A Place You Can Meet Women Anytime

>NOTE: I think that the internet is a literal MIRACLE when it comes to meeting women, practicing conversations skills, and learning how to create attraction using only your words, humor, and other communication. If you’d like to learn some of my personal secrets for turning the internet into a dating BONANZA for yourself, then take a minute and read this:

Meeting Women Online


Hey David DeAngelo,

I was wondering if you could offer any wisdom on what you’ve gained from writing and responding to online personal ads. I’m not having a great deal of luck so far. Specifically, my questions are:

1. How brief should your descriptions of yourself and/or your ideal catch be? I’ve heard it said that “brevity is the soul of wit”, but you also want to be memorable, right?

2. When writing descriptions, should you stick with C&F? I’ve noticed that humor often doesn’t translate well in written form, so I wasn’t sure how to go about all that.

3. I think I read in a previous newsletter that you recommend not posting a picture. At the same time, I tend to avoid ads without pictures due to having one too many blind dates which ended with me throwing a stick and shouting “fetch!” in order to distract her long enough to get away. Don’t you think that by committing a picture on your ad, women might pass you up for the same reason? Or am I mistaken?

An apprentice,



You’ve asked some questions that really require more of an in-depth treatment… but here are a few pointers that have taken me YEARS to figure out:

1) You’ll get more responses in general by replying to personal ads placed by women than you will by placing your own ad (Unless you’re a master of writing personal ads).

2) If you’re going to use the personals, look at the new ads that are placed daily, and respond as soon as a woman places her ad. Attractive women typically get 50-100 responses per DAY to personal ads, and it’s very easy to get overwhelmed. You’ll notice that a lot of women take their ads down after just a few days… this is why.

3) Be charming and funny (also known as COCKY and funny) in your replies (or in your ad, if you write your own). Say things like “I was looking through all these ads here on the internet thinking to myself “Look at all the poor, desperate, lonely women…” and then I saw your ad and thought to myself “Hey, here’s a poor, desperate, lonely woman that’s actually CUTE…” so I thought I’d write and see if you’re as interesting on the inside as you are in this picture…”

4) I mentioned in one of recent newsletters that I got an email from a guy who had his picture taken with some dolphins… and that he’s getting tons of responses from that. I’ve never done it myself, but it sounds like a great idea!


Dave, love your book. I have learned more about women in the last two months than I knew in my lifetime. The teasing and being cocky/funny really turns them on. I have know this girl for some time and we were mostly friends. Just lately she said to me “I love you R,”. Is it ok for me to tell her I love her too or is it better to say nothing and just smile which I did so far.



Take a cue from Han Solo…

Say “I know”.

You might throw in a sly half-smile to let her know that you’re having fun after you say it.

As far as your question of “Is it OK to tell her that I love her too?” I can’t answer that. You’re at a stage that is past our topic here.

I think that love and relationships are great, but since this isn’t the area that I choose to talk about, you’re going to have to decide for yourself.

Just don’t turn into a wussy… that’s bad no matter what.


It seems like a lot of the guys who subscribe to your newsletter and buy the book – myself included – are average guys who have trouble with girls just because they are afraid of getting rejected. I’ve got an idea that might help. Get two or three good friends together and have a ‘contest’ where the goal is to get shot down. Spend a day or a night out in clubs, coffee shops, malls, etc. going up to girls with the sole intention of having them reject you, and whoever gets rejected the most times wins.

Try out any approach – good or bad – you can think of. Be rude, crude, funny, serious, a nice guy, a jerk, whatever you want, and take notes on how the girls react. If she slaps your face, that’s fine because that’s the goal. And if she doesn’t shoot you down, that’s even better.

After a night like this you’ll become a bit ‘numb’ when you are rejected in the future, and you’ll have a better understanding of how girls react to being hit on. If necessary go to a different city for the weekend and try it out there, so that you aren’t afraid of running into these girls again.

- C.L.


I think that the basic idea is good, but I’d say that you’re probably better off seeing who can get the most email addresses – instead of seeing who can get shut down.

If you go out with the specific idea of being rude, crude, a jerk, etc., I think you’re working on the wrong outcome.

I get what you’re saying about how this might make you “numb” to future rejection…

But I think you’ll learn a lot more if you take the approach of “We’re each going to approach 50 women today, and let’s see who can get the most email addresses”. Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.


Hey Dave,

First off, I want to thank you for spreading your wisdom. I bought your book two weeks ago after reading several of your newsletters, and it was the answer to most of my prayers. I’ve gone from dating a girl maybe two women in a year, to dating 3 women at once, all 3 call me every day, and this was before I even bought the book, just from the advice from your emails!! You have definitely “Doubled” my dating!!

My question, one girl in particular I find really attractive and the most challenging (which I like) still has a “Control Freak” boyfriend, with whom I think she’s afraid to break up with. He’s the kind of guy that would threaten to kill himself if she
were to leave him, but basically uses her for sex, and controls most aspects of her life.

Should I just stop talking to her? Or keep bustin her balls about why she’s still with him? Because I find myself feeling some sort of sympathy for her, and its affecting my “cocky and funny” routine (with her at least).

Thanks for your help!!

C. from MD


Let me ask you a question…

Why in the world would you want to be with a woman who has a “suicidal control freak” boyfriend fetish?

When you meet a woman like this, the warning bells should be going off in your head… “Danger Will Robinson, Danger!”

Do yourself a HUGE favor. Find a woman who’s interesting and “challenging” like her that DOESN’T have a psycho neurotic boyfriend… and don’t turn into one.


I just wanted to say thank you, from all the women out here in single land. Out of curiosity, I clicked on a link from (another website) to see what all this great advice was about. just from reading about your “kiss test” I knew you had figured it out. I like being hit on by a confident assertive man. I also like a man who can figure it out that I’m not interested.

Honestly, I will fall over and spread my legs for any man that does the right things whether he’s extremely attractive or not. I would never tell him how to do it. I guess that’s your job. Anyway, like I said, I just wanted to thank you. I personally hope I get hit on in the grocery store by someone who has read your book!




Well, thank you for your letter. I truly appreciate your honesty and directness.

Most men can’t believe that what you’re saying could actually be true, but as we both know, it quite often is.

The interesting thing you say (which I agree with) is:

“I would never tell him how to do it.”


Translation for guys: If you don’t know what you’re doing when it comes to women, LEARN.



I have been reading your articles and from other guys out there trying to improve their macking skills, your articles and tips are on point on how to be a mack with the ladies, but I feel that because of a negative experiences with women in my teenage and college years, really hold me back from being the mack that is inside of me along, now in my mid-twenties, I need to get passed this negative experiences with women, I have no problem talking to women or having a conversation, but i don’t have my own place, my income is very low at this moment, this make it even harder for me, could you give me some advice to get pass this fear that because i have very little now plus the past experience with women in the past, plus I live in nyc where women are into themselves, and a man without his own place, car, and little money are looked at like “why are you talking to me, you have nothing to offer me.”




First of all, YES, there are women who will only talk to you if you have money…


If a woman feels the magical emotion of ATTRACTION, then it matters not how much money you have.

I used to believe that it was probably only guys who had nice cars and lots of cash who got to go out with all the women…

But then, as I got to know more and more guys who were VERY successful with women. I realized that it came down to their personalities more than anything else… including looks, height, money, etc.

In fact, MOST of the guys who I’ve met that are very successful with women aren’t rich at all.

You need to learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION by using your personality. That’s the ticket.


Go download this right now and read it all:

Attraction Book


Hi Dave:

I have been reading your material for a few months now. One of the best things I learned about your work is how to get e-mail addresses and phone numbers from women. I have great success at this point. This has also helped my business. I need help in two areas that involves taking it to the next level. I want to meet a nice girl and settle down. Firstly, how can I figure out which one of these girls is the BEST for me in terms of personality and chemistry. My last relationship lasted a year and a half and did not work because we were always busting each others chops. Secondly, I think there is a point when we just need to stop playing games and be nice to these women… What do you think?



Well, I’m not the relationship expert, so I’m not going to address how you should choose a woman to settle down with…

But I will comment on your question of whether or not there is a point when you should stop “playing games” and “be nice to these women”.

The mind set and techniques that I teach are not my idea of a “short term technique to get laid”. Once you start using the methods, you’ll find that women respond to them on an ONGOING basis. In other words, if you can keep up the charming, Cocky and Funny attitude, it will keep a woman feeling attracted to you FOREVER.

“Nice” is not a word that you want associated with yourself, in my opinion. Women aren’t ATTRACTED to guys who are “nice”.

Be interesting, unpredictable… even thoughtful and original.

But don’t be NICE.

Think about it.


Hi Dave,

Well, let me start with my story. I’m average guy, 22years old. I always had the fear to approach beautiful women. I’m funny by nature, but only with my friends. I’ve totally changed my behavior with women, when I’ve read your book. I now meet women on every step (bar, caffe, library,…), using your C&F approach and a lot of them are in my bed in a week or so. Now the only problem at the moment is, that all of those women want a commitment.

But I would love to be just a “sex-buddy”;). Of course, they don’t want to hear about that. So after first sex, when I try to explain to her, what I want, either she gets mad and I can go ;) or I am the biggest male egoist… bla bla bla.

So, tell me, is there any way to do that with success? Tnx again,

B. from Slovenia


If you’re at that stage where you’d like to use your newly found success to attract only “sex buddies”… and you don’t want the women you date to think of you as their “boyfriend”, then DON’T ACT LIKE ONE.

Don’t call more than once or twice a week. Don’t stay on the phone for more than 5 or 10 minutes. Don’t see her more than once or twice a week.


I know this sounds rather simple, but think about it…

Women are just as interested in sex as men are.

In my experience, if a woman knows that you’re only interested in sex, she’ll be OK with that.

The problems come up when you start calling all the time, seeing her a lot, and acting like you care for her…

At this point a woman starts to become emotionally attached to you. She thinks that you’re becoming her boyfriend.

If you don’t want to be a boyfriend, then don’t act like one!



Your are the man. I have been using your cocky funny method on girls i already know and see the difference in the way they act towards me, they seem to definitely be more interested. My dilemma is that i run out of cocky comments and little jokes. For eg i went to the coffee shop yesterday with one of my buddies and there were two cute girls in front of us who smiled at us when we where in line and i looked back and smiled but i had no idea what to say to them or what to make fun of and they got what they wanted and left. I simply had no idea what funny comment to make.


Here’s the answer…

List the 10 most common situations that you’d find yourself meeting women… and list 10 cocky and funny things to say in each situation.

Next, mentally rehearse each of the comments so you have them ready!

If you are at the stage where Cocky and Funny doesn’t come “naturally”, then you’re going to have to PRACTICE.

Why do Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods make their sports look EASY? Why do they TOTALLY dominate all of the other players around them?

Practice, of course.

Stop trying to create magic from nothing, and start practicing. Practice makes magic.



Because of my job, I am on the road a lot. Lots of times I like to drive with the windows down, music blasting and just taking in the sun. Many times I find myself waiting at a stop light with a good-looking girl waiting next to me. Some of these girls, we make eye contact, others just glance over. Sometimes I’ll drive for miles with the same girl to the side of me. The problem is I never really know what to do next. So I guess my question to you is this:

  1. How do I get her to roll down her window?
  2. Once she does, what should I tell her?

I drive an average car (VW Jetta) so I know they’re not looking at that, but I’m just uncertain how to get her attention.

Thanks for the help.

R. in So Cal


Oh, you can have a lot of fun with this one.

I have a good friend who can’t drive up next to a woman without flirting. He likes to “waggle his eyebrows” at every woman he sees.

Next time you’re next to a cutie, waggle your brows and wave. When she smiles, make the old fashioned motion of rolling down your window to her, and roll down yours.

Finally, take out your cell phone, point to it, and say “What’s your number?”

I’ve done variations of this myself, and had some great fun success with it.


Hey Dave,

You ARE da man! Although I have not purchased the e-book yet, I will soon, as I have seen the magic work firsthand, just from the newsletters I have been getting. Check this out! About a week ago, I send an email to a totally rad chick suggesting that we meet for coffee. I used the movie “You’ve Got Mail” as part of my “schtick”, and although it was “cute” and “funny,” I realized later that it was actually quite “wussy-ish.”

After getting NO REPLY for almost a week, I sent her ANOTHER email, this time busting her balls a bit by saying, “Well I guess my dazzling good looks and wicked sense of humor didn’t catch your fancy, eh?” The response was lightning fast and almost instantaneous!!! She wrote that she had every intention of returning my email, but she was “out of town” blah blah blah, and she would meet me for coffee sometime. I really believe that if I had not sent her that second email, I never would have gotten a reply to the first one.

Here’s the question (and problem): In addition to the “ball busting” in my second email, I also told her I liked her! (a big faux pas, I know, but I never expected a reply!) She had taught a class of which I was a student, and I made a comment like, “Well I’m probably not the first of your students to have a crush on the teacher.

Now that the cat’s out of the bag, how do I diffuse this damaging admission? I already sent her a reply email, in which I poured on the cocky/funny, but I wanted to get your input and hopefully I made the right choice by my reply.

Thanks Dave!

–C.K. San Francisco, CA


lol… the best thing you can do is GO MEET 10 MORE WOMEN!!!


And what are you doing writing to me asking for advice on how to un-screw-up your situation… and you haven’t even read my book? Go to:

Double Your Dating

RIGHT NOW and get it. You are doing great, you just need to get some of the details together.

And as for your teacher, STOP SAYING THAT YOU LIKE HER! And start acting like the Cocky and Funny guy that make her respond to you!


Dear Dave,

I just started receiving your newsletter. And I was just curious about the letters that are coming in. Are these letters from real guys or is it something that ‘s written by your staff just to sell your ebook? I can’t honestly believe a book can really do that much for a guy. I get another newsletter on dating women and this guy doesn’t seem to profess the “cocky” attitude you write about.

Anyway, just to let you know who I am. I am a 50 yr young man. I’m 5’7″ , good shape and health. Have all my hair and teeth. I’m a nice guy but I want to shed that image but not be an asshole if you know what I mean. I don’t want to even tell you how long it’s been since I’ve been laid. Can your book really help a guy like me? I’ve been going on the online dating seen but don’t always see what I want which is a sexy young woman. Also, how young can I acceptably go. Anything you can tell me would be a help.

Sign me,

Not getting enough


I love letters like this one…


I have every one of the originals saved to prove it.

To answer one of your comments of “I can’t believe that a book can really do that much for a guy”…

IT CAN’T. The BOOK isn’t what does it.

It’s a combination of the material in the book and actually TAKING ACTION ON IT AND USING IT.

It’s taken me YEARS of trial and error…trying just about everything under the sun to learn the things that I’ve learned. I really went out there and did the work.

I tried and tested everything I could find…

If you’re reading this right now, and it’s time for YOU to get this part of YOUR life handled, and finally start enjoying the kind of success with women that you’ve only dreamed about it the past, then maybe it’s time for you to TAKE ACTION.

If you’d like to get a behind-the-scenes look into the minds of women, and you’d like to learn the techniques for attracting women and creating ATTRACTION that it’s taken me literally YEARS to figure out, then I’d recommend you go and check out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.

This program is a “condensed education” that has taken me a LONG time to organize, prepare, and create.

Instead of spending years of your OWN time and spending (or rather WASTING) a lot of money… and dealing with the pain of trial-and-error, you can save yourself a LOT of frustration…

This program contains literally HUNDREDS and HUNDREDS of step-by-step techniques for overcoming fears and improving your self image, approaching women, meeting women online, getting dates, and taking things to a “physical level” smoothly and without rejection.

You can check out some great free audio and video clips from it here:

Advanced Series

And if you haven’t downloaded your copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating”, then you need to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes… it’s here:


…and download it now.

And I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo