The Secrets Jerks Use To Attract Women
Out of all of the attractive women you know…how many of them have dated a “jerk”?
For me, the answer is all of them.
Many women SAY they want a “nice” guy…but if you ask her how long she dated the last nice guy she met, she’ll usually say “3 or 4 dates…”
But ask how her how long she dated the last “jerk”, and she’ll often say years… or… “I’m still dating him now!”
Something about these guys leads women to do crazy things. I’ve seen women leave family, friends and careers behind to follow a “jerk” across the country… shutting out everyone who tells her to move on… even her closest friends.
It’s no secret – Jerks are like junk food to women… with “nice” guys being more like health food…
Women try to eat healthy… they want to eat healthy… but when they go to the store they end up leaving with the junk.
So what is it about these guys that makes women so crazy for them?
How do these guys draw women to them… get women to choose them over other guys who seem to be better for them… and make women so addicted to them… and be such dicks at the same time?
Well, here’s the good news:
It isn’t simply the fact that these guys are jerks that draws women their way…
It’s a combination of several important traits and behaviors… and the really good news is that you can learn them and use them to attract women like crazy yourself… without having to be a “jerk” to do it.
I get a lot of emails from guys who read my newsletter that say things like…
“I’m sure what you’re saying is right, but I don’t want to be a jerk or an a**hole to women…”
…or…
“I have seen what you’re talking about happen all my life, but I’m a ‘nice guy’ and I want women to like me for me…”
…and…
“This doesn’t make sense…”
For most of my life, I was the nice guy of nice guys. As a matter of fact, when I first made the decision to learn how to be successful with women, this actually created an obstacle for me.
Let me explain…
Because I believed that “being a nice guy” must be the way to success with women, I ACTUALLY COULDN’T EVEN PERCEIVE ANY OTHER WAY.
In other words, I could see a situation where a woman was attracted to a mean, abusive guy and think to myself that either she must be screwed up in the head, or THAT THE GUY MUST BE REALLY NICE TO HER THE REST OF THE TIME.
As you probably know, it’s hard to convince a person to believe something when they already have a belief about the topic. The person that you’re trying to convince just uses whatever you say to convince themselves that they’re actually right…and you’re wrong.
I did the exact same thing.
No matter how much evidence I found to the contrary, I still somehow believed that being a “nice” guy, buying women flowers and gifts, taking them out, and generally letting them be in control of the relationship HAD to be the way to attract them.
Well, after continuing along the same path and getting the same results, I realized something that literally changed everything for me.
I realized that jerks do, in fact, attract hot women.
Selfish behavior, as unhealthy as this might sound, often makes women feel attracted to you.
Sarcasm, ball busting, playing hard to get and all kinds of other “illogical” things really do work when it comes to attracting women.
But, then I had a dilemma…
I love the idea of being successful with women but, I hate the idea of mistreating people, being mean to them, lying and being misleading, etc.
Deep down, I wanted to be a good guy.
I decided that there must be a way to make this work, and to attract women without being abusive.
The good news is that there is a way.
But, it requires that you put aside your current ideas for just long enough to entertain some new ones.
First, let me say that I believe I’ve found a way to take the things that jerks do to attract women and use them without the abuse. When you learn to do this, you can really have the best of both worlds… you can be nice to women on your own terms, and give them what they really want, and what really attracts them.
So, WHY DO WOMEN BECOME ATTRACTED TO JERKS?
The short answer is that they don’t CHOOSE it, it’s something that just happens.
ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE.
It’s an emotional response to certain things.
Women don’t choose to feel the emotion called attraction for jerks any more than you choose to feel the emotion called attraction for young, beautiful, hard bodied women.
Nature has preprogrammed men with a mechanism that works like this:
SEE HOT WOMEN —> FEEL ATTRACTION
Well, women have a similar mechanism. But I think that the female version is more complex.
Yes, women do feel attraction for extremely handsome men… but they feel a MUCH STRONGER ATTRACTION for certain PERSONALITY TRAITS and BEHAVIORS than they do for physical looks alone.
So, again the short answer is that it’s just something that “happens” inside of a women. She doesn’t “choose” it.
So, what is it about the “jerk” that creates this powerful, uncontrollable attraction inside of women?
Let me answer first by telling you what it’s not:
It’s not the abuse (not usually anyway). I don’t believe that women are attracted to that abusive, mean, negative part of the “jerk personality”.
I think that jerks just happen to also possess several attractive qualities that are so powerful that that they literally make women blind to the abuse… women will rationalize and excuse the abusive behavior because they are so attracted to these other qualities.
Here’s a partial list of what creates that attraction:
- Unpredictable
- Uncontrollable
- Challenging
- Dominant
Of course, there are many more, but this will get us started for this discussion.
The qualities I’ve listed above, when presented correctly, trigger the natural “attraction mechanism” inside of women.
Jerks have taken natural qualities that are attractive to women a little “too far”.
But because they’re still there, the qualities trigger the attraction anyway.
So, what does this mean to you?
Well, the most important thing is that it means you can still be a good guy and attract women at the same time.
You’re probably going to have to learn how to flirt in a different way, become a little more comfortable being challenging to women, etc. But, in the end, you’ll find that this will get you what you want and still allow you to treat women well… all on your own terms.
It also means that instead of being the guy who women talk to about their relationship problems and how their mean jerk boyfriend is being abusive again… you can be the guy who they’re dating and sleeping with!
Yes!
Even though “jerks” and “bad boys” don’t treat women well, doesn’t mean that women don’t feel attraction for them.
In fact, women often report feeling incredibly attracted to these kinds of men… so powerfully, in fact, that they can’t control these feelings…
As I was learning these interesting and “counter intuitive” lessons, I also began documenting the specific things that the guys who were “naturals” with women did…in order to attract women.
One of my biggest realizations was that literally any guy can attract women… if he just understands how attraction works.
And any guy can use the secrets that “jerks” and “bad boys” have discovered and used… without being abusive or mean.
In fact, if you leave out the meanness or abuse, a woman will be far more likely to stay around.
Now, I’d like you to take time to think about what I’ve said here in this newsletter.
Think about how you can cultivate the qualities that I’ve mentioned above into your personality.
See if you can be a little less predictable.
Don’t let outside events or women control you.
Be more of a challenge.
Stop being submissive… and get in touch with that side of you that is more dominant (I said “dominant”, not “domineering”).
This will give you a great head start.
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I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David DeAngelo