How Often Should You Call?
***QUESTION***
“Hello David! Your cocky/funny strategy works like a charm! Since i’ve been on your email list, the number of messages on my answering machine have been steadily growing. YOU ARE THE MAN! And to tell you the truth, the question I have in mind actually stems off of the; over-the-top-success, of your cocky/funny strategy.
So here it goes:
Im sure every guy who’s ever dated has heard of the infamous “three day rule”…. and to some extremes, the “one week rule” (this rule is so famous im not gonna bother to explain it).
Through my experiences in using your cocky and funny techniques, it creates a VERY LARGE amount of attraction, so much in fact women often call me right after the first date… sometimes it only takes a couple hours. Now from what I understand usually women don’t call after the first date, and usually waits for the guy to call.
But when im in the situation where women call/email me frantically, should I just ignore them and follow the “three day rule”? Or would this give off the unattractive “wussy/desperate vibe”?
M.
Houston, Tx”
>MY COMMENTS:
You’re a very, very, very bad man.
Making those poor women pine away over you for three whole days?
OK, here’s the deal:
When most guys go out with a woman, they do boring things, take her to a boring dinner or movie, act nervous and uncomfortable, kiss up to her, and do all of the things they can possibly do wrong.
If you do these things, you’re going to need to employ things like “the three day rule” and such.
But, if you do what YOU’RE DOING, and treat a woman to a challenging, fun experience of cocky+funny, you’re going to see something interesting happen.
Women are going to start thinking about you… A LOT.
And if you don’t call right away, they’re going to be wondering if you like them, trying to get in touch with you to see if you’re with other women, and all kinds of unexpected things.
Being scarce is a good thing.
If I were you, I’d call her a day after she calls or emails you. That should create sufficient tension and amplify the attraction.
My personal perspective: Don’t call a woman more than two or three times a week, and don’t see her more than once or twice (for the first ten dates or so). It just makes things work out a lot better in my experience.
Your Friend,
David DeAngelo