David DeAngelo - Dating Questions For Men

Out of all of the attractive women you know…how many of them have dated a “jerk”?

For me, the answer is all of them.

Many women SAY they want a “nice” guy…but if you ask her how long she dated the last nice guy she met, she’ll usually say “3 or 4 dates…”

But ask how her how long she dated the last “jerk”, and she’ll often say years… or… “I’m still dating him now!”

Something about these guys leads women to do crazy things. I’ve seen women leave family, friends and careers behind to follow a “jerk” across the country… shutting out everyone who tells her to move on… even her closest friends.

It’s no secret – Jerks are like junk food to women… with “nice” guys being more like health food…

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One of the things that I discuss a lot is the idea of why women feel ATTRACTION for some men while NOT feeling it for others (even though the men that women feel ATTRACTION for might not be good choices for them because they’re abusive, etc.)

If you recall, one of the concepts that I teach goes something like this:

* ATTRACTION isn’t something that is logically chosen.

* ATTRACTION is basically an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to certain cues and behaviors.

One of the things I’ve isolated that seems to cause women to feel this magical ATTRACTION to men is the idea that I call being “Cocky & Funny.”

This is simply using an arrogant style of humor when you’re dealing with attractive women that leads to them feeling the emotion of ATTRACTION for you.

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***SUCCESS STORY***

i love your news letter and i have been reading it for almost a year. i have been with the same girl for nine months because of you dave! i used to the same way about chics, buying them dinners, etc. but once i started applying your techniques i met the love of my life. i drive a piece of crap and i am a broke college student. i played like i didnt care when my girl and i first met before i know it she’s giving me lots of great sex, money, dvd player, clothes, etc. i was cocky and funny but also threw in a little sweetness to catch her off gaurd. Ladies get bored with the same old dates,etc. I did OUTRAGEOUS THINGS IN AND OUT OF THE BEDROOM AND NOW WE ARE PROBABLY GOING TO GET MARRIED LATER ON WHEN I GET OUT OF COLLEGE!

THANKS DAVE! -C   FROM TX

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What’s this you say?

You have a great girl buying YOU things… including clothes, and even DVD players?

Very powerful stuff.

You know, in your letter you mentioned throwing in a “little sweetness” to “catch her off guard.”

I would like to share a little profound revelation:

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***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

You are an awesome teacher. Since using your material (the e-book and the CDs) I have increase my dating life by many-folds. It has become a lot easier to be Cocky and funny; it feels like second nature at this time and a part of my personality.

I have two questions: One, where can I find old newsletters? I save all your newsletters but I accidentally erased about ten of them from my e-mail account. I really would like to re-read some of them but I cannot find them anywhere on the web.

The second question is: What do you do in a situation where you have set up a coffee date with a woman and she blows you off by not showing up? The problem specifically is how do you react when you see this woman again. I work out in a local gym and had asked one of the personal trainers to coffee. However, I was stood up and I see her everyday. Would you respond by ignoring her (which seems childish and behaving in the immature manner she treated me by not respecting me and my time) or by talking to her ( and thereby acting like a spineless wimp) ? Any input would be greatly appreciated.

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***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

I just bought the advanced CD series & it’s amazing what a difference they make over the book. Being able to listen on the way to work, whilst out doing chores, etc. is cool. I can feel the confidence building inside me, it’s like my own personal coach.

The C&F doesn’t come naturally to me at present so I’ve taken your advice and am using the internet as a ‘woman simulator’ in order to practice. I’ve had mixed results so far, I think a few took the teasing the wrong way as some of them would suddenly stop replying.

I must be better at the C&F than I thought though. The first time I went on this site I was chatting to a few girls and one of them ended up giving me her mobile and asking if we could go for coffee before I had chance to.

Anyway my question: You suggest that a date should simply be ‘tea & stimulating conversation’, which for all of the reasons you give makes perfect sense to me. But once I’ve done the tea & conversation with this girl, do you have any suggestions for other dates where I can come across as the ‘lover’ instead of the ‘provider’. The only one where I wouldn’t end up having to shell out (buy her stuff) that I can think of is a walk along the river or something, but that’s rather dependant on the weather.

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