I’m reading through some of the bazillion emails I get every week, and I come across one of the best emails that I’ve read in a LONG time.

Are you ready for the interesting part?

It’s from a MARRIED GUY.

Yep, you read that right. He’s married.

He reads the newsletters and uses the things he learns to improve his marriage. Go figure.

This guy was able to explain in a few paragraphs a concept and technique that I personally use, but have been unable to actually explain and verbalize well.

I wish I would have written what you’re about to read, but I didn’t (but I’m still a cool guy because I wrote what came before and after it).

Check this out…

***Conversation Technique***

Dave,

I’m still having great success with a rekindled marriage using you’re Tips on my wife. Thanks a million. Listen, I keep reading over and over in the MailBags guys wanting to know how to start, then keep a conversation going with women. I work for a major oil company and have been through many of there training courses on dealing with people. One particularly interesting course was on “Information Seeking”.

For this we first practiced picking up on “Key words or phrases” the subject said. For instance, I’ll try and give an example using c&f even though you wouldn’t use this professionally on the job. Lets say you see this great looking chick on the street and you tell her, “That’s an unusual looking dress you’re wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?”

She says, “Your mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store.” Key Words: Old Navy. “Oh, so you’re in the Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall.” Key word: Mall. “Oh, so you like going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?” “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!” Key phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and “dress is popular”. “Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain clothing business…” I know, this is a lame example but the lessons are this.

1. You start a conversation with however you want then pick out key words or phrases from what the person says.
2. You repeat them in what you say then listen for new key words in there next response.
3. You add a little something new into the conversation REPEATING there words you’re using as Key words or phrases. This tells them you’re listening, even though you’re turning things around to be c/f in this situation.

Once we learned to keep someone talking for 5 minutes, then 15 minutes the company actually hired total strangers from a job soliciting company to come and be our subjects. While being videotaped we had to get the person talking and keep them talking for 30 minutes. One important note: If a person brings up something personal or whatever, they wouldn’t have mentioned it if they didn’t want to talk about it.

These are great to Key in on. My subject mentioned she was going through a divorce and her ex-husband was a total jerk. I keyed in on this and it’s amazing what a total stranger will tell you once you build a little rapport. When watching the video you pick up on mistakes or you see something different you could have said. You also pick up on Key words and phases you missed. It just takes a little practice. This is just one example of how you can start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully it can be of help to you’re readers.

JTM Texas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Awesome.

This is an EXCELLENT description of how to keep a conversation going, keep it interesting and unpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have it be fun.

Read it again.

Now, let me sprinkle a little magic dust on this and tell you how I use this technique personally.

When I’m having a conversation with a woman, I’m not just listening for ANY key word… I’m listening for a particular KIND of key word (or words).

I’m always on the alert for any words or phrases that can be twisted, turned around, misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?) in one of a few particular ways…

Namely, in a way that says she’s stupid, ditzy, sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.

For instance, in your example above, you suggested the following:

“That’s an unusual looking dress you’re wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?” She says, “You’re mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store.” Key Words: Old Navy. “Oh, so you’re in the Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall.” Key word: Mall. “Oh, so you like going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?” “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!” Key phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and “dress is popular”. “Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain clothing business…”

Good. Nice one.

Now, let’s dial it up a little bit…

She says, “No, I bought this from the Old Navy store…”

Instead of just keying into “Navy” and saying, “Oh, so you’re in the navy, huh?”, why not take it to the next step and actually MAKE FUN of her.

“Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the Navy a long time ago… in the OLD Navy?”

Now you’re BUSTING on her as well, AND it’s funny.

She says, “No silly. you know, the big store over at the Mall.”

You might try, “What kind of MALL are YOU shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses like that one too?”

Again, you’re hinting that she has funky taste and she shops in weird places.

She says, “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!”

You could go with, “Oh, you have girlfriends? You have more than one? Do they all know that you think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of them the special one? By the way, if you have cute girlfriends, then I think you and I are going to get along VERY well.”

…are you with me here?

What I’m doing is NOT ONLY looking for key words to latch onto, but I’m ALSO looking for ways to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly suggest various kinds of “racy” topics.

When done in a funny way, it’s magic.

My very favorite technique with women is “Cocky & Funny”. If you want to learn to master it, make sure you go and check THIS out right now:

Cocky Comedy

Once upon a time, a guy I know very well went into a nightclub.

He was talking to a girl at that club for awhile when she said, “Well, I’m getting tired. I think it’s time for me to go home.”

The guy answered “Go HOME?! I just met you. I’m not going HOME with you!”

She said, “No, I mean I’M going home. I’m tired.”

He shot back, “Maybe you don’t hear me. I’m not going home with you, so don’t even ask anymore.”

She said, “No, that’s not what I’m saying…”

He replied, “And besides, I’m sure my place is nicer than yours… so if anything, you’re coming home with ME.”

This went on and on for about an hour or so.

And you guessed it, she went home with him.

I saw it happen with my own two eyes. Another off-the-wall (but pretty funny) example of this is a story that a good friend of mine told me about one of his friends.

His friend was talking to a girl at a club and she was talking about what kinds of things she enjoyed doing in her spare time.

She said, “…I like to go clubbing…”

He came back with, “Oh, like baby seals?”

lol… Now, that might not get a girl to come home with you, but it’s damn funny. Love it.

This technique is GREAT for keeping a conversation fresh, fun, unpredictable, and FUNNY (if you know how to do it just right).

Use it.

Right now you’re probably thinking to yourself:

“Wow, that’s really great. I sure wish there was a resource available that could show me hundreds of great ideas like that… so I could know exactly what to do from when I first meet a woman to the first date… all the way up until we get physical and beyond…”

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Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Hey wassup?

I have just reread your book again and I took a look at all my online profiles that I have posted in the past. At first I didn’t want to believe what was in the ebooks but as I thought about it more and more I realized I was totally on the wrong path.

Then I was always wondering why no one ever responded to my profiles so I took a look at the profiles after gaining the knowledge from your ebook and realized they stank with wussyness that would make girls in a three mile radius run away fast! Well I changed my profiles and added a lot of C & F to it and just basically had fun with it and I can’t believe the success I have gotten from it. I am getting a bunch of e-mails a day from girls (I have gotten more e-mail in 2 days then I got in 4 months with my old profile). I also have around 5 dates set up for the next three week period!

Thanks again for all your hard work and from turning me from a momma’s boy into a real man (that virtual slap to the face really woke me up! just don’t do it so hard next time!).

TY

PS. Just a comment I find it funny that sometimes I will see a girl that is about an 8 or 9 and when I talk to them for a while I find out a lot of them see themsevles as just average or below average. Any insight as to why some hot girls (or cold whichever) see themselves as this when they could probably get any guy they wanted?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Before I answer your great question about why beautiful women see themselves as “just average” or “below average” and what it means to you, I want to comment on your email… and in particular, the quote:

“Then I was always wondering why no one ever responded to my profiles so I took a look at the profiles after gaining the knowledge from your ebook and realized they stank with wussyness…”

I do believe that you’ve coined a new term.

In the future, whenever anyone says that a particular guy’s behavior “Stanks Of Wussyness” or “Stank With Wussyness” they will have YOU to thank.

Or stank.

Or whatever.

And I think that the reason I liked this one quote so much is that it just plain RINGS TRUE.

Women can SMELL that thing called WUSSYNESS.

And the fact that women can actually detect the STRONG STANK OF WUSS even through an INTERNET PROFILE says something even MORE profound…

It says that the concept of being a WUSSY is an “INNER” idea.

In other words, it’s something that originates in your MIND. It’s a combination of beliefs, as well as the communication of those beliefs through words, body language, etc.

Think about that for a moment.

A woman can actually SMELL A WUSSY from an INTERNET PROFILE ALONE.

And as soon as you changed your profile around to get rid of the Wussyness in it, your responses changed INSTANTLY.

So what is it about this particular set of qualities that make up a WUSSY that women just aren’t attracted to?

Well, I really think that it all comes down to the fact that ATTRACTION isn’t based on LOGIC.

It’s not a “decision.”

You’ve heard me say that “Attraction Isn’t A Choice” probably a bazillion times now.

Just realizing that women can’t “choose” who they feel attracted to, makes you also realize that there are qualities that women DO feel attracted to AUTOMATICALLY.

On the flip side of the coin, there are many qualities that INSTANTLY turn a woman OFF as well.

When you put many of these “anti-attraction” qualities together, you’ll usually find a Wussy.

Women KNOW that they aren’t attracted to guys who are Wussies.

And they have an amazing “WussDar” system that is finely tuned to recognize those subtle little hints that say, “I’m A Wuss!”.

Women have all kinds of little “code words” and body language cues that they use with each other to describe the process of NOT being attracted to a particular guy because he acts like a Wuss.

If you see two women talking, and one is describing a date she had with a guy who was a Wuss, it might go something like this:

Girl #1: “Yeah, he was NICE, and he was good-looking… but when he showed up he had flowers with him… and then before we could even get out the door he was asking me if it was OK with me if we went to the restaurant he chose… an hour into dinner he asked me if I thought that the date was going OK…”

Girl #2: “Ohhh, Ewwww. That’s not gonna work…”

Girl #1: “Yeah, I know. Why do most guys have to act so needy and stupid? If I wanted another girlfriend, I’d go meet WOMEN…”

Girl #2: “So how are you going to cut him loose?”

Girl #1: “I’m just not going to call him back, and he’ll get the hint… I hope. But, then again, probably not. He’ll call me every day for a week, and when I reach him I’m going to have to make up a story about being busy with work… you know the deal. Eventually he’ll get the hint.”

Girl #2: “Why don’t guys get it?”

…and on and on.

From just a few little clues, the friend KNEW that this guy STANK OF WUSSYNESS.

From there on, it was just ASSUMED that he didn’t have a chance.

It was over.

The conversation was on to “How are you going to get rid of him?” NATURALLY.

This is how women actually respond to Wussy behavior and communication… INSTANTLY.

And the worst part is that once you’re mentally branded a Wussy in a woman’s mind, you’re in that category FOREVER.

Getting out of the mental Wuss category is one of the hardest things you can ever TRY to do.

It’s not even worth the effort.

The key is to not get into the Wuss category in the FIRST PLACE.

And while you’re in the process of not being a Wussy, you need to make her feel ATTRACTION as well.

More on that later.

Now I want to address your question…

You asked why many attractive women see themselves as “average” or “below average”… when they could probably get any guy they want.

These are the kinds of questions that I think about a lot.

The crazy things that people say and do really fascinate me.

And I’m especially interested in these areas of psychology that just don’t seem to MAKE SENSE.

Attractive women get a lot of attention.

In fact, for an attractive woman, attention can actually become like a DRUG.

I have personally known and dated some very attractive women… models, actresses, dancers, and so on.

And I can verify that the most attractive women are also the most INSECURE women when it comes to their attractiveness.

Illogical?

Maybe.

But think about it this way…

If you’re an unusually attractive woman, your looks become your IDENTITY.

Everyone that meets you mentions your looks.

Every guy you date tells you how beautiful you are.

Every day, everywhere you go, you have people talking about how you look.

But MORE importantly, the more you hear it, and the more you think about it, the more you begin to realize that there are OTHER women who are MORE attractive than you.

Since “looks” is the topic that’s always coming up, you’re always thinking about it.

If a woman with a bigger chest walks by, you immediately think “maybe I’d be more attractive if I had a bigger chest” and you feel insecure.

If a thinner woman walks by, you think that maybe you should be thinner.

If a woman with a different hair color walks by, you wonder if your hair is the right color.

This kind of thing triggers INSECURITY every time it happens.

Trust me.

This kind of thing gets WORSE the MORE attractive a woman is…

Because the most beautiful women are often MODELS… and they get to go from one audition to the next… and see literally hundreds and hundreds of other “competitive” women who each have some feature that’s just a little “better” than theirs.

Now imagine what it’s like to be a woman with “average” looks.

If your looks are “average”, you don’t hear about them so much.

Your looks aren’t the topic of every conversation.

Your looks aren’t your “identity” the way they are for the beautiful girl.

And since you don’t think about your looks as much, and don’t talk about your looks as much, you don’t feel that deep insecurity as often when an attractive woman walks by.

Reality can be pretty weird sometimes.

It’s different for each of us.

You can put a beautiful woman in a room with 100 guys who all think she’s the hottest thing they’ve ever seen… but she’ll still feel like “nothing special” and that she looks horrible that evening.

All the compliments she hears will roll off her like water rolls off a duck’s back… because she’ll detect the subtle tone of Wussy, and she will be thinking about how one of her girlfriends just got a boob job and how insecure she feels now because guys look at those new boobs a lot.

The reality of THIS situation is that very few women have the “whole package.”

The combination of looks, personality, emotional stability, and intelligence is RARE.

You’re going to have to date quite a few women before you’re going to find that one fantastic one who really has it all together.

One of the things you’ll notice about attractive women is that they REALLY respond to Cocky & Funny comments… especially about LOOKS.

They tend to “get it” faster, because you’re touching a sensitive spot.

And by the way, when you make fun of a “super hottie”, it is big-time fun for the whole family.

It instantly levels the playing field.

It says, “Hey, I’m not one of the guys who is affected by your looks… and I’m not going to act like I need your approval” INSTANTLY.

It says, “all the right things” all at the same time… and it makes women laugh as well.

There are a LOT of different things that don’t make any “logical sense” when it comes to the world of women and dating.

Unfortunately for most guys, these things will always be a mystery.

For most men, the idea of being able to meet and date as many interesting, attractive women as they want will always be a fantasy… but never a reality.

This sucks, because it doesn’t have to be that way… you don’t have to just accept your current level of success with women and dating.

Until now, there have been almost no options when it came to learning how to get this area of your life handled…

Well, the good news is that I’ve spent a lot of years now personally figuring all of this stuff out.

I’ve figured out how to make women feel ATTRACTION by using body language and other communication… and it’s really not that hard.

But, like any other skill that’s valuable, it’s not something that you can learn in 2 minutes.

It takes a little practice.

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I’ll talk to you again soon

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Hi David, love your newsletters, always remind me the great points I read in your book… You recently wrote:

“If you buy a woman enough dinners, she may begin to feel some AFFECTION for you… but food and gifts will never lead to ATTRACTION. Big difference.”

So what do we do after the first date of tea and stimulating conversation? I figure that at some point, I would like to go to dinner with a new girl. Should I just let them pay for theirs? I did that last time, since we were just becoming friends, I wasn’t that into the woman and didn’t want to look like I was trying to impress her (since I wasn’t trying to impress her), and she also has her own business and I could tell she wasn’t struggling.

Dinner has been my main date approach in the past, and I have become the Wuss in most cases! I recently came up with a good line for a girl at the Farmers market who told me I should eat my greens… I told her she should come over and cook them for me! She didn’t know how to respond, but I think she liked it by her smile. I’m gonna hit her up next time to be serious about that request, I think she can probably cook up some nice greens to go along with my nice Ahi Tuna dish…

A.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I want to share an interesting story about a conversation I had this evening.

I was talking with, of all people, my MOM about the topic of “men paying for things for women” and it was fascinating to me to hear her perspective.

Without hesitation, she said that she believes that men should pay for everything, and if they really like a woman that they should SUPPORT her as well.

Of course, I burst out with, “YOU HAVE TO BE KIDDING!”

After we shared a laugh, she said, “No, I’m not kidding.”

And she wasn’t kidding, either.

My own mother believes that it’s just part of being a “gentleman and good suitor” to pay for dinners, gifts, and even shelter for the woman he desires.

I immediately replied with [paraphrased]:

“This kind of sounds to me like you believe that men should pay women to give them attention, affection and sex.”

At this point I think she remembered that I write books about this kind of thing and she gave up. But the thing that really got my attention was that she REALLY BELIEVES THAT MEN SHOULD PAY FOR EVERYTHING. IN FACT, SHE BELIEVES IT AT THE “WELL, OF COURSE! THAT’S JUST THE RIGHT THING TO DO” LEVEL!

Heavy man, heavy.

No wonder I was such a loser before with women.

OK, I love my mom and mean no disrespect towards her…

But let’s talk about the real world for a second.

Here are a few things that I believe about how things work in general when it comes to women and dating:

1. People in general, MALE OR FEMALE, intuitively know when they are being “pursued.” As soon as we know that we have something that someone else wants, the price starts to go up. Economics 101.
2. When the price starts going up (translation: she realizes that you really like her and she starts playing hard to get, making you “prove” yourself, etc.) you start to LOSE CONTROL RAPIDLY.
3. When you lose control, you have a couple of basic ways you can respond: A) Pursue her harder, giving her even MORE control OR B) Giving up. (Neither of these options sounds very good to me.)
4. An alternative is to NEVER START GIVING UP CONTROL IN THE FIRST PLACE.
5. One way to do that is to stay away from things that put a woman into the “courting” mode of thinking and behavior.
6. Asking a woman to dinner and then buying is probably the absolute most certain way to put a woman in the state of mind that she is being “pursued” (with the possible exception of stalking her, which I strongly discourage).

By the way, I’m not opposed to the idea of buying dinner for a woman. I’m opposed to the mindset that you put her into when you buy it. Make sense?

A quick thought: This kind of thing is usually just a “symptom” of a deeper problem that many men have… which has to do with problems of healthy “personal boundaries” and other deeper psychological concepts. If you are interested in learning how to fix this “deeper” stuff, then you should go and take a look at THIS right now:

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Before I tell you what to do instead of buying a woman dinner, let me share what I’m thinking when I first meet an attractive woman (I like unusually beautiful women personally, so this might reflect a bit of a bias):

“She seems nice, but in my experience you never know what a person is like until you get to know them better. I’m willing to take the time to have a cup of tea with her to find out more.”

Get it?

I’M GOING TO GIVE HER THE CHANCE TO PROVE TO ME THAT SHE’S MORE THAN JUST A PRETTY FACE.

I never think, EVEN FOR A SECOND, that I need to buy her dinner so she’ll sit and talk to me. No way.

Incidentally, or not so incidentally, having an attitude that you need something other than yourself in order for a woman to like you is UNATTRACTIVE to women. They can smell this kind of attitude and lack of self-worth. Bad, bad, bad.

OK, so you get that I’m not real big on the idea of starting things off by paying for dinners and gifts.

“What should you do instead?”

I thought you’d never ask…

Well, first off, if you ABSOLUTELY CAN’T HELP YOURSELF and you just HAVE to take a woman to dinner, at least frame it as “I want to go out to this favorite restaurant of mine, and if you’d like to go you’re welcome to join me.” Then if you decide to pay, it can be something you were doing for yourself, and you were being POLITE by paying for hers. If you do this, make it clear that you’re there because you want to go there, and that it’s not to court her!

A much better idea is to be creative and avoid all of the things that scream “I’m willing to spend money to have your attention” (and therefore driving the price of that attention up).

Why not a walk in the park? Going to an art show? Going window shopping in an interesting part of town? Taking her with you to run errands? Taking her to a party that friends are throwing?

Here’s a hint: DO SOMETHING THAT HAS INTERESTING CONVERSATION AND EXCITEMENT BUILT IN.

Sitting at a dinner table ALONE with someone that YOU DON’T KNOW is hardly “interesting conversation built in”. Think about it.

Take a moment right now and think of 10 things you could do with a woman that cost little or no money, but have all kinds of interesting conversation, adventure, and excitement BUILT RIGHT IN.

Then, just do some of those things! Don’t advertise the fact that you’re not “taking her out to dinner”, just DON’T DO IT.

Hey, this is great… you get to have fun, not look like a wuss, not put her in “courting” mode, and have interesting conversation built right in.

Added bonus: You save $$$. Nice.

What I’m really trying to say here is don’t set up the idea that you’re paying for her attention. Just don’t do it.

And as for the gal who you met in the market…

I love the fact that you suggested she should come over and cook for you. Cocky and funny, very nice.

When she got that shocked look and couldn’t respond you might have said, “Oh, I didn’t mean to embarrass you… you can’t cook, huh? Well, that’s OK. It’s nothing to be ashamed of…”

These are the best moments to turn up the heat!

After that, just simply move to the “It was nice talking to you but I have to get back to my shopping…” Then, just after turning away, say, “Hey!… Do you have email?”

“Yes.”

“Great [pull out pen]. Give it to me.”

Then follow up with this email:

“Hey, nice bumping into you at the market today. After carefully considering it, I’ve decided that I can live with the fact that you can’t cook. I’ll just have to adjust. I’m busy tomorrow, but maybe the next day we can get together for a cup of tea and I can teach you a thing or two about this cooking thing. It’s really not that hard, and I’m sure you’ll get the hang of it in no time…”

By the way, I have no problem with the idea of having a woman cook for you. Just remember that if she does YOU NEED TO PLAY HARD TO GET!

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

The answer that I’m going to propose is almost misleading in its simplicity, but hey… those are my favorite kind…

DON’T GO OUT ON “TRADITIONAL DINNER DATES” ANYMORE.

See, if you don’t go out on “take her out to dinner” dates anymore, then you won’t have to deal with paying for them.

Profound, I know. Please, hold the applause.

Let me explain this a little more…

A lot of good research suggests that women think men, who are potential mates, fall into one of two categories. I call these categories “Lover” and “Provider”. If you’ve read my book “Double Your Dating” then you will recall that one of the three free bonus reports was dedicated to this topic.

The basic idea goes like this:

In a “traditional” boy-meets-girl situation, the girl makes a decision early on whether you’re the type of guy that she should get physically involved with quickly (spelled A-T-T-R-A-C-T-I-O-N), or if you’re of the “nicer” type (spelled W-U-S-S-Y) that would be glad to “prove” yourself to her by paying for lots of expensive dates, buying flowers, etc.

I realize that I’m generalizing here, and that I’m being a bit extreme… but I’m making a point, so go with me.

A very common approach that men use is the old “Can I take you out sometime?” line.

At first glance, it sounds innocent enough.

It has the ring of “I’m a nice guy, and I’d like to take you to dinner so I have a chance to get to know you better” to it, right?

Well, it may seem that way at first glance, but let’s get a little deeper into what ELSE you’re saying when you ask a question like this one (or start off by paying for dinner, etc.).

Here are a few of the OTHER LESS OBVIOUS things that you’re saying when you offer to “take a woman out”.

1) You’re starting off the relationship RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING by offering to buy something for her, and more importantly YOU’RE SETTING AN EXPECTATION. In other words, when you do this, you’re setting an expectation that you’re going to do this from NOW ON.

2) You’re subtly saying, “I feel like I need to use a bribe to get you to see me again”. I’m sure that men have been bribing women with food and gifts since the dawn of our species. Does this sound far-fetched to you? Check out how our closest relatives, the chimps use food to persuade females to have sex with them. No, really.

3) Once you “take a woman out” and prove to her beyond the shadow of a doubt that you like to pay for things, you set a whole series of other subconscious expectations in place. Without going into detail, most of these other expectations will only lead her thinking of you in the “nice guy” category, and costing you time and money that you might as well have thrown down a rat hole.

4) By going out to a typical nice restaurant setting, you start a whole chain of events that often leads to two people looking at each other over a candle, in a loud room full of other people, with a typically uncomfortable “OK, so tell me about yourself and don’t ask me too many personal questions please” look on your faces.

I don’t know about you, but this just isn’t my idea of a good time.

So, what’s the alternative?

Thought you’d never ask… By the way, if you have NOT read my ebook “ Double Your Dating“… and the three bonus books that come along with it, then you need to go and download those RIGHT NOW. You can download all of them right here:

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Now then…

As I said earlier, the first thing you might consider doing is NOT ASKING WOMEN “OUT” ANYMORE.

Instead, just say, “Do you have email?” If she does, hand her a pen and say, “Great, write it down for me.” Then, follow up by inviting her to join you for a cup of tea and some stimulating conversation. Here’s an example email for you:

“Hi, it was fun talking yesterday… I’m thinking that we should get together tomorrow for a cup of tea and some stimulating conversation. You seem like you might make a nice friend.”

Then, if you’re REALLY cheap, show up 5 minutes late so she buys her own tea and is waiting for you. You can even say, “How inconsiderate of you… where’s mine?”

Here’s the key:

IF YOU WANT TO BE A MAN THAT SHE FEELS ATTRACTION FOR, THEN QUIT ACTING LIKE ALL THE OTHER GUYS THAT TRY TO BUY HER ATTENTION WITH FOOD AND GIFTS.

Use the techniques that you’re learning from me to be Cocky & Funny, keep her laughing, and generally bust on her to increase the ATTRACTION level.

If you buy a woman enough dinners, she may begin to feel some AFFECTION for you… but food and gifts will never lead to ATTRACTION. Big difference.

Now, knowing how to avoid buying women dinners and gifts is only a small piece of the puzzle.

You obviously need to know how to get a woman to be interested enough to date you in the first place before you can NOT take her out on a date!

Well, as you can probably imagine, I’ve spent a lot of years now figuring out how to become the kind of guy that women want to be around.

I’ve spent a lot of time watching guys who are what you might call “Naturals” with women.

I’ve spent a lot of time trying out just about every imaginable idea and strategy with women…

And guess what?

Most of them SUCKED.

Most of them didn’t work.

Most of them felt strange and manipulative.

Most of them were just plain not good.

After trying all this stuff and feeling around in the dark for quite a long time, I started to realize that my problem wasn’t the TECHNIQUES I was using, it was the way I was approaching things.

You see, I hadn’t really taken the time to understand women and the psychology of dating and attraction.

I was just trying to learn tricks, hoping that they would magically fix everything for me.

Well, they didn’t.

But, what DID fix things for me, and what did wind up leading me to fantastic success with women and dating, was learning what I call the “Inner Game”… then going on to learn techniques that supported this new perspective.

In my “Advanced Dating Techniques” program, I spend several HOURS teaching you this very special perspective and understanding… so that you will have the only pair of 3-D glasses… while everyone else has no idea what’s going on.

I highly recommend that you get yourself a copy of my “Advanced Dating Techniques” CD/DVD program. It is literally JAM PACKED with hundreds of concepts and step-by-step techniques for meeting women, dating women, and taking things to a “physical level” smoothly… and with a minimum amount of rejection and failure.

Go here to get the details and to check out a few great free samples:

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And you can watch some great preview video clips of my “Cocky Comedy” program here:

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Talk to you soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

I have been using your techniques for the past month and my “popularity” is soaring. I would like to thank you for finally saying what I have thought for years. Here is my question. About 5 years ago I used to go to this bar and there was a server that I was just ga ga for. Back then I was very shy and reserved. We talked here and there nothing ever happened more than that and that was only when she brought me my drinks.

Well, this weekend was my first weekend out since I moved back home and she was working at this new bar, I went to go approach her and all of sudden my mind was blank so I just backed off b4 she even knew i was going to approach her. How should I handle this especially since she has been bartending for at least 5 years she has seen it all and been hit on by EVERYONE! What would you do?

D.V.

West Virginia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

One of the keys to approaching women like this one who are hit on ALL THE TIME by guys is to be as TOTALLY COOL AND CALM AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN.

By the way, bartenders are EXCELLENT candidates for asking “Hey, do you have email?”… because it’s very low-key and non-threatening.

Try this… roll into the bar, and when you see her, say “Hey, long time no see… so you’re still tending bar after all these years, huh?”

See if she remembers you. If she doesn’t, then make some small talk about how you used to come in the other bar where she worked. But keep it short, because she’ll probably be busy.

Then say “So what, are you married with ten kids now?”

This is a cute way to ask a woman that you haven’t talked to in awhile if she’s single…

Then say “Well, I’m going to get back to my friends… good seeing you”… and just as you turn, shoot back over your shoulder “Hey! Do you have email?”

If she says “Yes”, then say “Great, write it down for me.”

Remember, the key is to be laid back and cool about it. Just act like you’re connecting with an old female friend from high school.

***QUESTION***

Now personally I like to describe myself as an idealist, you would probably dub me king of the wusses. Yet every once in awhile Ill pull my head out of the clouds and look at the world around me with some realism. Case in point is a young women I met almost a year ago (also the reason i started subscribing to the newsletter) Now at first things actually seemed to go well but they degenerated and after careful look around I think I know why.

After one of those lovely “lets just be friends” talks I started talking to one of her female friends, and oddly enough she got jealous. (approx 2 hrs. later) Now I have had other female friends tell me shes flirting with me…. but the best results I have ever gotten with her is when she told me to sue her. Now being a pre-law student I wrote out a very complementary and sarcastic legal complaint it broke down barriers almost immediately, and for about three weeks we were trying to figure out when we were both free to go out (we both had 30+credit hours of classes) Sadly it feel through because of an old boyfriend pissing her off at guys in general.

Now what I believe works so well with cocky and funny, is that it goes around so many of those internal self-defense mechanisms by giving them the opportunity to be the aggressor. More importantly, it gives them a challenge where you can’t be made into an enemy. (unlike the traditional advice of my friends to go out with another girl to get her jealous) Finally the well documented phenomenon that while girls may initially like a guy being super nice it quickly grows boring ( much like many college professors.) but cocky and funny offers a way of being nice but in a different less boring way. In closing, I just want to say what a deviously simple and effective device you have cooked up in cocky and funny.

kR Gainesville FL

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I’d like to extend to you an offer of gratitude and appreciation for the aforementioned compliments… and I’d also like to recommend that you stop talking so much like an attorney… lol.

And by the way, your plans with her probably didn’t fall through because an old boyfriend “pissed her off at guys in general”… it probably happened because you didn’t MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN with her.

There’s ALWAYS time to get together with a woman.

If she says “Well, I have a lot of homework to do”, just say, “Well, procrastinate tonight… I’m more fun”.

Women generally seem to love it when you say “Cancel your plans… I’m more interesting anyway”. It says all the right things in a Cocky and Funny way.

Thanks for the compliments, by the way!

***QUESTION***

Hey!! I need your help with some examples of cocky & funny!! Firstly let me tell you how your book has helped me after just a few days!! I saw an attractive girl in a club that I go to often. This was the first time that I left with a phone number & email address. I decided that enough is enough and I was just going to approach someone. I walked over to her and asked if she would do me a favour by requesting a song for me, she asked why I wouldn’t do it and I said that the DJ might play it if she askes cos some guys might consider her to be pretty which she asked if I was one of them, but I didnt answer but just again told her to do me this favour.

She asked me to go with her … I went with her, thanked her afterwards and went back to my friends. Basically not paying much attention to her for the next 45 mins. When I (accidentally) bumped into her again, I asked her name, if she had email. She automatically offered me her address, so I waited till she was writing it down when I told her to include her phone number, although her actual no etc… after that I told her I would talk to her soon……. and that I was going back to my friends, she sat down to have a conversation with me, but I left.

Now this is where I need your help about the cocky & funny. As I am only beginning, I could use a couple of examples of what I could say to her, and do I do it on the phone or wait till the actual date?? I was thinking along the lines of saying I had to ask for her number seeing that she went out of her way to impress me…. etc… so any other suggestions please would be very much appreciated.

CJ UK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice job. I love the way you asked her to get the DJ to play a song… and telling her that “some guys might consider her pretty”… and then not answering her as to whether or not you are one of those guys.

Right now you should probably do a couple of things:

1. Email her and say something charming, like “Hey, it was good meeting you. Let’s get together for a cup of tea and make friends… just in case I need you in the future to get some more DJs to play music for me…”
2. GET A COPY OF MY EBOOK! If you’re doing this well with just the information you’re getting from my newsletters, then you really need to get the FOUNDATION. You must learn how the whole process works, and how to put all the steps together. You can literally download it right now, and be reading it in a few minutes:

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And keep up the good work.

***QUESTION***

Do you have any advice for night clubs or night club tactics?

Thanks.

M.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, nightclubs are a very interesting phenomenon.

When you go to a nightclub, you’ll see many women that are acting out a paradox: They’re all dressed up in sexy clothes (obviously to get attention from men), but they’re acting like they don’t want men to talk to them most of the time.

Of course, this isn’t always true all the time, but if you go to nightclubs and bars, then I’m SURE you know exactly what I’m talking about.

Here are a few pointers:

1) Remember that beautiful women are usually hit on a lot at clubs and bars. Most of the guys are drunk and stupid… or using lame pick up lines… or acting like wussies… or offering to buy drinks… etc.

The first thing to do is NOT ACT LIKE OTHER STUPID GUYS WHO HAVE NO GAME.

Don’t kiss up to women in nightclubs, and don’t GIVE THEM YOUR POWER. In other words, hold yourself and communicate like you are in complete control of yourself and your surroundings… and like nothing she does can upset you.

2) Remember that for the first few minutes you’re probably going to get some resistance from most women.

One of the big tests when meeting women in a nightclub is whether or not you can keep talking to a woman who isn’t being overly friendly.

Now, some women will be completely cold and uninterested.

If you encounter a rude or cold woman, just move on… you need to be selective and not put aside your own standards just because a woman is attractive.

On the other hand, if a woman seems a little bit resistant, just keep the conversation going. You’ll find in many cases that after 5 or 10 minutes she’ll begin to warm up.

If you’re having a conversation (as opposed to just getting her email/number and leaving), then you need to turn up the Cocky and Funny comments, and just play it cool like a friend.

Bars are a great place for palmistry, astrology, handwriting analysis, and other “cold reading” techniques. Learn a few if you want to have great conversations in bars.

3) If you’re not VERY SKILLED, then just get a woman’s email and/or number and go. There are so many distractions in bars and clubs that it really makes it difficult to have an understandable conversation. There are other guys, usually her girlfriends, etc., and if you don’t REALLY know what you’re doing, then you’re likely to drop the ball somewhere.

Just get the digits and follow up later.

4) Try going with a friend and approaching women for each other. Go up to a woman and say “Hi, wow… you know what? I think my friend would really love you. He’s such a nice guy…” and then talk up your friend. When he shows up, introduce him. This is a great way to start conversations with women if you’re just getting started.

5) Don’t worry about what happens. Just go over and talk to every woman you see. The women expect it, and it’s GREAT practice!

Also, it’s a great idea to find guys who are good at meeting women in bars and to WATCH THEM to learn how to act. You’ll learn a lot from doing this.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Firstly a good effort all round on the book and newsletters full of useful stuff and always good for a laugh when I realize that I have done the same things as thousands of other blokes and crashed and burned in the same way. I’ve been getting the newsletters for a few months and also got the book, after not having any success for over 3 years I’m getting confidence by practicing the techniques in different situations like with checkout ladies in the grocery store and other shops, its natural to talk to them, you make their day as they’ve been sat there all day and nobody’s spoken to them and you get feed back on c+f lines, a captive audience, use it guys. I’ve also bought a book on Palm reading as advised by you, I’ll let you know who I go on this one.

Ok my question. In your newsletters and book you mostly deal with getting the e-mail address and meeting up a few days later, which is great if you’re always in the same town. I move around a lot with my job from hotel to hotel. I’m also leaving my job in a few months to travel the world. With this in mind I won’t have the time to take a few days to mail and meet for coffee etc as I’m/will be constantly moving on every few days- weeks.

Do you have any advice for closing the deal in a first meeting and then walking away from it? i.e. the one night stand, as if I walk away after 3 minutes with only an e-mail address thats the opportunity gone. I’m sure there are plenty of readers that would benefit from some advice in this area.

Keep up the good work

D.
Wales

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if you meet a woman in a checkout line or at the desk of a hotel, try your new palmistry techniques with her, and once she’s interested just say, “Well, I have to go check into my room now. But I’ll meet you at the coffee shop across the street at 7 and tell you more.”

There are 100 ways to use this stuff, of course.

One thing you really have going for you is the fact that you’re NEW to each area, and you’re ONLY STAYING A SHORT TIME.

Women really love to play tour guide, so ask them to.

Just say, “Hey, I don’t really know my way around here, are you busy today? Take me to some of the sights.”

Charm them with your fun personality, read their palms, and then have them show you around.

After a little area tour, invite them up to your hotel for a drink and some lip reading…

***QUESTION***

Cocky & Funny Categories

Dear David, using the C & F techniques, and analysing them, I have discovered that there several classes or categories of c & f :

1. When you are cockyandfunniing about you. You are saying that you are the best, or you are very sexy, clever, etc in a funny way. i.e.Me:”You know, I’m really tired of you women treating me like some kind of piece of meat. I have feelings too, and I don’t just like being thought of as a sex object.”
2. When you are cockyandfunniing about her. You are saying that she is wussy, nerd, ridiculous, etc in a funny way. i.e. “Hey, I can borrow you a wig, but please, don’t kill it’s roots !!
3. When you cockyandfunniing about other person, an object, a place, etc. i.e. Me:”You know, if that chick lost about 200 pounds, I think I’d be into her”
4. When you are inverting(in a funny way) the stereotypes and asummes than girl must date boy, girl must approach boy, etc i.e: SHE:”Are you from around here?” ME: “What, are you trying to pick me up? I’m not that easy.

There are other cocky & funny categories, and some categories mix each others, but these are the more important (I think). I think that the #2 & #3 are the more powerful and efective categories. I’m going to tell you, in wich case I use them (If the Maestro agree with me )

1. C & F about me. It’s useful, but you can’t use it too mutch, it’s more useful If you are a not a cute boy, if you are awful,(bald, overheight, etc). You have to use it with care, if not you are becaming too cocky.
2. c & f about her. It’s very useful,(especially on hotties and average women), and it’s very powerful, but I discover
   that if she has low selfsteem she may get upset (but she will get atracted too).
3. c & f about other things. This is the more secure c & f mode, but it is generates less atraction than others.
4. c & f inverting stereotipes It’s very funny and it’s very powerful, and easy to see.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great little set of categories, and it’s a great place to start if you’re trying to come up with funny and charming things to say for different situations.

I’ve included it here, so others can use it as a guide when working on their own situations…very nice, and thanks!

***QUESTION***

Dave, Hey, I just downloaded your e-book (finally) and I must say that the information in it is absolutely invaluable. I have already gotten a few email addresses and my confidence is really improving. However, there is a few problems that I have encountered that I really don’t have any answer for. For instance, just the other night a few girls were hanging out in my roommates and I dorm room at the college we attend. I was pulling the whole cocky and funny thing on the cutest of the bunch and she really seemed to be eating it all up. I mean, she was laughing, hitting me (in a playful manner) asking me questions and just being totally receptive to me. This lasted for probably over an hour.

However, for reasons I cannot explain, she started showing interest in one of my friends for some reason. I mean, she was asking him questions, focusing her attention on him, sitting by him etc. I really don’t know what I did wrong or what I should of done in this situation. Please give me some insight as to what the heck is going on in a situation such as this one.

Also, I attend a small university so there are many beautiful women to practice my game on. However, at the same time many of the girls know each other so I don’t want to ask for email addresses like it’s going out of style and get labeled as someone who is desperate. What should I do? I mean, it sucks seeing a girl you got shut down by everyday, now imagine if you see like five or ten girls you got shut down by everyday.

Please, some words of wisdom would be tremendously appreciated.

I.

OH.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

As far as your first situation goes… there are several possibilities.

My guess is that you waited too long to go to the next level. Instead of talking to her for AN HOUR, maybe you should have busted on her for 15 minutes and then said “Hey, come with me to the store…” and left with her.

Then you could have progressed, maybe held her hand, kissed her, etc.

If you wait too long with an attractive woman, she’ll lose interest.

And by the way, you never know… she might just have liked your friend or whatever.

The point is, it really doesn’t matter. Just say “next” in your head and move on.

And about your concern that women label you as “desperate”, who cares? It’s more important that you TAKE ACTION and NOT CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK than it is that you have all the hot woman on your campus “not think of you as desperate”.

Just do it.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I don’t think I’ve ever seen you address the “friends first” issue… I think there’s a difference between a woman saying “i only like you as a friend” and “lets be friends first and build a relationship from that”. Especially if you meet the woman from a personal ad which says she wants friends first.. (so its not like shes saying she’s saying you have to be her friend first when you first meet her) The only thing that bothers me is if she thinks of you as a friend then she’s still single so she might date other guys and you get to hear about it. This isn’t really a question to a specific problem, but because I’m still new to dating (I’m 21) and don’t have much experience (which is changing thanks to your great newsletters!) I have run into a few of the “friends first” encounters and I don’t know quite what to make of it.. should I be their friend first, and think it might turn into something more?

Thanks!

SK

Florida

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, the only real difference between a woman saying “I only like you as a friend” and “Let’s be friends first and see what happens” is… WHEN YOU HEAR “LET’S BE FRIENDS FIRST” IT TRICKS YOU INTO BELIEVING THAT THIS COULD ACTUALLY HAPPEN… SO YOU WIND UP SPANKING YOUR CHICKEN FOR ABOUT TEN TIMES AS LONG…

When a woman says “Let’s be friends first”, what they REALLY mean is “I don’t feel a gut level, sexual ATTRACTION for you right now… but you’re an awful nice guy and I don’t want to hurt your feelings…”

If you see a personal ad with “Friends first” it probably means that the last guy she dated wanted to get married after the first date… and she doesn’t want another loser WUSSY boy in her life.

Of course, there are a lot of possibilities, but generally speaking, you don’t want to get into “friend” mode, because it’s not easy to get out.

Telling HER that she seems like she’d make a nice friend is a GREAT idea, because it makes her wonder if you like her, and it creates tension.

If this doesn’t make sense to you, then I’d recommend that you check out my book or audio series and then think about it again. Until you “GET” this, you’re going to have a hard time attracting a woman.

***QUESTION***

I got your book and the first thing I did was read the short book about Sex Secrets… lol Now I figured I was pretty successful with the women and wanted to see how I compared to your tactics…. man you nailed it big time!!

I have been seeing this one gorgeous woman for about 2 months now and I thought about what you said in the book…. to keep her attracted and wanting more…. use anticipation. Well I know she wants me bad and so I thought I would just see how bad she does, so I talked to her over lunch…. since she only had 30 minutes for lunch I put it to the test right off. She sat down close to me and looked me in the eyes…. I commented on her beauty and ran my hand over her leg just slightly to let her know I was there and what I was thinking…. I could see her light up instantly. I took my hand away and changed the conversation knowing the anticipation was already building.

I told her how I would like to give her a massage… body massage to ease her stress and she agreed this would be good…. I then ran my fingers over her hand and then touched her slightly on the cheek…. lol… she was eating this up. I then noticed she had a slight stain on her uniform and reached to dust it off… this thru her big time…. she squealed a little and said it gave her goose bumps….lol…. I just gave her a slight smile and backed off again.

Her next comment was, I wish I brought a change of clothes here today cause I am gonna need em’…lol… I knew the anticipation was working! Although these were things I would normally have done without reading about it, the book is a great source and it works… so guys if you want to get the heads up on moving her to the next level, order the book…. you won’t be sorry!! ANTICIPATION!!! Keep up the great work my man!

R. Canada

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, understanding this concept of Anticipation is SUCH a key to making women feel turned on.

I don’t mention it much, but that bonus booklet that comes along with Double Your Dating is a VERY powerful set of ideas and techniques for getting a woman VERY turned on…

As you know, there are little things you can do physically that literally make a woman go crazy with desire. I’m sure you’re making this lady VERY happy… and I’m sure that she can’t believe that she’s met a guy who actually “gets it”.

Nice, and keep up the great work.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave, I liked your book and I love your news letter which is very informative and quite creative, both by you and also other contributors; keep it up. Basically I’ve been a successful guy with the females by being very masculine and proud of it and I’m glad that in your book you encourage this attitude. After reading your book I have increased my success with the females tenfold and I thank you for that.I am 32 but I look about 20 and even when I was younger I’ve always fancied women that were much older than me but I always attracted younger girls who I like as well but with your help the girl l’m going out with is 33 (she thinks l’m 21 because l told her to guess my age) and she’s extremely attractive (10 out of 10) successful and confident and men of all ages try to pick on her whenever we go out and l leave her alone.

We met when I went for an interview for the company she owns and she ask for me to come to her office and after I complimented her on her business she said l was flattering her and l said “in your dreams, that’s the worst pick up line l’ve heard all day”, and she was so taken back by the challenge l presented to her that after I told her the compliment was just to get the job and that she shouldn’t use her position just to use me as a piece of meat.

Anyway l poured out C&F on her even told her that l wouldn’t take the job because l knew what she was up to and she said we needed to talk and she gave me her card with all her contact # and she also wrote her private home and mobile #. l took the card but l told her since it was her interested in me she should call me and l gave her my # as well. She called the same day and we’ve been seeing each other ever since.

But l do have a question in one of your news letters you said “women perceive good-looking guys who act cocky as MAJOR PLAYER, and too much cocky too soon can back fire on you”. Further you said that “If you are a pretty good looking , you might turn down the cocky and turn up funny”. Well l’m good looking oh yes; but l know it’s not everything but it helps and true to your above statement sometimes when l’m cocky it back fires on me even when the girl (or should l say especially) makes the first move. I know you’ve got the answer so please give it some of your time and reply please. Maximum respect to you David.

JS
London

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, here’s the deal…

There are exceptions to every rule, and you may have found one of them.

If you’re a regular guy and you’re dealing with an attractive woman, then Cocky and Funny is generally a great technique.

If you’re a VERY attractive guy, then being too Cocky and Funny can intimidate women and/or make them think that you must be a big player.

NOW, if you’re an attractive guy and you’re dealing with a VERY attractive woman who is also POWERFUL (owns a company, for instance) then you’ll probably want to turn the Cocky and Funny back up to provide MAXIMUM CHALLENGE to her.

The SUPER HOTTIES are used to ALL guys rolling over for them, and you can turn up the heat if you think she needs it in this situation.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave, I’ve written atleast 1 million emails to you! And i haven’t heard anything back! Nah it’s cool i know you have another million emails that start off the same way. So heres the question! How do i get womens phone numbers for the possibilty of sex, like they know if i ring its for sex kinda thing. I don’t want to do the whole date thing, its boring and conversation is stupid!

I just wanna ring them up and say it like this, “hey i’m really horny and i was wondering, do you wanna come over for some ‘action’ and then piss off so i can get some peace and quite?” I dont really want them to hang around, it’s kinda awkward. Im not an a**hole but thats what i think is on most other guys minds as well as mine. Is there anyway to put this to a woman without them feeling hurt or as if there being used?

Thanks R. Australia.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Look, if I had the answer to this one I’D BE RICHER THAN BILL GATES AND WARREN BUFFETT PUT TOGETHER.

Now, will you do me a favor and please get a life?

And stop emailing to ask how you can get women to come over for sex because you’re horny, then piss off so you can get some peace and quiet without them feeing hurt or used…

“Huh huh… Hey Beavith… I’m horny. We need a chick.”

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

I’ve been following your instructions to the letter and I have to say it works like a charm! I have one problem though. I never know when a woman is attracted to me or not. I can’t seem to be able to pick up the signs. I mean I know lasses are
attracted to me only when their friends tell me or they do. It can be REALLY annoying not knowing whether to progress onwards or not.

I mean, at the moment there’s this lass who’s really religious and I want to get with her & I’ve been working overtime on the teasing and the cocky/funny routine. I just can’t tell where I stand with her. I was just wondering if you had any pointers that could help me? Thanks,

N. Bradley, England

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, it’s very simple. I call it “ The Kiss Test“.

You can see it on the second page of my main web site, or read about it in my book.

You need to TAKE THINGS TO THE NEXT LEVEL PHYSICALLY.

This will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know INSTANTLY.

And by the way, if a woman will agree to spend time alone with you, and she seems to be having a good time, then she’s probably interested at SOME level.

If you’re using the materials and being Cocky and Funny etc. and she’s hitting you, laughing, etc. that’s also a VERY good sign.

But use The Kiss Test. It’s so simple and easy… and it works SO well.

***QUESTION***

Well Dave,

It never ceases to amaze me how brilliant you are. I saw that you put my e-mail in the newsletter, so I guess I owe you the dirt. My experience can be summed up in one word…INF***INGCREDIBLE, but I won’t stop with one word. See if you can keep count? The first chick I met sat next to me on the plane. CF. She crammed her tongue down my throat. I got off the plane with a different chick. CF. SHE asked Me to lunch with her. On the shuttle to the Hotel, yet another female. C&F. I’ll come back to her. Poolside, another young lady. C&F. She asked me to save a dance at the party for her. He-he-he…

I could keep going but I don’t want to jinx my future success. To sum it up, I talked to over 20 different women, made out with 3, and woke up next to 1 (I’m such a bad man). I got 4 out of 4 e-mails/#s from girls I asked (the only girls that we’re worthy of myself){example of C&F and my character}, and that girl from the shuttle… I only talked to her for 3 minutes on that ride, and she had a friend come and give me a note with her info. The trip ended with a h-job on the plane ride home. Now I don’t encourage everyone out there to use the info in DYD to become a male slut like me. I am this way because this is the first time I have been single since I was 18 (6 years ago).

This is also the first time that I have really experienced success… Thanks to DYD and C&F. I used to be a MAJOR WUSS. I never talked to or went out with a girl unless she talked to me/asked me out. Needless to say I was home a lot. I never learned the SKILLS to be successful with women until I bought Double Your Dating (plug). Since I read the book three months ago, I have literally hooked up with over a dozen women, with very minimal effort.

If you are reading this it is OBVIOUS that you want to improve your life, just like I did when I stumbled upon David’s website. Do yourself a favor, BUY THE DAMN BOOK! Hell, if you don’t achieve success with it, I will buy it back from you. I’ve got some buddies out there who can use this treasure. Stop being a WUSS (like I was). Dave I owe it all to you. From everyman getting laid because of your advice…

THANK YOU!!!!!!!

G. from L.A.

P.S. My first born is going to be named David, even if its a girl!!!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What else can I say?

I love getting letters like this one… NICE!

If you’re reading this right now, and you’d like to get an ADVANCED education in this technique that I call “Cocky & Funny”, then you MUST go and check out my “ Cocky Comedy” CD/DVD program.

Inside I’m going to show you the “secret psychology” of humor… of laughter… and of how to combine humor with TENSION to create a powerful ATTRACTION… using nothing more than your communication skills.

The technique of Cocky & Funny is one of the very fastest, easiest ways to create sexual tension with women… and this program is going to teach you how to do it.

You’ll learn a ton just by watching the preview video clips on the web site… so go watch them
here:

Cocky Comedy

…and if you’re reading this right now and thinking “You know, I really need to get in this game and start making something happen for myself with women and dating” then I have to say… YOU’RE RIGHT!

Learning how to be successful with women and dating is NOT magic.

It doesn’t require good looks or money.

And it CERTAINLY doesn’t require you to chase after women, buy them things, and give them fake compliments.

Oh, I also have two “Online eBooks” that you can download RIGHT NOW and be reading within MINUTES. My original “Double Your Dating” eBook is here:

Click here for Newsletter And Download eBook

My latest ebook, “Attraction Isn’t A Choice” is here:

Attraction Book

Both are jam-packed with concepts, theories, and step-by-step techniques… and you need to go and download them NOW.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Dave,

You are a saint. A giant among insects… Ok, maybe not, but it gets through the obligatory ass-kissing since you have helped me so much. Let me begin…

I’ve had my eyes on this particular girl for quite some time, and I could tell she was already into me quite a bit, but we had never made anything of it. Last week, she decided to “be bold” and ask ME out, instead of the other way around (you can see I’m already doing something right). She asked if I wanted to go see a movie some time; instead of freaking out and jumping at the chance, I said I’m rather tired of this whole `movie date’ thing.

If she wanted to get me, she was going to have to be a little more creative. She was rather shocked and felt somewhat rejected. Later in the conversation, we were got to talking about this stalker (wussy who needs a life) that seems to be in love with her, and she hates him. He had asked her if she wanted to accompany him to a football game the next night that they both were already going to.

She said she really wished that I would come with her so this guy would leave her alone. I thought, “Ok. This will be my good deed for the year.” and said I would go. She ends up driving me to the game. Upon arrival, she just HAD to braid her hair, and asked me to wait around while she did so. I stood there for a second, and then walked off. She started yelling at me to wait; I simply replied, “I’ll see you inside the gate.” waved and walked off. Once inside, I didn’t see her come in, but soon felt someone grab my butt (it was her).

We went on into the stadium, she soon saw someone she knew and went to talk to them, dragging me along. I stood around for a second, then wandered off, since I had seen someone I knew as well. She comes to find me soon, and we go off to our seats. Her stalker had seen us as we were going to our seats and decided to stay with us for part of the night. She began talking to him, and I did my own thing. I wandered off numerous times throughout the night and generally acted very secure and like I didn’t need a thing in the world (especially her!). Following the game, as we walked back to her car I could tell that she wanted me badly due to some things she had been saying. She drove me back to where my car was waiting and we talked for twenty minutes or so in her car. There was some hand holding and such going on during the conversation. She said, “You know we’re just going to end up making out-you’re just delaying the inevitable.”

Bingo.

I shrugged it off, and we continued talking. About ten minutes later, she said, “It’s getting late; I really should be getting home.” Obviously a ploy to get things started, as it was only 10:15 PM. I shrugged it off, again. A few minutes pass, and she says, “It’s late, I really need to go.” I say, “Alright.” I open the door and get out of the car. She says, “Where are you going?” I reply nonchalantly, “I just don’t think you want it badly enough yet.” Score #2.

I walk off to my car; she immediately jumps out of the car and begins walking to my car as well. I get to the car and put the key in the door and she sticks her leg in front of the door with this defiant attitude. I say, “You know, I’ve never been raped in an empty parking lot before…”

You can imagine what went on from there. J

Thanks Dave.

Now, on to the questions: First, now that I’ve used my best line ever (”I just don’t think you want it badly enough yet.”), do you have any suggestions on what to do and say next time to create that same anticipation/desire in her?

Also, you always say that I need to be the first to end the conversation, but many of the girls that I am interested in are somewhat sporadic and tend to call, IM, etc. when they don’t have a lot of time. Quite often, they are the ones to end the conversation before I have a chance to. How do I take this? Should I just reply, “Alright. I’ll catch you later.” Acting like I could care less?

D. Knoxville, TN

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great story.

I’m sure that anyone reading this would say “Yeah, but she already liked you”… I wish you would have told the story from the beginning, because I’ll bet you MADE her like you with more of the same type communication that you described here.

The one thing that you clearly understand here is how SEXUAL TENSION works.

You understand how to take a small spark of desire from her and AMPLIFY it until it’s literally EXPLOSIVE.

If you keep amplifying and letting the tension build with a particular woman, this is the kind of result you’ll get… and she will LOVE you for it.

Bravo!

Things like making her come up with a more “interesting” date idea, walking away from her when other guys would have clung to her, shrugging off her comments about the two of you getting together, etc. are the magic ingredients.

Most guys DESTROY all the sexual tension at every possible opportunity… they take every chance they can to SCREW THINGS UP because they don’t know better…

The fact is that most men just don’t UNDERSTAND how women get turned on.

And most men don’t understand that if you really want a woman to WANT you, then you NEED to get her turned on. It’s not going to happen by itself.

Hey, if you want to learn more about how to create this thing I’m calling “Sexual Tension”, and more about how to get women turned on, then go here now:

Sexual Communication

Here’s another interesting aspect of that thing called ATTRACTION:

The bigger the challenge you are, and the more intense the sexual tension, the more aroused a woman will become… so that when you finally do connect physically it’s pure electricity.

Again, most men can’t HANDLE sexual tension. They feel uncomfortable when the situation isn’t “clear cut”, and they screw things up.

One of the things you mentioned doing was “shrugging off” her obvious “come ons” to you.

This kind of thing makes no sense to most guys.

But it makes sense to me.

And it made a LOT of sense to HER.

When a woman throws out a sexual comment, etc. most guys screw it up. That’s because they don’t know the SECRET about these types of comments.

When you’re a major challenge, it naturally means that she’s not IN CONTROL of the situation.

Attractive women are USED to being in control, so when they’re NOT in control, they get agitated. It really bothers them.

So they TEST. They use all kinds of interesting tricks and tactics to see if you’re just FAKING like you’re actually in control of yourself and the situation.

One of the most obvious tests is throwing out a sexual comment.

She might mention that she loves sex, or that she thinks you guys have a chance of “hooking up”, or some other “tease”.

But make no mistake about it, these comments are not at all the innocent remarks that they appear to be.

She’s watching VERY closely to see if you’ll take the bait.

It’s a woman’s last resort when she feels like she isn’t controlling the situation to see if you’ll crumble to SOMETHING. — If you say something like, “Really? You think we’re going to hook up? That would be cool.” Then she KNOWS SHE’S IN CONTROL.

If you say, “Yeah, you think so? I don’t know, I’m not that easy…” then it just dials up the tension, mystery, and challenge.

OK, so you’ve asked me a couple of questions as well…

What should you do NEXT time you see her to keep the tension building…?

Well, if something works, KEEP DOING IT.

If she enjoyed it the first time, do it again.

This time wait a little longer. Make her think about it a little bit more.

Women LOVE anticipation. They love to feel the rush that something is going to happen… but not know WHEN.

If you REALLY want to take things to the next level, take a page from popular movies and romance novels.

Don’t just kiss her. Kiss her PASSIONATELY.

Pull her body into yours as you kiss her.

Then push her away and say, “You’re bad!”

Stop for awhile. Make her think about it. Then start again when she isn’t expecting it.

These are the types of things that make women think about you all the time when you’re gone…and call you in the middle of the night because they want to see you. Really.

Most men are so damn BORING when it comes to this stuff! They do NOTHING to make a woman FEEL the powerful feelings that she’s always wanted to feel.

You be the one to do it, and you’ll be the one she always wants around.

Your second question was about ending calls and conversations first.

The REASON why you should end all conversations and other interactions with women first is that it conveys a clear message:

“I’M A BUSY GUY. I HAVE A LIFE.”

It turns YOU into the one that’s desirable.

Most guys cling, and try to keep a woman on the phone for a long time. They desire a woman’s attention and approval, and they make it clear that this is what they’re after.

Of course, this only demonstrates pure WEAKNESS to an attractive woman.

And weakness (or Wussness) isn’t ATTRACTIVE.

If you run into a woman who’s always on the run, don’t let it get to you. To put it differently, don’t become obsessed with her just because she’s never available!

The answer is to just take things to the next level.

Here’s a GREAT little technique…

An amazing and simple way to handle this kind of thing is to just say “OK, bye” without any other comments.

She says “I have to go, my friends are waiting for me outside”. Just say “OK, bye” and SHUT UP.

80% of the time, she’ll say “No, wait! I’m just really busy, call me in a few days” etc.

You can’t “kind of” do this.

You have to be READY.

She’s TESTING you by playing hard to get. It’s a game. Have fun with it.

As soon as she says “I have to go, my laundry is in the dryer”, you SHOOT back “OK, bye” in a VERY abrupt tone and SHUT UP.

It will create a funny, uncomfortable silence for just a second.

Most of the time, she’ll say something in a tone of voice that says “That was weird”, and then she’ll give some kind of explanation or ask you why you were so short with her.

Of course, this is a great opportunity to bust her balls and create some fun banter.

Again, you’ll often have her say something like “I’m really busy right now. I’m sorry. Call me tomorrow and let’s do something”. At this point, you can say “Yeah, if you’re lucky. Bye!”

Not cold. Not mean. Just short and to the point.

Then, when you call her next, it was HER that asked for the call.

You get to call up and say “Well, last time we talked you were begging me to call you… and I felt so bad for you that I finally broke down.”

What we’re talking about here is DESIRE… and more importantly, INCREASING IT.

In most interactions with women there is an opportunity to SPARK the chemistry… the sexual tension… the desire… and then there are many opportunities to AMPLIFY that desire.

But here’s the BAD news:

If you do not understand all of the little steps from the first meeting to the bedroom, and know exactly how to smoothly progress from one step to the next, then you’re going to keep failing with women.

It’s that simple.

If you DO understand all of the steps, and you know EXACTLY what to do in order to smoothly transition from one to the next, then you are MUCH more likely to succeed.

One of the most IMPORTANT steps is controlling your own emotions. If you’re nervous and freaked out, then you’ll make her nervous.

We humans can SMELL fear and nervousness… andwomen are the best at it.

If you’d like to get an ADVANCED education in how to control your own emotions, how to spark ATTRACTION, and how to go from one step to the next smoothly, then I recommend you check out my Advanced Dating Techniques program.

It’s over 12 full hours of me teaching all of my very best theories, concepts, and strategies for becoming more successful with women and dating.

What makes my program different?

Two things:

1. It’s easy to understand and use IMMEDIATELY.
2. It “feels right”. In other words, you’ll learn how to use the natural dynamics in any situation to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you… without having to MANIPULATE her “secretly”.

As you learn the concepts and techniques and begin to use them in situations with women, you will see women LIGHT UP in front of you.

You’ll IMMEDIATELY notice the different way that they respond to your comments.

You’ll begin to see all of the reasons why you failed in the past, and you’ll understand the “one right thing” to do in each situation… so that you move FORWARD and stay in control of the situation.

Most of all, it will give you the CONFIDENCE to attract the kinds of women that most men only dream about dating.

I’m telling you, I used to have no clue about attracting women… but now that I do, I can date any type of women I want. And it’s a damn good feeling.

All the details of my program are here, along with some great free samples:

Advanced Series

If you’ve gone through my Advanced Series, and you think that you might need more focus on the “Inner Game”… then you MUST check out my “Deep Inner Game” DVD program.

This is the first time that a program has been created to help men fix their Inner Game problems SPECIFICALLY to improve their dating success.

Go and watch the preview video clips for this program, and it will tell you the entire story. You can go and watch them here:

Deep Inner Game

And if you’d like an introduction to my main concepts, then you need to go download and read my online eBook “ Double Your Dating“. You can download it right now and be reading it within a few minutes. It’s here:

Click here for Newsletter And Download eBook

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Dave, Why is it that a woman who is only interested in the funny, cocky and challenging (i.e., interesting) men, later in life tries to raise sons that are sweet, thoughtful and “nice”? (i.e., run of the mill)!!

WS New York

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a VERY interesting question, and I’m glad you emailed me to ask it.

I’m going to give you my personal take on this. But, more importantly, I’m going to talk about how these kinds of paradoxes exist right in plain sight all around us… and how to interpret them so you can increase your own personal success with women and dating.

So, to answer your question first…

I’ve spent a lot of time researching this topic, and doing a lot of personal testing to see if I could find some answers.

Right now, as I write this, I think that it goes like this:

“Being Nice” in the way that you’re describing, usually means things like: giving compliments, buying gifts, providing food, doing favors, tolerating emotional manipulation, pretending to be in a good mood even if you’re not, etc.

I believe that this is mostly a SOCIALLY and CULTURALLY CONSTRUCTED set of “rules”. There may be some “hard wiring” in us that makes us “naturally” want to do nice things for women so they’ll give us approval, but I think it’s mostly PROGRAMMED into us…

Now, think about it this way: These “nice” things are typically very FEMININE things to do…

So, what’s a mom in today’s culture going to teach her son?

Of course… how to be “nice” to girls.

And, what if there’s no dad around to help out in the “training” of a son? You guessed it… even MORE “nice” programming from mom.

The bottom line is that most of the people walking around on this planet have NO IDEA how ATTRACTION works, and therefore will never be able to TEACH another person how this fabulous process works.

This includes mothers. Mom loved you and wanted the best for you, she just had no idea how to explain what makes women feel ATTRACTION. Mom may have gotten the tingles when she saw Clint Eastwood shooting everyone… and Neil Diamond running around with his sneer, hairy chest and that pickle in his jeans… (and that reminds me… EWWWWWW… your mom is gross, dude).

But, this doesn’t mean that she can or would explain to her boy how to make this happen with other women!

Check this out: If you would like to learn my own PERSONAL secrets for how to overcome this problem of not knowing how to become a man who NATURALLY attracts women, then you should go here NOW:

On Being A Man

OK. Let’s talk about what we can actually LEARN from this kind of phenomenon.

The thing that really fascinates me about people is THEIR ABILITY TO HAVE NO IDEA WHAT’S GOING ON… even though it’s going on IN PLAIN SIGHT ALL AROUND THEM… and the even MORE amazing tendency to ARGUE VIOLENTLY WHEN one of these OBVIOUS THINGS IS PRESENTED TO THEM.

I’ve read some fascinating books about the concept of “self-deception”, and I’ve come to realize that we humans have an amazing capacity for not seeing what’s there… to the point where it can be very bad for us.

Like I just said, we often ARGUE about things that are OBVIOUS to others… which makes it even worse.

I need to stop ranting and raving, and land the plane on this one…

This mechanism is, of course, a survival mechanism that helps us to weed out all of the useless information that’s coming in through our senses at any given time, but it can go overboard and prevent us from seeing USEFUL information as well.

Next Point: A lot of our cultural and social programming is “off-base” to some degree, which causes us to see things and interpret things incorrectly when we do see them.

Finally, we humans don’t like to change our beliefs about things. We don’t like to admit that we might be wrong in the first place, and we feel unstable or insecure when we realize that a fundamental truth we have held all our life is incorrect.

Lump all of this together, and you have moms who teach their sons the “proper” way to act and men who have NO IDEA how to be successful with women… and then women who REALLY get upset when you actually start teaching men what WORKS to attract women (for more evidence of this, just read some of these newsletters I’m sending you!)

Wow, I’m really going on an unusually intellectual rant today! Nice. This is making me feel pretty smart… I think I’ll keep it up…

So, what’s all this information good for?

Well, to start off, I think that it’s important in life to continually question YOUR OWN beliefs about how things work and what is possible.

I think it’s also good to constantly question your LIMITING beliefs.

Unfortunately, most people do the opposite…they question their ability to succeed and they doubt their own ability to get what they want.

Most people constantly “self-sabotage” themselves.

If instead, you question your LIMITATIONS and your LIMITING BELIEFS, and you constantly look with your own eyes to see if there’s something going on that nobody mentioned to you, then you’ll begin to see things that will blow your mind.

It took me about 4 or 5 years to realize that ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE. But as soon as I say it, you can immediately get what I’m talking about, and maybe even have a profound realization that will lead to success.

The phrase “Attraction Isn’t A Choice” makes you have the “ah ha” that you can’t make a woman feel attraction for you by CONVINCING her… so you STOP.

Now, I didn’t figure this out by having someone TELL it to me. I figured it out by questioning the things I was hearing, and by following my own intuition that there was a SOLUTION to this puzzle called “women and dating”.

So, here’s a “home work” assignment for you:

1. Write down all of the things that SHOULD work when it comes to making women feel attracted to you. This might include buying gifts and food, giving constant compliments, and acting “nice”.
2. Write down your own personal experience of what ACTUALLY HAPPENS when you do these “socially correct things that mom taught you” with women.
3. Pretend for a moment that everything you’ve been taught about women is wrong. Furthermore, pretend that women are actually wired in REVERSE. If this were true, what kinds of things would result in a woman feeling ATTRACTION for a man?

Does this open up some new possibilities for you?

I invite you to question “common sense” and “what your mother taught you” about women.

I also invite you to come and learn some of the VERY ILLOGICAL, YET INCREDIBLY POWERFUL techniques that I’ve learned, developed, refined, and described in my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.

The ideas that I’ve just discussed are part of what I consider to be the “Inner Game” of dating success.

Most guys spend almost NO time working on their Inner Game… instead, they spend time learning things like “pick up lines” and other almost USELESS stuff.

If you don’t have your “Inner Game” together, you’ll never be effective with “techniques and tricks”.

In my Advanced Dating Techniques program, I spend several HOURS teaching you one Inner Game technique after another… showing you how to overcome fear, improve your self image and self esteem… and get past limiting beliefs that stop you from even TRYING to meet women.

If you’re like me, and you’ve had a lot of negative programming earlier in life, then you MUST get that stuff handled. It’s not going to handle itself… YOU have to do it.

And this program will show you EXACTLY how.

Oh… and it will also teach you TONS of great “in the field” techniques for approaching women, starting conversations, getting dates, meeting women online, and taking things to a “physical” level smoothly and easily… without rejection.

Not too long ago I put up a bunch of new sample video clips… and you should go watch them right now. They’re here:

Advanced Series

And if you haven’t downloaded your copy of my online eBook, “ Double Your Dating“, then you need to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from now. Just go here:

Free Newsletter And Download eBook

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Hey Dave, how’s it hanging?

Read your stuff…interesting. Makes a lot of sense to appear different then all the others. I have one question, however. This C&F stuff (can I call it “friendly mocking”?) really only works on women who are sure of themselves and who will nottake your jokes to the heart. But how many of those are in the world? I mean, with today’s “perfect” pop-stars most women have at least some insecurities. So, how can you use this technique and not accidentally hit a weak spot? Is there a
neutral C&F approach?

J Brooklyn, NY

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I think you’re hitting on an important point here.

I think that a lot of guys “secretly” want to figure out a way to meet women without RISKING anything.

This is probably why personal ads and online dating web sites are so popular.

The problem with not wanting to RISK anything is that it creates a mindset that leads to being AVERAGE.

And “average” doesn’t create ATTRACTION.

I teach guys to use a specific kind of humor that I call “Cocky & Funny”.

One of the purposes of the Cocky & Funny technique is to clearly demonstrate that you are NOT intimidated by a woman, and to INSTANTLY communicate that you are DIFFERENT from other men.

You’d like to know the magic way to “not accidentally hit a weak spot”…

But guess what?

Accidents happen.

Risk is part of life.

Don’t worry so much about hitting a “weak spot” while you’re teasing or busting on a woman… just concern yourself with making sure you’re being FUNNY while you’re doing it.

If you meet a woman who is so sensitive that she can’t take a joke, or you “accidentally” over do it, don’t worry about it. No biggie.

She’s probably either too uptight or emotionally fragile for you to have a good time with anyway.

If you want to make a cake, you have to break a few eggs, man.

Remember, your objective isn’t to be MEAN to women, or to hurt them… your objective is to use a specific type of humor to create ATTRACTION.

And give up this “neutral” idea. Neutral is BORING. And Boring is NOT the way to create ATTRACTION.

***QUESTION***

David “The Man”–

First of all, your Advanced CD Series is THE most definitive exhaustive resource on dating ever written. It boggles my mind that nobody ever figured this stuff out before. You are the research scientist that broke the mold of all that bookstore fluff, the Darwin of Dating.

I can now approach and get the email of a woman who would have made me shake in my boots just a few months ago. My most recent success was a girl I dated who I turned up the C+F to the max, but my old inner wussy made a brief appearance and that was that. Oh well. “Next!” I’ll get better and better.

I have improved quite a bit, but I’m looking for some guy friends as you suggest. However, I’m having a problem finding guys who are good with women. I’m not seeing them. All I see everywhereI go are wusses. Any thoughts or ideas?

I’ve also thought about finding friends who are students of yours so we can get together for team efforts. Any suggestions here?

Thanks again for the incredible impact you’ve had on my life.

J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, I have one thought for you…

This “Everywhere I go all I see is wusses” thing can be a challenge. I shake my head almost every single time I go out, because I think we’re in the middle of a WUSS EPIDEMIC in this country.

Keep looking.

It’s worth it.

If you have to, ask friends and associates at work if they know any guys who are really good with women.

And remember, be cool. Guys who are good with women often like to help other guys learn. But don’t be a boat anchor around his neck…

If you do your homework and find some guys who can help you, it will REALLY pay off.

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

Sir,

I received one of you Q&A emails by mistake, I’m sure. I am an intelligent, female professional and I reall-ll-ll-lly had a good laugh after reviewingyour web site as well.

If you think that ALL women will be turned on by these things, you are very mistaken. The classy, sophisticated, and well educated as well as intriguing and very attractive will have totally different opinions on all these subjects. I think you would do better to consider your experience as incomplete.

However, I’m sure you are making an obscene amount of money by offering this misinformation for sale to men.

Laughing Uncontrollably in Alaska

>>>MY COMMENTS:

An intelligent female professional that lives in ALASKA?

Don’t even get me started there…

And since you seem to be claiming here that you’re an AUTHORITY on “The classy, sophisticated, and well educated… as well as intriguing and very attractive” women… I have to ask you where you’re getting this particular education… Alaska?

Maybe those words mean something different where you’re from.

Whatever.

Look, I used to be a “nice”, sweet, BORING guy who did nice things for women, acted respectful, and generally was everything I thought a “good guy” should be.

And my success with meeting and attracting women was horrible.

I had a few good relationships with attractive women, but these were ACCIDENTAL. It only happened because I was in the right place at the right time, and because the women just happened to have NOTHING BETTER GOING ON.

Now that I do what I teach, I’m able to attract beautiful women whenever I want.

You do the math.

**COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

Hey Dave,

I forward your news letter to my ex-husband and to my other male friends and they all thanked me for it. I agree wit