can see the horrible results all around me.

At bars I watch guys walking up to women and giving compliments… or offering to buy drinks…and the women smiling politely thinking, “Oh, another loser”, and excusing themselves…

Quick Note: bars aren’t bad places to meet women. But you must know HOW to meet women in bars if you
want to succeed in this kind of environment.

I see men at dinner with their dates…DESPERATELY trying to get the women they’re with to show any sign of interest… but the women only become colder and less interested… And I know that the women are only getting ANNOYED at this behavior…

I read personal ads in the paper and online from men who are saying “Hey, pick me! I’m a great guy! No, really!”… and I know that the women reading these ads are saying to themselves “Yeah, loser”… and the guys are getting little or no response…

I think you get the picture.

The point I’m making is that when you do things like asking her if she wants you to call her or if she wants to call you… and apologizing for making out with her, you are making the same basic mistake.

Why would you apologize for making out with a woman?

I mean, think about it.

You’re not REALLY sorry… otherwise you would not have done it in the first place. Duh.

You were actually LYING when you said you were sorry. You were only sorry that she didn’t want to continue, man.

When you said, “I’m sorry”, what she HEARD was “Uh oh, I just screwed up. I’d better say something quick to fix this. I will put aside my own wants and desires, and say whatever you want to hear in hopes that you’ll like me and give me attention and approval”.

Really.

It’s actually even WORSE than that.

The reality of this situation is that when you apologized, you created a POWER SHIFT.

The power shifted from YOU to HER.

You felt it, and she felt it.

I guarantee that in the few seconds after you said “I’m sorry”, you felt a sinking feeling in your stomach and knew something was wrong. But I ALSO guarantee that she felt a little SURGE of power AT THAT VERY MOMENT.

At the same moment you were realizing that you just did something wrong, she was realizing that she OWNED YOU.

Unfortunately, she probably also felt a little bit of disappointment in you, because you were apologizing for something just to get her approval… and women don’t WANT to own men.

Heavy man, heavy.

And the SAME thing happened in the moment that you asked her if she wanted you to call her or if she wanted to call you (but probably to a lesser degree).

That’s one of those little moments where you basically said “Here, take the power. Tell me what you want me to do, and I’ll do it. You get to make the decisions. Please tell me that you want me to call you, because that will affirm that you like me”.

Keep this up, and you’ll probably wind up a boyfriend who she eventually cheats on… or, even worse, a boyfriend who she eventually marries and then divorces because you turned into a boring Wussy husband from hell.

So, my general advice to you is:

STOP IT!

Stop doing things that let her know that she OWNS you.

One of the best things you can do is learn to PAUSE before you respond to ANYTHING that makes you feel an “Emotional Wussy Rush”.

If she says something that indicates that she’s not happy with you or your behavior, PAUSE.

Don’t respond. Stay still. Keep the mouth shut and the brain operating.

If you have to, run everything through your mental “Wussy Analyzer”.

Decide if the response you’re going to give her is to get her approval, and if it is, STOP.

Don’t do things that hand over the power in the relationship. Don’t let the things a woman says shake you emotionally.

Finally, I want to address your mistake of making out with her somewhere other than in your house or her house.

I’m sure the reason is obvious, right?

One of the best things I’ve learned is that if you LEAN BACK when you’re out on a date with a girl, and don’t try to “make your move” early on, you’ll do MUCH better later.

You mentioned that you’re reading my eBook right now… and it sounds like you’re actually doing pretty well. If you’ve gotten five women’s numbers in four days, I think you’re going to live… lol.

Pay close attention, because in my eBook I share some KILLER techniques for making it completely “natural” for a woman to come back to your place, come inside, etc. and the exact steps to take, to take things to a “physical level” once you’re there.

Most guys totally screw this part up.

They go to all the trouble to approach a woman, get her number, call her, get a date, go on the date, pay for the date, spend all that time… and then have NO IDEA what to do next.

The reality is that if you just KNOW WHAT TO DO, and you’ve prepared in advance, you can easily take things to the next level… and give her an experience that will make her DEFINITELY call you back for another date.

Make sure you read the bonus booklets that came with Double Your Dating… especially “Bridges” and “Sex Secrets”. Those will teach you how to smoothly transition from one step to the next, and how to get a woman sexually aroused (a skill that almost NO men have).

…and if you’re reading this right now and you would like to learn the secrets of how to get a woman to come home with you and WANT to come inside with you after a date… and the exact steps to take once you’re there to make sure that you DON’T get a response like this guy… then you need to check out my eBook.

I have spent the last several years of my life learning from guys who are AMAZING with women, and figuring out all kinds of simple, easy-to-use techniques just like the ones I’ve mentioned for getting a woman to come home with you, getting a woman “turned on”, and taking things to a “physical level” in a way that she’ll enjoy. In my eBook I share dozens of these ideas.

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Greetings,

I’m considering investing in your program, but I have a question for you before I do. Essentially, I’m no longer looking to hook up with women left and right. In fact, I think I’ve met “the one,” but I’m having trouble making her realize this. I’ve been pursuing her for about five months (during part of which time she was away at school, but we kept in regular contact, at first through e-mail and, later, over the phone), and I get the sense that she’s very guarded about relationships. She’s *very* goal oriented (which is one of the
many things I love about her, BTW), and therefore very busy, and – I suspect – she’s been burned in the past, relationship wise.

At any rate, on a couple of occasions, it felt to me as if things were moving forward, and then she backpedaled; perhaps she “got spooked,” and took a big step back to protect herself. Most recently, we were out for the first time since she finished school, and – insofar as I was able to determine, I was getting the green light all night: at a movie, I slipped my arm around her and she leaned in, resting her head on my shoulder; later, we were at a club for a band, and when we were ready to leave, she reached across the table and held my hand for a while; on the way back to the car, it was pretty chilly, and when she complained about the chill, I stepped over and hugged her.

She responded by stepping into it: she pressed her face hard into my shoulder, and stepped into full body to body contact – hip to hip, shoulder to shoulder and everything in between. When we got back to her place, I moved to kiss her and she shied away such that it would have been *extremely* awkward for me to actually do so.

At any rate, we’ve gotten together since (in fact, I offered to cook dinner for her, and she somehow maneuvered it around such that I was *her* guest, and she cooked for me) and we talked a while. As I said above, I think she got a little spooked. She specifically said that she thought the relationship could’ve evolved into something romantic, but that it hasn’t, and she wasn’t sure why. At this moment, she says she doesn’t believe it will. We remain *very* close friends, but I still believe she’s the one, and I’ve told her that I’m still going to pursue this, and she’s keen on still spending time together (for her, for now, as close friends).

My question is this: do you believe your program can aid me in turning her around on this? If so, why?

Thanks,

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, sit down for this.

Hold on to something tight, because I’m going to yell at you for your own damn good…

YOU ARE TOTALLY MISSING WHAT’S GOING ON!

THIS WOMAN ACTUALLY LIKES YOU, AND YOU’RE SCREWING IT ALL UP BY ACTING LIKE A NEEDY WUSS BAG!

If you were closer, I’d slap you myself.

DUH!

Whew. Let me calm myself. As you know, I don’t usually get so worked up. That makes three exclamation marks in one email, and I haven’t even started lambasting you proper yet. (What is lambasting, anyway? And is that how you spell it? It’s such a great word. I really should look and find out.)

OK, I’m calm.

NOW, let’s have a little talk here…

The reason why this kind of situation bothers me is at least twofold:

1) Because I’ve been in it myself about a bazillion and a half times, and it sucks to be screwing something up and not even realize that you’re doing it.

2) I can tell from your email that you actually like this girl A LOT, and that she’s probably a fantastic woman… and I hate to see you working so hard against yourself… and screwing this up when it’s right there in front of you for the taking.

Before I tell you all the reasons why you most DEFINITELY should invest in my Advanced Dating Techniques program, let me give you a few pointers that might help you STOP screwing this up in the meantime.

OK, back to the basics.

Let’s take this from the top…

At the very beginning of your email, you said something that basically telegraphed EXACTLY what was going on here…

You said “…I think I’ve met “the one,” but I’m having trouble making her realize this. I’ve been pursuing her for about five months…”

You’re having trouble making her REALIZE this?

You’ve been PURSUING her?

Do you assume that at some point within the NEXT five months that she’s going to wake up one day and feel a powerful ATTRACTION for you because you like to chase her around and tell her how you feel about her?

Normally I’d make fun of you here, and tell you that you don’t get it… blah blah blah.

But for some reason I feel like I just have to lay things out for you directly.

Look, man… the reason why she’s telling you that she “doesn’t know why it hasn’t evolved into something romantic” is that she doesn’t FEEL IT.

She doesn’t FEEL IT.

Get it?

SHE DOESN’T FEEL IT!

She doesn’t feel ATTRACTION for you.

And you can’t CONVINCE her to feel it by chasing her around and telling her how you “feel” about her.

Attraction, as I always say, ISN’T A CHOICE.

Now, you’re acting like most guys who think things like: “If she only knew how I felt about her, she’d feel the same way” and “If I keep pursuing her, she’ll eventually see how much I love her” etc.

Well guess what?

AIN’T GONNA HAPPEN, HOMEY.

Right now you are playing what is referred to as a “losing game”.

Think of it this way. If you stop on the way home from work every day and buy a lottery ticket, you’ll win once in awhile. Hell, you might even be lucky one day and win big.

But your chances SUCK.

You’re probably going to lose a LOT more than you win over time.

Like I said, you COULD win big. There is a chance. But you probably won’t. And I mean probably with a BIG P.

I refer to the way that you’re acting as “Being a Wussy” (that’s the technical term… made it up myself).

When you act like a Wussy, you do things like:

-Pursue

-Cling

-Share “feelings”

-Act submissive

-Seek approval

-Pine away

This is WUSSY behavior.

It’s distinctly FEMININE in nature.

When guys act like this, they’re getting in touch with their inner little girl (and she needs a spanking in the worst way).

And are you ready for the WORST, WORST part?

When you act like this around a woman (and ESPECIALLY a “goal oriented” woman who’s probably smart and powerful like yours) they CANNOT feel the emotion of ATTRACTION towards you.

Women aren’t attracted to Wussies.

This is a UNIVERSAL truth.

And by the way that you describe your relationship with this woman, SHE REALLY WANTS TO BE ATTRACTED TO YOU!

She’s trying, man.

And she probably KNOWS that you’d be a great guy to be in a relationship with… but she just doesn’t FEEL IT… so she holds back. I’m sure she WISHES that she could be attracted to you. I’ll bet you money.

Look, you need to STOP acting like a nice friend guy Wuss IMMEDIATELY if you want this to turn into something.

You’re probably beyond help with this particular woman, but I’m going to give you a few ideas JUST IN CASE…

1) Stop calling her all the time (if you do), and stop spending so much time with her.

2) Start dating other women IMMEDIATELY, and make sure she knows about it.

3) Stop being all lovey with her, and don’t tell her how you “feel about her” anymore. Stop it.

4) Accept that you will probably be friends with her forever, and start acting that way.

5) Don’t try to kiss her or be physical with her at ALL anymore until you understand what you’re doing.

Remember, what you’re doing ISN’T WORKING.

If you do these things that I’ve described, you will probably have the best chance of turning this around.

NOW, the next thing you need to do is what you asked me about in your email… GET MY ADVANCED DATING TECHNIQUES PROGRAM.

You need a new perspective on this entire situation. And you need a new perspective on women.

You’re obviously a smart guy, and once you begin to understand how ATTRACTION works for women, you’ll change how you behave COMPLETELY.

Total transformation.

And the best part is that you won’t be changing how you act and just “faking it”. You’ll change how you act because you GET IT.

It’s really fantastic to HELP a woman feel that magical ATTRACTION for you that she REALLY WANTS TO FEEL.

And it’s also amazing to know exactly how to get physical with a woman without having to deal with the awkward “shy away from the kiss” situation that you described in your email.

Now repeat after me: I WILL NEVER ACT LIKE A WUSSY AGAIN!

If you want to make your dating life a whole lot better and easier, then stop and think about your behavior… and resolve right now to stop acting like a WUSS for the rest of your life.

Being “nice” and “accommodating” and “understanding” is great for friendships and social relationships, but it’s HORRIBLE for ATTRACTION.

An interesting, attractive woman doesn’t want a guy that she can push around. She doesn’t want a guy who does what she wants him to do. She doesn’t want a little boy that she can train and raise.

An interesting, attractive woman wants a MAN.

This doesn’t make LOGICAL sense, I know. But it’s the truth. These submissive qualities will only work in attracting a woman IF SHE LIKES DRESSING UP IN LEATHER AND WHIPPING HER MAN… AND CHARGING $400.00 AN HOUR!

And my guess is that this isn’t the kind of woman that you’re looking for.

If you want to stop ACTING like a WUSSY you need to eliminate your INNER WUSS for good and build a rock-solid confidence level that is NATURALLY attractive to women. So you also need to take a look at my Deep Inner Game program.

This program will eliminate inner challenges like insecurity, fear and anxiety that are holding you back from TRUE success with women. And as long as you have those kinds of fears you’re gonna continue acting like a needy wussbag.

So go take a look at some of the video clips from this program here:

Deep Inner Game

Now I’ve explained some of the important qualities that you need to cultivate in yourself if you want to attract women… and keep them attracted. Now get out there and start working on it.

…and if you’re reading this right now and you haven’t yet downloaded your copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating”, I have something to tell you…

My eBook is the foundation for EVERYTHING that I teach in these newsletters, my Advanced Dating Techniques, and other programs.

And you need to read my Double Your Dating ebook, because it contains a lot of valuable material that sets the stage for everything else. It’s here, so go download it now:

Double Your Dating

Like I said, if you’re just starting out, my ebooks and programs will show you things that you’ve never seen or heard before. You’ll get a completely new perspective on what it takes to be successful with women and dating.

If you’re already successful, my programs will make you BETTER. There are a lot of very advanced concepts included… and you’ll get to hear me interview guys who are AMAZING with women in my Advanced Series. In other words, no matter where you are with women, you’ll improve.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo