Dealing With Cock Blockers
***QUESTION***
“Dave,
I won’t bore you with more exclamations of how you are the man or how your techniques are the best thing since french ticklers, so let me get right to the success story and a follow up question. Met a sweet young thing at the university I attend.
Went from never having spoken to her at all last semester to having her come sit by me this semester every day because I make her laugh. Sprinkle in lots of “smileys” and “winkey” faces in e-mail, never mentioning her boyfriend, etc. and you see where I’m going. The 19-year old Italian ballet dancer is making pasta for me at her place later this week, and I can’t wait to see what she has in mind for dessert.
The question is not mentioned in your e-mails or in your book (which I did download and which does rock the house). What is, in your experience, the best way to deal with “cock-blockers”.
These are the guys that while you are talking to a girl, even just during the brief one or two minutes, have to jump it at annoyingly high volume with their favorite anecdotal contribution to your humor. It wrecks not only the rhythm but the attention of the target. Obviously bashing him/her isn’t the plan as we’re not here to get into confrontations.
What methods have you found to best deal with this? Let’s assume this is a girl you really want to home in on, so at least until you find out if she is available, “moving on to the next one” isn’t the first option.
I’d also like to mention that while you stress the importance of not using these techniques at work, I would like to stress that a workplace environment is an exceptional place to practice!
Avoid any of the sexual innuendo but be cocky and funny. Find out what works and what doesn’t. Find out what girls in the age group are looking for that month. And so on. Even if you don’t ever get with any of them, they are great “sharpening stones”.
Be cool, D.”
My Comments:
This is a great question, because it actually happens often.
As far as I’m concerned, you have to just be a Jedi.
Your only purpose is to get her email address and phone number.
Don’t worry about anything else.
If someone starts being stupid and distracting, just cut it short, and say “It was nice talking to you, I’m going to get back to my friends and leave you two to chat….
…Hey, do you have email?”
Then just get her email and number right in front of your admiring blocker, and walk away. Take it as a signal that it’s time to get the info and hit the road.
***QUESTION***
“When I ask for the phone number, women often ask “what do you need it for?” Does it mean that they are not interested or I didn’t do the talking well before or they just challenger me? If it’s a challenge, what would be a good response?
Thanks in advance,
S.”
My Comments:
To me this smells like you’re giving off some strange vibes. It’s only a guess (and an educated one), but if women are asking you “What do you need it for?” often, then you’re probably coming off a little strange.
Work on your confident, cocky/funny demeanor. That should help. You must ask in a way that doesn’t say “I’m a wuss and I don’t think you’re going to give it to me”.
By the way, WHAT ARE YOU DOING STARTING OFF WITH ASKING FOR NUMBERS?
Haven’t I ranted and raved enough about how much easier it is to get email addresses, and how much better women reply to emails than calls?
Don’t make me yell at you again in public!
Your Friend,
David DeAngelo