Why Chasing Doesn't Work With Women


A lot of guys ask me to “sum up” what I’ve learned about women and dating.

They want a “short course” in how to attract and meet women… and how to do it NOW.

Here are three of the most important “keys” I’ve learned about women and attraction…summarized for you.

1) Attraction isn’t a “conscious” process at all, and if you don’t understand how it works, you could spend your whole life doing the wrong things and getting bad results.

The WORST part about this idea to me is that most guys actually COULD be successful with women… with not that much extra effort in their lives.

But they never will. They’ll just walk through life thinking “Oh, well. Women just aren’t attracted to me. I’m just not the kind of guy that women like. Other guys have a certain something that I lack…” etc.

And the problem isn’t at all THEM, it’s that they just don’t “get it”. They don’t get how and why women are attracted to men. They don’t realize that all the “nice” things they’re doing are only making the problem worse.



I think about those words all the time, and I say them all the time to guys… but every time I think about it I get that “Ah Ha!” feeling… like I just figured out the key to life or something.

2) Most of the things that guys are doing to “pursue” and “seduce” women are actually working AGAINST them.

I always shake my head when I think about how I behaved before I understood how ATTRACTION worked.

I tried SO hard to make women like me.

I called, visited, bought gifts, and basically tried every WUSSY thing I could.

Have you ever heard someone say “I spent my life climbing the ladder of success… only to find out it was leaning against the wrong wall“?

It’s hard to conceive and even ENTERTAIN the thought that buying a woman a gift, telling her how you “feel” about her after you’ve just met her, giving her a lot of compliments, etc. could actually make her RUN away from you.

But it can and does all the time.

But if your mind is wired up like mine used to be, then you’ll just TRY HARDER instead of TRYING SOMETHING NEW.

If what you’re doing isn’t working, then STOP.

And do something DIFFERENT.

To begin with, stop chasing women around, and learn how to ATTRACT them to you. Learn how to use your communication and Body Language to create that very special and magical feeling called “Chemistry” or “Sexual Tension”.

Learn to flirt!

3) Women read into EVERYTHING. They don’t take things at face value… they’re always INTERPRETING.

When I wrote Double Your Dating, I knew that women basically used a sort of “code” to communicate.

But over the past year or two it’s become VERY obvious to me that this idea has more significance than I originally thought.

Men basically say what’s on their mind, and they take what others say literally.

This is why when a woman has a problem, and a man tries to fix it, she says “You’re not listening to me!

One of the biggest realizations that I’ve had in this particular area is that even the same WORD or sentence can mean two TOTALLY different things to a man and a woman.

For instance, if I was out a bar in my “past life”, and I liked the hot bartender that was serving my drink, I might have thought it would be a good idea to tell her that I thought she was attractive and then ask her out on a date.

Well, now I might say to an attractive, sassy bartender something like: “You’re pretty fast with those drinks. Do you do windows too? Nevermind, we’d fight all the time, and this would never work out.



I actually believe that most guys have the NATURAL ability to communicate with attractive women in a way that makes them feel ATTRACTION… but the problem is that they’ve just never “cultivated” that natural ability… and instead culture, their parents, language, and all kinds of other things have hidden and stunted the development of this talent.

Another thing I’ve learned is that I learn a lot by teaching. I really have enjoyed writing all of these newsletters, interacting with all of my subscribers, teaching seminars in L.A. and New York, doing the teleconference trainings… and working on all the other good stuff that’s going to come out in the next few months.

If you’re good with women, I recommend that you find a guy who ISN’T that good, and help him.

I can almost guarantee that you will learn SO MUCH MORE by teaching than you can by doing alone.

And it’s also a very gratifying experience to help other guys learn something that is so important to them.

And if you haven’t read Double Your Dating yet, then go download a copy for yourself. It’s the best introduction to women and dating available, and it will help you get more success and results starting TONIGHT.

Double Your Dating

Go check them out, and I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo